I post here as a feminist, not to troll but to try to get it. I suspect I may get banned for posting this, but I'm not naming names, just sharing some replies to posts I've written as a feminist. I want to gauge how representative some of these sentiments are of MRA as a whole. To me a lot of this stuff just seems like misogyny dressed up as "Men's Rights". (Have tried to preserve context as much as possible, please mod delete if not appropriate)
Okay here we go....
"Women have had people be murdered by lynch mobs rather than admit to lying about sex."
"Feminism tries to pit white men against their brothers; by providing them with a victim narrative."
"Women almost universally mostly look for reason/way not to do it if they can have someone else do it for them."
"I would assume that any woman who isn't taking birth control and knows that their partner doesn't want children are doing it maliciously."
"Your (pregnancy) accident is your problem. You can go and abort...stop victim blaming, feminist! And stop expecting, because you have no grounds or right to expect anything from us."
""wife beaters" are like bigfoot, ghosts, the loch ness monster or alien abductions - persistent myths for which zero concrete evidence exists. These myths are perpetuated by wild stories the manic tellers of which insist must be believed."
"I don't think that anyone should validate the cancerous left leanings of the feminist organizations that seek to destroy men".
"Women are responsible for the majority of child murders, child abuse and intimate partner abuse."
"If you factor in IPV-related suicides, more men than women die from intimate partner violence."
"Rational voices from feminists are never heard..."
"The only reason it's "a man's world," is that mother nature and the laws of physics do not give a shit about your feelings. The only thing preventing women from entering it, is their inability to suppress their emotions and think systematically."
"You spend a raging fuck ton of time in here picking fights. Maybe you need a new hobby?"
"You are not entitled to results of (men's) work: money and assets. Those must be treated just as much of our castle, as your vagina is treated as your castle nowadays. Want those sweet dollars? You know, there's that thing called "working" "
"The things you believe about all men and all women are just mirages, fever dreams, projections. You are violent, and i would rather you were jail someplace instead of spewing your anti male nonsense all over the internet."
"You're a trollish dickwad, man. That's why no one can stand your crap".
"Regarding DV women perpetrate half of physical DV and over one third of DV serious injuries. We just want equal protection and equal recognition for male victims even if they’re the minority of DV homicides."
"If you think feminism can be saved you are either completely naive to what feminists actually believe or you are an idiot on damage control trying to be an apologist for the movement and I've had enough of that crap."
"We are not women. Its about always forcing consequences, for our benefit. Outcome always justifies the means."
"...the lack of father figures is caused by feminist activism and glorification of single motherhood."
"If someone put their hands on me in aggression, I will put them down as fast and hard as I can ... I don't care what is between their legs"
"Most partner murders are done by men, but we've explained to you how that is a result of strength differences in mutually violent confrontations."
"... if it wasn't for feminists MRAs wouldn't even really exist as an entity because it is due to their lobbying and policies that things have gotten so bad for men in the first place."
"You're an intentionally antagonistic asshole, running around picking fights for fun."
" ...the feminist desire for freedom from gender comes principally from women's tendencies toward hysteria. Hysterical women become deeply questioning about gender because of discomforts around their genitalia and how that relates to things like penis envy ... so you get these weird feminist ideas that make zero sense."
"We’re clearly talking about domestic violence, so stop playing stupid ... I’m not doing your homework for you. Get off your dishonest, lazy ass and go learn"
"Women want men mostly for resources."
"So, I guess I should just enable her to beat me with inpunity because she has vagina? Well fuck off. Try to hit me, and I'll take your life."
"You're engaged in utter blank slate idiocy ... women end up dead more often in violent fights with men, men are stronger...feminist outrage (means that when) women lose violent assaults they ... call in state violence to back up violent women rather than approach the situation more rationally and in a balanced manner."
"women attacking their partner is the most dangerous thing ...men suddenly find themselves under assault with no preparation or instruction on how to handle that situation, and half the time they do the natural thing, they fight back. Then the woman gets injured or dies...What about this aren't you getting? "Feels bad" is not a substitute for facts ... shut the fuck up with your anti-male nonsense. You're hurting innocent men, and leading to more dead women with your inane feminist bullshit."
"It will always be the case that women die more in IPV because men are physically stronger. Nothing will change that. But there would be less deaths if the MRM were listened to rather than feminists... have to give up is your emotional high from hating men and feeling superior to them."
"your opinion has no value, sorry. We work based on OUR opinions, not yours."
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However I've had some really constructive exchanges as well. And I admit I'm not showing posts that prompted the above. Mostly I was trying to assert that it's just not true that women are "just as violent" or "equally violently" or "MORE violent" in DV context.
I acknowledge that way more men than women are homicide victims in general. And I wish MRAs could do more about this: I am passionately onside with men demanding that homicide rates and suicide rates be given the attention they deserve.
But instead so many men on this sub spend so much time complaining about how they're menaced by female DV.
Amanda Heard etc.
I'm not saying men can't be abused by women but I can't help it - it upsets me quite seriously that so many guys are so callously minimizing the live-or-die seriousness of this issue for women!
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Guess what? I understand perfectly. My first husband - who was violent- ruined my life with his protracted malicious and unnecessary custody dispute. He managed to get total custody of our only daughter for two years on UTTER BULLSHIT accusations. I'm not going into the details- it would take all day. And I've never mentioned it before because I am a woman. No one believes a woman loses her kid for no good reason. I've been to ashamed to post about it for this reason. I almost hesitate to mention this but my mother was precipated into a dreadful depressive episode by the loss of her only grandchild. She was ashamed too. She committed suicide 7 years ago. My academic career went down the tubes because all my savings went on lawyers who were useless, and in the end I had to represent myself. I got my daughter back in shared care until she was 13. Then my ex stopped bringing her for court ordered visits because he couldn't be arsed having to pay me the higher rate of child support he was supposed to since he'd been given a huge raise. He succeeded in making my daughter reject me totally for about 18 months. Happily she got over it - the relationship I have with her now is my only reason for living. I'm nearly 47, I worked fucking hard to get my doctorate, I was a good mother, his violence drove us out of the home, his malice ruined my life and killed my mother. That's all I've got to say on the subject.
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You’ve previously stated that your daughter’s father wasn’t violent and that it was your most recent ex boyfriend. So which is it?
I also know from reading posts in your past that you have drug and alcohol problems that probably contributed you not having your daughter (I assume this because mothers are awarded custody in 80% of cases).
We should probably( I know I will be ) ignore all of your posts from here on out.
Cheers
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You’ve admitted to being a female abuser - to have initiated violence against several partners of yours. I don’t think your kid was removed from your care because of false accusations. There are countless stories of judges granting the custody of a child to a physically abusive mother who ends up killing her child (the majority of child murderers are female) despite the warnings of the father. The judge did well and tried to avoid this tragic scenario.
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I never married - and won't ever marry, and I never called my ex a slut. The only reason they gave you an apology is because you're a woman, thousands of fathers have known the same fate and yet never received an apology.
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That data is old. In my country over 70 % of people convicted for infanticide over the last 20 years are women, I have no doubt there is a similar pattern in the US.
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https://www.20minutes.fr/societe/2158023-20171025-pourquoi-meurtres-enfants-majoritairement-commis-femmes
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The vast majority of the comments you quoted don’t contain any kind of misogyny whatsoever.
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