Have you ever unknowingly or knowingly alpha widowed a woman? How'd that turn out?

DOSGAMES · 2020-05-12T17:42:51+00:00

I don’t know if i alpha widowed her but I called things off with a girl I was sleeping with who was deeply in love with me.

She was under my thumb, I could do no wrong, she bent over backwards to get a chance to see me, even when I offered no commitment and was upfront about my upcoming move out of state.

I had to end it because her facade was beginning to crumble. It was obvious how much the situationship was hurting her.

Also, the power dynamics where way too lopsided. I want someone to contend with, to compliment my life, not a peon that worships me.

Also, she was incapable of being honest towards the end, she would say anything to maintain some sort of relationship, including lies.

I really hope she feels better and finds someone. I felt really shitty about it. I had to ignore her attempts to contact me for over a year. I still don’t think she’s moved on.

Zippo-Cat · 2020-05-12T17:31:28+00:00

You can't possibly believe there are any alpha males on PPD?

passepar2t · 2020-05-12T17:59:36+00:00

A girl with whom I had an international fling occasionally emailed me saying she was thinking of me and that she hadn't met a guy like me before. She also acknowledged that she shouldn't be telling me that.

Edit: here's a snippet of one email -

"I would like also to admit that in the last few weeks, I restrained myself to send you emails, foolish ones with for example translations of songs which make me think about you. You're very busy these days (I understand more than usual, if possible) and I don't want to disturb you. But I just want you to know that, even if I know it's better for both of us to move on, you're still here in my thoughts, deeply inscribed, and I think for long."

<3 <3 <3
I still miss her sometimes.

Tyler_Gatsby · 2020-05-12T18:31:11+00:00

Accidentally, and this is why I don't agree to being FWB anymore, or "just playing" unless she's married, or slutty enough I think she can take it, or has broken hearts enough she may deserve it if I do, "hurt her."

Last one made me feel horrible, and I quit sleeping with women for a long time I felt so bad.

Barneysparky · 2020-05-12T17:48:01+00:00

You are asking about something that is just a cope. Does girl leave you then finds someone else? The red pill says she's still thinking of you.

I met my husband when I was 30 after dating a lot of quality guys who were not right for me and a teen marriage. When women fall in love they don't see any other man, 20 years now and he is my dream boat.

InternalOperator1 · 2020-05-12T17:41:29+00:00

I personally have alpha widowed over a thousand women, which is why I am on PPD.

TheJim66 · 2020-05-12T17:44:40+00:00

Yeah, honestly I don't feel good about it but there is nothing you can do .

I broke it off because I didn't want to marry or have an LTR at that time. Timing is important.

12112019 · 2020-05-13T01:49:52+00:00

Unknowingly, that felt like shit, I am never doing that again.

OXOzymandias · 2020-05-12T17:38:27+00:00

Once a woman told me i rocked her world, but i am sure she is living fine today, strong chance she doesnt even think about me...

Jakes1967 · 2020-05-12T19:23:34+00:00

Have you ever unknowingly or knowingly alpha widowed a woman? How'd that turn out?

Complicated story, but yes I unknowingly did that with two married and one single woman.

I'm no "Alpha", I just don't take crap and have an A type personality. I also seem to have some quality (?), that brings out the motherly instinct in women, irrespective of age - I absolutely have no clue what it is or how it works.

Had two married female friends who bonded with me, no I never slept with them, not that they didn't try, I just don't step over that line. We were extremely close platonic friends (so I thought), turns out that they grew feelings - I got married and later moved countries.

Had another woman, whom I mentored, chasing after me, so much so, that she got transferred to a different unit, after my wife complained repeatedly.

Recently got in touch with them again via social media. The two married women have gotten divorced, both remarried to the most beta guys I've ever met (they actually do the toenail polish thing for their wives). The single woman is in a LTR, but doesn't want to get married.

All three confessed their feelings and that they're willing to try a relationship, leading to marriage, anytime I'm ready and on any conditions I set. WTF?

DaphneDK42 · 2020-05-13T12:09:57+00:00

I've been with women who most likely would never experience doing anything as exiting as she did with me. Going on extended vacations to very out-of-the-way exotic locations.

I've been with women who most likely would not be settling down with another man as attractive as me.

I've been with virgins.

Don't know if they were alpha widowed, I hope not, but I reckon they didn't forget either. I didn't think much of it, because it hadn't occurred to me to think about it.

Joey_Lopez · 2020-05-12T17:43:53+00:00

I think i have alpha widowed two chicks.

One of them tried to sabotage my relationship by writing (lying) on Facebook that we still had a thing.

The other one moved on but still came around to give me head every now and then. Because she knew how much I liked it.

superincongruent · 2020-05-12T18:19:22+00:00

Maybe? Old fling contacted me when her marriage was losing the spark. But we weren't deeply pairbonded or anything, she had no interest in anything serious.

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Title	Have you ever unknowingly or knowingly alpha widowed a woman? How'd that turn out?
Author	digitalvoid
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Comments	31
Date	May 12, 2020 5:28 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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