Man abusing fellow Man

fishwish · 2011-01-02T12:26:51+00:00

"So let me get this straight. Brad says he saw me feeling up his girlfriend when she was asleep, yet he didn't wake up the whole house including his girlfriend while beating the shit out of me at that time? How much more proof do you need that he's a liar. I know he doesn't really like me, but this is some pretty low shit to pull. What the hell has this jerk done in his past that he comes up with this shit?"

It might be nice to add examples of him lying and exaggerating before. Do you have any?

Also, since we are dealing with manipulating social interactions, you might find a better answer over at http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/

I'm going to make a stab in the dark here and guess that this guy is a little more socially approved of and you are a little bit awkward. Thus he's trying to up himself in the pecking order by taking you down a notch. Usual high school bullshit.

I hate to say this, but when it comes to society as a whole, they are pretty shallow. Attractive people are more readily believed, and no one trusts the not so attractive. Hit the gym. Buff up your fashion IQ http://www.reddit.com/r/malefashionadvice

P.S. Don't bring it up unless someone else brings it up. It only helps to reinforce the story by repeating it.

pcarvious · 2011-01-02T06:48:03+00:00

Realistically unless you have proof that he made the accusation, and that it didn't happen you can't do anything legally against him.

Right now your best option is to get out of there as quickly as you can. Apply to college away from home, get some distance. You're life is gonna be shit while you're in that community. Also, I would delete your social networking sites and things like that once you're gone. Your reputation cannot be fixed because you say so. There are people that will believe whatever they're told and spread the rumor through whatever means are available including social networking sites like facebook.

Good Luck

Awkward_throw_away · 2011-01-02T06:47:54+00:00

Did you do something that might have pissed him off enough to cause him to lash out like this?

SweepTheLegJohnny · 2011-01-03T01:16:41+00:00

I now fully understand what Men that are falsely accused of rape go through

No. No, you don't.

Being accused of rape in an official investigation is completely different than having a rumor spread around about you in a small community.

XFDRaven · 2011-01-02T06:52:35+00:00

I'm not fully serious about this, but you should go ask /Feminism and /2XC what to do since they're the kinds groups which spawned the rape hysteria.

lestratege · 2011-01-02T08:33:23+00:00

When all your circle is around (or most of it or on Facebook) say that you heard that you've been accused to have felt up his girlfriend and then laugh it out. Add that if you were the kind to feel up passed out women, it would surely not be that girl. Add that her boyfriend must not realise that not everyone is like him and low enough to act like that. And for good measure, add that he is probably covering up what HE did with someone else while she was passed out... wink wink (suspicion is a poison :-)

johnnyleetsauce · 2011-01-02T07:38:31+00:00

Sue him.

cornholiomangus · 2011-01-02T08:26:19+00:00

Move away. It won't get better. Make better friends in the new place.

kloo2yoo · 2011-01-02T13:45:19+00:00

the one thing I can think of is public confrontation: Did he see it himself? then it's his statements against yours, and he's not going to be willing to lose face.

kloo2yoo · 2011-01-02T13:50:34+00:00

it's not about "abusing fellow men" though. It's about him eliminating competition.

fookmyoldboots · 2011-01-02T14:26:58+00:00

my grandad said "it doesn't matter what other people think, as long as you know whats right in your own head"

If that don't work, just torture the guy into a confession.

2011-01-02T14:31:51+00:00

Small towns have the worst bullies, and you can't fight the whole town. Move away, and plot revenge from a distance if you care enough about it.

Toof · 2011-01-02T15:52:59+00:00

I had some kid in High School accuse me of sexually abusing him. He was an attention-seeking Freshman who got his ass kicked by a bunch of upperclassman. I wasn't there, but people said they saw me picking on him at one time, and I wrote a statement about how I didn't like the kid but never hit him. Anywho, three of us spend a night in juvenile hall for hazing (fucking ridiculous) and he runs around school bragging, then the principal calls him in and tells him to cut it out, lest he get's his ass handed to him again and he sputters, "Uh, toof touched my penis and made me touch his."

Yeah, 9 months worth of court and a 2 months of house arrest later and it is behind me. Still some people who hear my name and ask, "Isn't he the guy who stuck his thumb up that kid's ass?" You just gotta live the joke while maintaining your innocence. I usually build up a false scenario of gay sex far in excess of human capabilities before laughing and saying that whole situation was bullshit. If you are the joke, they can only laugh with you.

2011-01-02T15:58:39+00:00

Beat the shit out of that guy.

BalzacOfTheTubes · 2011-01-02T09:48:40+00:00

You've got to carpet-bomb his reputation and hers as well. There can be no mercy. That's just the way it is.

You have to do a very thorough job of discrediting both of them, but mainly him. You owe it to yourself to do a good job of it.

Hit em with all you've got day after day. Follow up again and make sure not a shred of his credibility remains.

Remember, he chose to make an allegation which cannot be disproven which is completely destructive to you. Now it's all about putting your heart into into the payback. It's called a "scorched earth campaign".

Crush his reputation and maybe steal his girl too. That would really drive a stake through him. Once you ground him into the dirt, let her know you're very displeased with her, but she may be able to appease you.

GaryWinston · 2011-01-02T19:22:18+00:00

Move, small towns suck.

Lovekraft · 2011-01-02T21:30:37+00:00

Find a way to confront this guy in person, look him in the eye and as a man, say that if he continues assassinating your character and refused to come clean, then he has left you with no choice than to take matters into your own hands. Let him conclude from that statement whatever he wants. In other words, he sounds like a spineless douche and you have to step up the game.

2011-01-02T15:57:15+00:00

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Grammar-Hitler · 2011-01-02T16:02:34+00:00

IT'S CALLED SUING FOR LIBEL!

moarzors · 2011-01-02T18:35:39+00:00

so sue him, this is America after all

Title	Man abusing fellow Man
Author	tossaway90
Upvotes	29
Comments	59
Date	January 2, 2011 6:38 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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