If you want to be successful in dating and casual relationships -

It doesn't matter of you are a good person or a not. It doesn't matter if you have the moral fortitude of Rosa parks. If you aren't attractive it doesnt help.

I wish people were honest with me instead of saying that the right girl will find me .... It's bullshit. They won't find you because all they see are the guys who actively market themselves. And that's what dating is for guys - sales. And morality has no value here.

If you have children - boys especially, get them into a sport and a nerdy hobby and push them to excel. Socially it puts their name our there gives them more exposure.

Same if they are over achieving nerds. My friend got into a relationship because he was the valedictorian and the teacher kept citing him as an example. It helps that he is above average in looks.

Get fit. I mean that literally . Take up a sport or a martial arts and get deep into it. Invest time into mastery. beyond giving you mastery it will give you confidence.

2 - if you want a serious relationship

Moral behaviour comes into play here but the majority is still attraction.

All the prior advice stil holds true

Depending on where you are in life doesn't matter who you date aslong as you are fine with it.

That means if you are 30 and a 23 year old or a 21 year old is interested in you.. go for it.

People may wilify you for it but that doesn't mater, at the end of the day all you live with you. Your happiness should be paramount. Fuck everyone else.

Like i said there is no room for morality.

3 - do not abide by double standards.

Both in your expectations of others and their expectations of you.

4 marriage.

This Is a bit weird.....

Everything in the world tells us that we should be better than the women we want to date. We should be taller stronger make more money be more financially secure.

Don't do this. It puts you on a weak position.if things go south.

.- Look for women who make more than you.

  • make as much of your wealth as possible before you get married and then coast professionally. If you start going above and beyond at work after that to support your family after that then all that results in.is a higher imputed income and a fucked up monthly payment later especially if you can't do as much as you used to in you 20s when you are 40.

  • priorities time with your family - you are more than a paycheck. You are also the emotional connection you build with your friends and your children. Do not sacrifice that no matter what. You will inevitably give that if you work 60 hr pr week.

  • no stay at home moms - if she decides to do it without.discussion make it clear that you are willing to divorce her over it. Too many people accept it without a fight because they consider seperating over it an over reaction. It's not.