"Man Up"

bifewova234 · 2022-10-04T18:18:26+00:00

"If you don't behave like X, you're not acting like a man." This is a typical manipulation tactic. Recognize it when you see it to protect yourself from it.

Amazing-Bit6140 · 2022-10-04T19:39:24+00:00

People need men to do work, especially work for them.

Notice how every time someone says "Be a man" it has more to do with changing the relationship of care/effort to go from the man and they're generally whining that the man was expecting that road to go to him at any point in his life.

Prescriptive masculinity is one of the cornerstones of the indoctrination of men.

Break the cycle, use descriptive masculinity.

A man is an adult human male, therefore whatever an adult human male is doing is a masculine thing.

Anything that contradicts this is a component of the societal brainwashing to turn men into mules/cogs to use and should be dismissed and ignored.

_BlueShark87 · 2022-10-04T22:25:36+00:00

Man up is a shaming tactic used by feminists to make you do something.

The_Beardy_Man · 2022-10-04T19:58:29+00:00

"A real man would ..." is like "I'm not racist but ..." - nothing worth listening to follows it.

Fresh_Item_8956 · 2022-10-05T03:14:06+00:00

Others want you to ‘man up’ so it benefits them. Men, it’s okay to stand up for yourself and do your own thing. You don’t owe anyone anything. I mean unless you have kids then please raise them right.

Qantourisc · 2022-10-04T22:01:38+00:00

Just today: be more assertive, it's not attractive to not be assertive.

Way to go self-identified feminist.

HonestSetting1105 · 2022-10-04T18:11:51+00:00

Exactly, I am a very emotional young man and my PE teacher kept telling me to man up and play when I nearly broke my back. I sometimes find it hard to cry because I’m so used to holding it in. Even on my own. And it’s not fair when women cry they are met with sympathy and are “clearly stressed” or “have been abused”. When men cry they are met with shame and disgust. Society is really messed up.

DutchOnionKnight · 2022-10-04T20:43:06+00:00

"Man up", but there is toxic masculinity, but nobody dates a nice guy, but the patriarchy. Make it make sense.

8copiesofbeemovie · 2022-10-04T20:36:14+00:00

I know people will hate this, but the “be a man” “men shouldn’t show emotion” “men can’t cry” etc is literally toxic masculinity. There’s not just one way to be a man, there are many, and your masculinity is NOT contingent on your level of emotion, emotional intelligence, sensitivity, or frequency of crying. You’re a man if you feel like a man. Society trying to define your manhood can go eat a big fat butt 🖕🖕🖕

KazukiYahashi · 2022-10-05T09:22:29+00:00

Why is it that today to "be a man" you should be emotionless and not cry, when in 20th century and before, it was okay for men to express their emotions like crying for their fallen friends in middle-ages etc.

I would really enjoy sources on that. Feminists claim that the patriarchy is why men aren’t allowed to show their emotions and do what’s natural. Because if what you said about before is indeed true, then that completely destroys their “patriarchy” arguement.

KingMaegorTheCool · 2022-10-05T10:30:31+00:00

Yeah, toxic masculinity is a bitch

chiliwicket · 2022-10-04T19:39:25+00:00

It probably came about around the time of the two world wars. Men had to Man Up.

But I have to admit, I'm a man in my 40s and it drives me fucking crazy when I see the junior hockey team lose the gold medal game and cry like a bunch of babies. That shit has never happened before. Guys used to take a frozen puck in the face at 90 miles an hour, no helmet, and keep playing like nothing happened. Now they cry like little bitches if they twist their ankles. New men are not very manly.

I guess I'm part of the problem, but I usually keep it to myself.

Fuckadminstohell · 2022-10-05T04:24:46+00:00

It has more to do with now is not an appropriate time to show emotions.

Black-Patrick · 2022-10-04T21:20:42+00:00

Man up refers to mastering your emotions, not bottling them up, unless you are using the feminist definition.

Title	"Man Up"
Author	Popcorn_The_Master
Upvotes	67
Comments	28
Date	October 4, 2022 5:58 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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