At the age of 8 years old my frenulum (the majority of it) and my foreskin was stripped from me, condemning me to a life where I enjoy sex maybe 35% of what I should.
How do I cope with the fact that I was circumcised in the name of “religion” when my family isn’t even devout Muslims?
How do I direct my anger at anyone knowing that revenge against my family is misguided somewhat as they “didn’t know any better), and any legal action taken against the medical “experts” will result in almost nothing as it was done in Turkey, a country where 98% of males are circumcised?
I understand this is a topic much discussed on subreddits such as this or alt-right subreddits, but I need personal support and answers as reading other threads does not make me feel as if I am included in this struggle.
I want to cry and punch shit, I don’t know if I can ever recover from this fuck my life.
Edit: Thanks guys
A lot of people in this thread helped me achieve a mindset of “it is what it is” and although I feel absolutely devestated that I was mutilated at birth, it was done out of ignorance from my mother rather than malicious intent.
I will continue to take part in intactavism and hope to stop this happening to other people
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Engage yourself in intactivism, even if lightly, that helps a lot AND helps a lot for the next generations to be more likely to be safe from this shit.
Also restoration, look that up /r/foreskin_restoration
Not perfect ofc, but by doing these 2 things, you have the knowledge that you're making the best thing you can do to regain some semblant of a foreskin, to tell people who cut you to go fuck themselves, and to help having less people be cut. Which results in you feeling better about it, albeit it's not perfect, but nothing is.
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I don't know man, that's a subjective thing. Most people who finished restoring will say it was absolutely worth it. Personally I only started 6 months ago and farted around for half of that time, but a week ago I had a slight rollover happening at random and I hadn't felt such a strong, wholesome feeling in years. Circumcision obviously affects you badly, so why not give this a shot ?
Also sorry to say but LDAR all day has an impact on your happiness as a whole too, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. When you learn about circumcision and are upset about it, keep in mind that all your other issues and pain just wrap around that and make it worse, so they have to be addressed to.
Unlike being cut as a kid, you do now have a choice in letting circumcision affect your life negatively, or in using it as a motivation to tell people to go fuck themselves, leave kids alone and suck your restored dick.
There's little compassion or understanding out there, you'll have to realize your best help is yourself, and learn to deal with your emotions through whatever way will fit you best.
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This question pops up all the time in restoration forums and honestly it looks like no one has an actually trustworthy answer. Whenever people ask what the best restoration method is, the answer always is "whatever works best with your time/budget/occupations". The thing is there's not enough data and studying done on comparing these to have a definitive answer.
What we know is, the younger you are the more effective it is, and the more important part isn't how hard you tug, but mostly how long and how frequently/consistently you do it.
Here's a link to the wiki of /r/foreskin_restoration. I recommend manual methods 2 or 3, as you can literally do them right now without material and without giving yourself time to say "I'll check it out later".
Yes but mostly because I cross-tape, since rn I have barely any coverage. You should really look at cross-taping, basically it makes you a fake foreskin in the meantime you're restoring, all while maintaining some pressure on the skin. Helps a lot with getting an idea of what finished restoration could feel like.
That you absolutely do get back yes.
I understand this all too well, like most people on these forums, but please keep in mind you don't want to feel like this and to stop feeling like this you have no choice but to face it head on and restore. Eventually it gives a calming feeling when you know you're doing all that can be done to better this situation.
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Apparently you lose some special nerve endings that are only on the foreskin and have a lower threshold than the other nerves. Meaning some subtler touches you could feel if you had a foreskin, well you won't there.
I still have my frenulum and some torn bits of the frenular delta cuz the moron who cut me didn't bother with them. It doesn't feel anything particular I'd say.
At your age it's perfect to start restoring, do try to also keep a healthy diet and exercise habit, helps with feelings but also with the way your body heals itself.
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any amount of penis taken is too much.
one of my friends is currently in the process of suing the US Navy because he was circumcised at birth in a military hospital. it's unlikely to win, but it can't really hurt to try.
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that's surprising. a lot of men who don't even have their frenulum say that the scar where their frenulum used to be is the most sensitive part of their penis because all of the nerves that were supposed to end in the frenulum are now unnaturally terminated in that scarline.
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it is, tho.
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it's losing 20,000 of the 24,000 erogenous nerve endings in your penis.
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not being snowflake and asking stupid ass questions...cope with...shutup!!!!!
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yeah, those surgical scars are so cute!
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every circumcised penis is left with scars where the part that was above the foreskin got attached to the part that was below the foreskin. see that portion on your shaft where the flesh color changes dramatically? does that look natural to you?
i've watched a hell of a lot of porn and never seen a single circumcised penis without an obvious scar.
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if you want to post pictures, i'd be more than happy to circle the scars for you.
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