right, ill keep this as short as possible. my exgirlfriend abused me, physically hitting me and emotionally she had (has) issues. after much abuse police calls from her accusing me of shit i finally grew a set and told her to do one go me. tonight, she has hit the final nail in the coffin so to speak. she text me starting an argument. i got pissed off with her cus i have asked her so many times in the last 2-3weeks to leave me alone. she has been stalking my friends and colleagues and family on facebook, twitter probs even here on reddit. contacting them saying 'he did horrific things to me' and 'no one knows what he is capable of' first off the only time i ever laid hands on her was to push her away from me when she came at me once most of the time i just stood or sat there and took it. as a result of that one push she fell over and hit her arm on a table and got a bruise about the size of a 10pence piece.. roughly the size of a quarter for americans (i think) i was given a police caution for that for assault :/ anyway i digress, tonight she started an argument with me, then through some clever (got to hand it to her really) manipulation of texts and saying only certain things over the phone i put her on loud speaker for my roommate to hear too. she called the police again saying im harrassing her and she doesnt want me to talk to her. the police have said that if i or her contact each other again the 'offender' will be arrested and prosecuted for harrassment. but again shes got the police on her side. i admit i wasnt perfect for our relationship but i never cheated on her or did anything untoward.. she did... she abused me.. i cannot stress how much she has broke me, my confidence, im constantly anxious, im scared to go out by myself unless i really have to. i have recently been talking to a girl at work nothing serious just talking to her and my ex has been messaging this girl on facebook shes driving all my friends and even my family away from me. my best friend from school doesnt talk to me anymore because of her making me feel bad for making plans with him n stuff n making me cancel them at the last minute n stopping me from going to see him or talking to him on skype playing video games with him and i know he reddits, Matt if you see this its Andy, please call me dude. wtf can i do?

any advice would be much appreciated or just words of support.

TL;DR exgf completely screwed me over in relationship and continues to screw me over out of relationship with friends family police and work.

as for grammar and spelling i really dont care right now to be honest im shaking with anger as im writing this

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Edit for update on situation.

She got in contact with another colleague of mine... today...

coming down on her like a ton of bricks.

police coming to my house in a couple of hours will update again afterwards to let you guys know whats going on again. thanks for all the support and advice guys.

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so another quick edit if people have been following this, I know its not a huge thread but it's important to me.

The colleague my ex contacted screen snapped the message she had sent and sent it to me as a text message, i showed the officers this they read it, then they asked me a few questions about my ex as a person and how she was during the relationship. They couldn't believe half the stuff I told them but none the less they told me they were going to go to her house and have a few very stern words with her and give her a warning that lasts 6 months. If she contacts me my family, friends or colleagues spewing bullshit at them again about me she will be arrested. The officers (who were 2 women actually... not that it matters) were shocked that it was less than 24hours that she made the original complaint against me. And they gave me a list of contact numbers for counsellors and people I can talk to about the relationship to try and sort myself out get my self back on track and get back to being the old me.

Thanks again guys I guess this will be the end of it now, I kinda hope she does something stupid again I might be spiteful but I really wish she does just so I can get a bit of justice for everything she has ever done to me.

Thanks again for all the support and advice

ARcombo89