Socialising

walterwallcarpet · 2024-07-20T11:19:38+00:00

It's a feminist pincer movement. Men have been disadvantaged in the employment market, thereby downgrading or removing their main asset in the sexual marketplace, a job. https://assets.csom.umn.edu/assets/71503.pdf

Put this alongside draconian 'sexual harassment' legislation, where it's possible to fall foul of the law simply by making eye contact with m'lady. https://www.mylondon.news/lifestyle/travel/new-london-underground-signs-warning-23236732

They WANT us to be afraid, with our status reduced, and eyes steeply averted, lest we cause offence by the male gaze.

This madness will surely pass. The pendulum will swing back. Otherwise, society crumbles.

Jaded-Help1860 · 2024-07-20T15:33:49+00:00

Perhaps my answer won’t work here, but I have done the opposite — I have deleted all of my social media and mind my own business. I have always been the quiet person. I am studying for a few jobs and I spend all my day without any friends or a girlfriend. Not that I don’t want one, but peace is beautiful. I tried socialising; it always backfired. The ones I confided in, betrayed me. The ones I didn’t want to be around, assaulted me. Every time I tried being the part of a conversation during lunch break in school, at least one guy would tell me to keep my mouth shut. Even amid the crowd I used to feel lonely. So I pulled the plug on my relationship with society. I have been compared to others enough. Misandry is also spreading like cancer each day and social media showed me my place as well. I’m better off alone.

In short, I opted for the path which is technically the easiest but also the most taxing and least used by most — almost complete isolation.

pilotIet · 2024-07-20T10:25:33+00:00

I have never had misandry problems with other men. Of course, there is always the competition between friends and the good vibes of fighting "friendly".

But if you mean socializing with women, well, that's another topic.

IGotAFatRooster · 2024-07-20T12:39:00+00:00

Generally avoid women unless they present themselves as women I would want to engage with. Their perceived physical beauty has no impact on this.

independance_soft1 · 2024-07-20T11:20:51+00:00

What can you do?

No risks, no rewards 🤷‍♂️

Imaginary-Comfort712 · 2024-07-20T11:34:27+00:00

I was once accused of molesting a handicapped woman I was responsible for on behalf of a court (I worked as a legal guardian for 20 years). She "confided" with a female social worker in her Workshop for the Disabled. The workshop sent a letter to the court accusing me of molesting that woman demanding that someone else should be responsible for her - without giving any details (because they had "promised" to do so) and up to this day I don't really know what the word "molesting" was supposed to mean, but in male/female context it sounds very alarming. After a hearing at court with that woman and me the judge (a woman) thought that this was nonsense, also because that woman didn't utter any accusations and even said that she is fine if I am still responsible for here. As a consequence the Workshop sent again a letter to the court stating that that woman was probably felt intimidated during the hearing. The court sent me that letter and I had to justify myself again, this time in a written form. I used the opportunity to respond to the letter directly to the Workshop (I somehow implied that the court had asked me to respond to them as well). I sent that fax to the (male) boss of the Workshop and I got invited for a conversation with all the people involved (that woman, the social worker, her supervisor and the the boss of the Workshop. I also took a female colleague with me who was very supportive. Somehow the big boss didn't find the whole thing very convincing either and there again that "molested" woman didn't utter any accusations and really had no reason to feel intimidated. So finally the Workshop sent a letter to the Court that all this was a big "misunderstanding". I was announced to me as that, I never saw that letter and never heard back about it from Court. I remained her legal guardian for about 10 years after that until she married and moved to another city. I know the whole story is kind of off-topic. Just felt good to right it down - for the very first time. Anyway, this has persistently changed my view on things and I've never had the same carelessness as before. The only good thing is, that also women came to my rescue. I am even not sure if a male judge wouldn't have been worse. They have this "woman protector gene" and not much solidarity with fellow men. And the boss at the Workshop was also rather concerned about the image of his institution at Court than about me. No word of regret or so. So, I was very lucky and I would most certainly have lost everything if that woman had said anything to the judge about me molesting her. I damn sure, I wouldn't have had a chance. I am gay, and actually quite a lot of people notice that, so maybe that helped as well. But back to the question. I can only advise you to be super careful and it's probably for your own good that you are not the same guy anymore. I don't know what I did to this social worker. I had met her before and I think I just didn't give her the attention she wanted and she felt overlooked. I am still clueless (I also said this to the judge, even though it sounds weird). Okay, so much text and no good answer. I think I abused your post. I am sorry.

Title	Socialising
Author	Former-Dragonfly2226
Upvotes	67
Comments	19
Date	July 20, 2024 10:14 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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