As in title, being nice is not the bare minimum. Lots of people who lack the basic ability to treat other people well are in relationships, while others with nothing discernably wrong with them remain single.

It's all fine and dandy when you mention that this discrepancy is because of confidence and the lack thereof. However, frequently i have found that when someone mentions that they are people with mild manersims who treat women well this ridiculous concept that niceness is the bare minimum gets thrown around.

It's not the bare minimum, seeing as how frequently women bemoan the poor behaviour exhibited by their current or ex boyfriends.

Be honest. Tell them that that behaviour is not attractive.

Don't Gaslight them that their sense of feeling of equity and respect in a relationship is commonplace.

It should be. Thats another debate.

But it isn't.

It's a especially poor tactic given that they have examples to the contrary in their daily lives, and honestly just makes them disengage.

Just tell them that it is not attractive.