Real Men Do Apologize

crapnovelist · 2010-09-26T00:20:20+00:00

This actually seems like a fairly reasonable article. I think the "Real Men" title is just a hook, as if to say "In reality, men do apologize." Nowhere in the body-text of the article is the phrase real-men used.

Harpsichord · 2010-09-25T15:49:49+00:00

Newly published research finds men are as willing as women to apologize. But they’re less likely to believe a particular incident warrants contrition.

melb22 · 2010-09-26T01:06:19+00:00

Women are more likely to perceive slights - often from other women. This is where it helps to accept sex distinctions. As a husband, when your wife has had a falling out with a female friend over something that appears trivial to you, it would be more maddening than it needs to be if you expected women to behave just like men.

Sarcasticus · 2010-09-25T18:13:14+00:00

Anytime someone says, "Real men do x," it's just another attempt to control men.

e.g. Real men mow the lawn. Real men pay alimony. etc.

When's the last time you heard, "Real men drink beer and watch football on Sunday!"

shady8x · 2010-09-25T23:09:46+00:00

Wow, I now realize how crazy I am. I mean, I have seen so many imaginary men in my life...

Seriously WTF does real men mean? all men? or the men you want all men to be like?

thetrollking · 2010-09-25T17:31:19+00:00

So if a guy doesn't apologize does that mean he's not real?

ThrustVectoring · 2010-09-25T19:55:09+00:00

Men and women unwittingly disagree at an earlier stage in the process: identifying whether or not a transgression has occurred.

It seems like this is another aspect of the risk-taking divide between the sexes, where women don't gain a reproductive advantage from multiple sexual partners while men do. Not apologizing for a trivial slight is safer, since you are less likely to antagonize a rival, but is a distinctly non-dominant behavior. Dominant behavior more often leads to multiple mates, so evolutionarily speaking, slightly ruder men tend to have more children.

Its the same reason why men are bigger and stronger than women, basically.

Sarstan · 2010-09-26T01:31:33+00:00

I know I don't apologize for too many things. Frankly most shit is so petty that why should you bother doing so? I also figure when I do say sorry, it's for something that I really did mess up on, and I know it, and I regret it. Not a passing by "Oh, I'm sorry" and then hop, skip, and jump my way away with a smile.

webdevsf · 2010-09-26T02:16:46+00:00

AMA Request: Guy who references this article in an argument with their wife/gf.

2010-09-26T14:48:42+00:00

I think in this context, "real men" = "if you are not this type of man, then you are wrong".

mxxz · 2010-09-25T18:04:20+00:00

I think the title should read. Women causes more apology warranting offenses than Men

thetrollking · 2010-09-25T17:30:43+00:00

Are women really more likely to apologize? Fuck, we can look at it another way. Women are more likely to do dumb shit and horrible back stabbing shit that needs an apology. Fuck you researchers, stop trying to change men. I really wonder if feminism isn't one giant collective nagging by women. The same way they always try to change you in a relationship and turn you into someone they aren't attracted to anymore.

Women are the tool the state uses to oppress men.

Marriage is Retirement for women!

2010-09-25T19:49:04+00:00

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HQR3 · 2010-09-26T12:39:27+00:00

Bottom line is that women are upset by (and thus, apologize for) more petty shit than men do. This is symptomatic of any privileged class: truly minor stuff ticks them off. But it is not biological. Women who have to struggle as hard as men, from societies that do not cuddle them, would find the complaints of Western women just as trivial and insignificant as Western men do.

Bingsby · 2010-09-25T17:30:27+00:00

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Title	Real Men Do Apologize
Author	Harpsichord
Upvotes	37
Comments	39
Date	September 25, 2010 3:49 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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