is it better to be a guys type physically or personality wise?

wtknight · 2026-06-24T11:20:54+00:00

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Gemini_zyx · 2026-06-24T09:56:12+00:00

So I understand how difficult and painful it can feel. It's natural to want to feel desired.

For your question though a guy's type personality wise is probably more important. Secondly, if he is in a relationship with you, assuming it's long term, and he tells you he likes you then you should try to believe him. It's easy to get caught up on thinking men have one specific type and if you deviate from that in anyway then it means you sent desirable but attraction doesn't work that way for a lot of men.

It's probably worth talking to your partner if this is something you are feeling worried about

Proudvow · 2026-06-24T10:23:03+00:00

Probably personality-wise, since that makes it more likely they stay with you.

If you were a bunch of men's physical type instead they would just sleep with you and move on, which women tend not to like.

Santa-Teresa · 2026-06-24T10:25:49+00:00

Initially, it is physical attraction, but emotional attachment becomes more important as the relationship develops. Also, most men are attracted to at least average women from 18 to, say, 35, and many of the things which might make you unattractive are mutable.

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screw56 · 2026-06-24T10:00:15+00:00

Well if you want to be in a relationship with me then you need to be both my type physically and personality wise.

If you ONLY care about outcomes and just want a boy friend then being a man’s physical type is better cuz men who just want you for sex will larp to keep you around and maybe get attached over time

But what fulfillment would you get out of a relationship like that?

Also has ur bf openly advertised what his type is to you? Knowing that you are the exact opposite? Cuz that would be pretty rude

Hot_Lack_4868 · 2026-06-24T10:28:00+00:00

it just feels crappy? i guess? my current bf also has a type, which i am the exact opposite of, so that feels awesome

Why does it feel crappy? If he's with you, then he obviously finds you attractive and that's all that matters right? Men may have a type but that doesn't mean it's the only one they're attracted to. Being attracted to only one specific type is a woman's thing.

EsotericRonin · 2026-06-24T11:05:00+00:00

Both.

Run away as fast as you can in the opposite direction of any man of whom you are not his "type." I know my type is women of color, I can be attracted to and get with white girls, but I ultimately would not be content marrying one. Out of good will, I do not give the impression to white women that I date that I would marry them, because I wouldn't. I like girls with round butts, girls that can dance, girls that enjoy certain types of music, women that are religious, etc etc, as such, I make it clear to any girl that doesn't fit these standards that anything we have is just for fun.

Some guys don't do that. Some guys are scared that they won't get the woman they really want, so they settle for what they think is the best they can do, and they end up unhappy, and then they take it out on you usually without meaning to.

Advanced-Ad8490 · 2026-06-24T10:31:49+00:00

It's both. And actually everything. I recommend hitting the gym everyday to raise your physical value. And also study emotional intelligence to raise your emotional value. And ofcourse make money to raise your financial value.

Trying to be one dimensional and hack or lazy your way into happiness doesn't really work in the long run.

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Date	June 24, 2026 9:38 AM UTC (1 month ago)
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