... I'll be honest, sometimes I question my commitment to the Men's Rights Movement, but then I see sh*t like this and those doubts vanish

Ladder_To_Nowhere · 2021-05-22T14:16:04+00:00

I have no sympathy for that man. None.

I hope his son is doing well and has positive male influences in his life.

Ahielia · 2021-05-22T14:12:54+00:00

There is monsters everywhere.

Doesn´t matter gender, religion, race, sexual preferences...

But the idea that only men can be monsters is despicable...

Ody_ssey · 2021-05-22T14:21:56+00:00

Male feminists are the big problem.

Ahielia · 2021-05-22T17:24:35+00:00

Full post courtesy of removeddit:

I am in a nightmare of a situation. I lost my wife when my son was 10 years old and my daughter was 16, it was very hard for all of us, My daughter and I were eventually able to move on but my son wasn't able to fully recover from it despite the therapy, I just made sure that I was always there for him and kept reassuring him that I will always be there from him.

I married my wife when my son was 14. My wife has 3 daughters, one is 4 years younger than my son and the other 2 are twins who are 9 years younger than my son. we all get along great as a family with the exception of my wife's oldest daughter who we will call J. She always hated me and my children with a passion that was mostly fueled by her bio father who cheated on her mother. We failed to see it but he was putting all kind of bullshit in J's head and poisoning her against us like how awful people we are, that her mother was the one who cheated and on the other way around, we had no idea about all this at the time.

When my son was 17, J came to us and told us some very disturbing things, that my son was sexually abusing her, she told us very detailed accounts about it. I basically lost it when I learned about all this, she stated that she didn't want to involve the police over this because she was very ashamed about this and didn't want people to know about this, what I did next was very cruel but in my mind it was justified because I thought my son did actually sexually abuse her. My son has my wife's eyes, they are this very unique shade of blue and my son was into learning the guitar when he was 8, he used to play a lot of guitar when his mother passed away, and I bought him a guitar which was the same color as his eyes, he was very grateful for it and its something that he is emotionally attached to, I basically confronted him about it, I was very rough with him and beat him up a little, I then broke the guitar into several pieces while he begged me not to, I also took a necklace he had been given from his mother and all reminders that he had of his mother and kicked him out there and there. When you combine all this with the fact that he still was never to properly move on from his mothers death, I just can't even imagine what he must have been through.

About a week ago, we celebrated my stepdaughters 18th birthday, I was a little bit sad that I never got to celebrate my son's 18 but in my mind there was nothing I could do but I did get a little bit melancholic and I was looking at a photo of my son. My stepdaughter noticed this and basically burst into tears and told her that she had lied about it. She told us that her father had been spreading lies in her head and he told her to do this saying that it would bring her 'cheating mother' back to him.

My entire world just crashed and I have not been in the greatest of states, we have gotten J into therapy (which she had initially refused when we thought she was telling the truth) and are looking at what kind of legal action we can take against my wife's ex.

I just feel like a complete failure of a father, I was supposed to protect my son from these kind of things, I was supposed to guide him and help him at his worst but.... I just..I don't even know what to say.

I called my daughter the day before yesterday to tell her what had happened and she said that she knew and she basically tells me that she didn't believe for a second that my son was capable of what he was accused of and that she and his boyfriend took him in and paid for his college and everything and were there for him, when I asked her to let me talk to my son she flat out refused, she says that she doesn't care if my son and I have a relationship or not, she will not sabotage her brother's trust in her because he had said that he never wanted to talk to any of us ever again. I relent but please ask her to deliver her a message saying that I was extremely sorry for my actions, I also asked her if I she could forward a letter to him from her email account which she said she would consider and hungup. Please reddit can you please help me? I want to be able to have a relationship with my son again and what would ne the best way to approach him without hurting him further.

Bolded parts are my emphasis. Well done for the boy's older sister and her boyfriend in taking him in, and even more so for telling their father (if you can call him that) to fuck off.This guy does not deserve to reunite with these 2 children at all. He took the words of his step daughter without any fucking proof and essentially destroyed his son with it. Now he's remorseful (kind of), and wants things to go back to the way they were.

Ahielia · 2021-05-22T17:10:29+00:00

> this post has been removed by the moderators of r/relationship_advice.

Sounds about right.

Ok_Significance_7038 · 2021-05-22T14:02:51+00:00

This is beyond messed up

Oogaboogayikes · 2021-05-22T14:29:33+00:00

That’s how these people get you from stop supporting men’s rights. They gaslight you, make you feel shitty for supporting men for whatever reason so that you don’t even consider helping men

AG_N · 2021-05-22T16:56:43+00:00

It is deleted... incase someone took a screenshot can they show?

Edit: got it... if you want to see it copy the link and replace 'reddit' with 'removeddit'

Billy-Batdorf · 2021-05-22T16:49:29+00:00

I'm just reeling with disgust; the false accusation, the domestic abuse, the violence, the complete lack of interest in accountability or agency for the girl. At least the girl didn't go to the courts to have the POS authoritarians there rubber stamp an order.

Adanu0 · 2021-05-22T16:36:22+00:00

Wow.

I had an absent father, but I'm not sure which is worse. If I had a father like that, I'm pretty sure I would never forgive him. I never forgave my own father for a number of things in my childhood. I'm an orphan now, but I hope the bastard is being haunted.

Regardless of what the man did, it was /your/ choice to automatically believe her. You never even gave him a chance. The only thing that matters here, now... is asking your sons forgiveness and hope he's more forgiving than I am, because what you did was mental torture.

d_nijmegen · 2021-05-22T14:00:42+00:00

Every life destroyed by this is one too many

Few-Difference1307 · 2021-05-23T13:35:01+00:00

God what a piece of garbage, my Dad abandoned me when I was 8 and he was still somehow a better father than this guy.

only_the_office · 2021-05-22T20:51:50+00:00

That whole sub reads like a soap opera. I’m not sure whether to believe it’s all made up or whether it’s partially true but exaggerated.

omidoggo · 2021-05-22T17:51:53+00:00

Keep in mind it might be fake and prob is

CataclystCloud · 2021-05-23T18:38:26+00:00

same here mate

Title	... I'll be honest, sometimes I question my commitment to the Men's Rights Movement, but then I see sh*t like this and those doubts vanish
Author	Selphia2000
Upvotes	124
Comments	32
Date	May 22, 2021 1:54 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/nij4w9/ill_be_honest_sometimes_i_question_my_commitment/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/ill-be-honest-sometimes-i-question-my-commitment.827772 https://theredarchive.com/post/827772

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