What challenges do men face that often go unnoticed?

63daddy · 2024-12-30T18:39:20+00:00

A huge one to me is the discrimination against boys in education which negatively impacts a huge number of males and has all sorts of related issues. Even many who work in education seem unaware that we actually passed legislation, encouraging K-12 education to focus on girls (to the detriment of boys), so I think that’s very unnoticed.

Related we have many practices ranging from Affirmative action for women to women owned business advantages to VAWA to harsher sentencing for male criminals to healthcare biases that many people have heard of yet somehow people seem to fail to recognize such biases are challenges men face as you put it.

So overall, discrimination against men generally goes unnoticed. Sadly, it’s not limited to just a couple small things.

calmly86 · 2024-12-30T23:39:23+00:00

I don’t think it goes completely unnoticed, but the challenge of being expected to be able to financially support not only yourself but from one to three or four other dependents, some of whom may not even be biologically related to said man, is an expectation that is thrust upon men as if were something anyone could do.

JettandTheo · 2024-12-30T19:50:39+00:00

Being anywhere near children and Karen's want to call the police. My job is one of the few that can say hi to children on my route, or wave. But if I go to a playground on the weekend it needs to be fully empty before I dare to use a swing.

Had a woman call the manager and wanted the cops because I was near her kid twice at a Walmart.

Trick_Definition_760 · 2024-12-31T00:25:05+00:00

Abuse against men is rarely taken seriously - and in some cases/jurisdictions is not even legally recognized. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/238509810_The_case_against_the_role_of_gender_in_intimate_partner_violence

In some jurisdictions, male victims of rape are required to pay child support if their rapist gets pregnant. https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/talking-about-trauma/201902/when-male-rape-victims-are-accountable-for-child-support

The first link in particular is a very good paper from a Canadian professor.

Inglorias · 2024-12-30T18:50:02+00:00

Parenthood.

-WideEyedFox- · 2024-12-31T00:59:46+00:00

Women want equal pay without doing an equal amount of work. Men literally subsidise the corporate world by way of DEI policies that will in turn put them out of work.

The rampant misandry in the media and online that continually goes unchecked, and is often promoted by other women. You don’t fix sexism with more sexism.

The take over of the academic institutions by women teachers who offer no positive role models to young boys, resulting in poor academic outcomes as the curriculum and delivery methods are tailored toward girls.

The fact that from a young age, girls are conditioned to know exactly what to expect from a man, but not how to treat him. While boys are conditioned on how to treat a girl but to endure whatever treatment he gets in return, in silence.

The medical and emergency services are not only woefully ill equipped but lack the skills and empathy to support men in any domestic abuse or domestic violence situation.

The majority of mental health professionals are women, who are also ill equipped to support men as the majority of psychological literature is focussed on female perspectives.

The legal system in any marital breakdown favours women, leaving men trapped or destitute if they try and move on,

Women taking the C Suite roles by DEI hiring practices rather than merit leaves men unable to progress in their careers to support a family. They are treated as a consumable in the marketplace, while women are seen as an opportunity.

Corporations have female only working parties that act as single sex unions, ensuring a more pro-woman working environment.

A woman gets to choose if she wants to be a mother, and is supported wholeheartedly for it, irrespective of choice. A father gets no such choice, and if they leave are expected to pay support.

A man will be expected to give up his seat, open the door, change a tyre, even put his life on the line for a woman. Yet that same woman will promote misandry from her home built by men, using infrastructure maintained by men, and still go out the next day and expect more.

Statistically children raised by single mothers have lower IQs and poorer emotional regulation. Yet single motherhood is promoted as a badge of honour, with women giving advice on how to get more from their ex partner(s).

While the data now confirms women are in fact the same or more likely to cheat. That women do commit a high level of domestic abuse and violence, search engines and media still favour a narrative that paints the woman as the victim and the man the aggressor.

It’s late… these are just a few off the top of my head.

Lonewolf_087 · 2024-12-31T05:05:42+00:00

Abandonment due to declining health. A lot of men the end is when they get sick and the woman leaves. And he’s left with basically nobody.

EfficientArticle4253 · 2024-12-30T21:25:48+00:00

For me personally, I was bullied by white women (via guys who would have otherwise left me alone) for my early life until I fought back - which led to its own type of problems.

When I got older those same women told me how privileged I was and how they feel unsafe

ElisaSKy · 2024-12-30T22:16:36+00:00

Here's some not-so-fun-fact:

The trauma of female on male sexual assault has been studied, and it has some responses in common to other trauma, and other specific to sexual abuse.

Increased tendency for drug abutse (common)

Increased propensity towards other reckless behaviour (common)

Difficulty making intilmate connection intimate and/or fear of intimacy (SA specific)

Hypersexual behavior (SA specific)

Higher rates of promiscuity (SA specific)

Here's another not-so-fun-fact:

What's the guy everyone warns their daughters/sisters about?

The hypersexual, promiscuous guy who can fuck you without feeling any intimacy, who may even fear intimacy.

Here's another not-so-fun-fact:

What is teh stereotype of the male sexuality?

Hypersexual, promiscuous and low on emotional intimacy during sex and/or with sexual partners, possibly being afraid of intimacy.

And now that I've put that on the table, you'll never unsee it.

Ok-Yogurtcloset7394 · 2024-12-31T04:04:24+00:00

forced sacrafices and being expected to just endure in a broad sense. Thats the broadest answer that comes to my mind and it applies to pretty much ever sector of a mans life from work to relationships.

If you want something more specific it's probably best to understand where this comes from. Men are raised to be soldiers. they had to be since women were more valuable for repredocution. So if you were to send anyone to the frontlines it would be men and that is somewhat justified due to the biological reasoning behind it. at least it used to be and only to the extent that war is justifiable of course.

With that comes the need to raise men in a way to be capable of violence, competetive and obedient/loyal to their own country. These qualities have been enforced through countless sterotypes throughout the upbringing of boys. To this day these qualities are still being enforced although I doubt it's happening purposefully.

Nowadays the focus is on women through feminism which funnily reflects the same old ladies first priority that existed even back then. Men's struggles are not acknowledged and we lack awareness of them to the point where we as a society have forgotten that all the injustices women face are actually consequnces of the questionable way we raise men. Afterall the way women are raised is deeply questioned by now. Feminism initially did the right thing but it should have happened for both genders.

It creates many hardly seen injustices. If you are interested in those check out the pinned comment in this sub "men are vulnerable". It's a wonderfull collection of data that focus on the injustices men face which many people have no idea about.

VillageBelle · 2024-12-31T05:01:35+00:00

I'm not a man but I guess the biggest challenge men go through is everyone thinking that they are immortal and contain any hurt. You'll hear people say to a man "you're a man, you can handle this. Act like a man"

Don't men have feelings and emotions too just like us the women?

Bokoman91 · 2024-12-31T04:12:51+00:00

everyday task provide something useful to be loved otherwise is gameover

JotaD21 · 2024-12-30T18:51:16+00:00

It's not inherently a man problem but I'm a firm believer both sides suffer from objectification in different ways

While women are only reduced to their birth capacities, men are only reduced to their physical work capacities

Lets_Remain_Logical · 2024-12-31T00:18:38+00:00

Existential loneliness!

Pleasure23Principle · 2024-12-31T16:39:02+00:00

Emotional expression, Mental Health Stigma and risk of embracing a toxic masculitnity approach to life. That's my take!

Rhbgrb · 2024-12-31T02:00:23+00:00

Since entering education, I feel the education system is very unfair to boys.

Clear_Lawyer_3248 · 2024-12-31T01:30:24+00:00

If a man wants to sit in men he's judged.

Title	What challenges do men face that often go unnoticed?
Author	JanaStunners
Upvotes	84
Comments	36
Date	December 30, 2024 5:36 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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