How common is this really?

RPCJoeMak · 2018-11-14T01:42:53+00:00

How common is it to sin? Quite.

If you look for a "hot" woman who does everything the culture does, you will reap what the culture does.

The younger me wouldn't say this but, try to find a woman serving God with a good heart first - instead of obsessing about hotness like any other male.

AWALT - I think a woman who truly wants to be like Christ and has the holy spirit will not act like all other women. Just like men acting by the spirit will avoid temptation that other men think impossible.

Deep_Strength · 2018-11-14T02:15:52+00:00

Lots of people call themselves "Christians" for whatever reason. Seems like the one in the story did because her family was Christian.

This is why you don't just look at what people say, you look at what they do.

2018-11-15T05:12:52+00:00

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SIC_redditcruiser · 2018-11-14T02:29:50+00:00

Fairly common. Checkout what the scriptures say :

"Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few. Matthew 7:13‭-‬14

On that day many will say to me, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?' And then will I declare to them, 'I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.' Matthew 7:22‭-‬23

She is a hypocrite. You will find Hypocrites everywhere you go. Not said, not all women are hypocrites AKA not all women are like that. All women have the natural tendencies because of their behavioral psychology to do stuff like that, but women that are genuinely putting God above all else will not live for the world.

Focus on your mission and intentionally discipling other guys. As you pursue your mission make friends with women and a be mindful of their actions over time. If it looks like their lifestyle genuinely reflects a love for God by their actions (not by their words) AND you're attracted to each other, then go on a date😁

RunawayGrain · 2018-11-14T11:50:56+00:00

Look at the church scandal we had a while back. We had a girl who could pass for good christian girl material, looked cute, nice smile, seemed very attentive in Sunday school and was active in a number of organizations.

Girls dad, who worked for me, had let her use his work laptop for 'homework.' She proceeded to sync her iPhone to his laptop and the amount of data caused the images to be found. She was about fifteen at the time, and the images / videos that were on that laptop were of her doing things that would make a porn star blush. The police got involved. Another girl in church got pulled into the situation because they were both in the images and their families were both blaming each other. It turned into a huge internal politics thing at that point.

But this is why christian guys should keep it frosty. A lot seem to be perpetually stuck on how good a girl looks instead of insisting on a class act, and having an abundance mentality / "I am the prize" attitude.

Red-Curious · 2018-11-14T15:46:18+00:00

pounded many of his friends, and then was marrying some soyboy pastor

Because the best these pastors can get is either the girl no one else wanted or someone else's leftovers. Because they aren't attracted to the first, they rationalize the second by coming up with biblical excuses for why men should want to invest their lives into these types of women - "Single mothers need your help. We're supposed to forgive and forget others' past mistakes." You get the idea.

is it just a matter of becoming a high SMV/RMV man, watching every red flag, and screening any woman i am vaguely interested in?

No. It's also about training up a girl to become what you want her to be - to become marriage material. What you're laying out is a recipe for finding a unicorn. You'll find quickly that statistics will work so far against you that you might as well give up. Somewhere along the way you have to shift gears to take responsibility for leading your woman and not just trying to find someone ready-made.

surely there are women who reject this way of thinking/doing things

Of course there are. Just like there are countless guys who reject pornography and acknowledge that it's sin and commit to not watching it ... then screw up periodically and do it anyway. Even the best-intentioned people screw up when temptation grows stronger.

Maybe the last of NAWALT needs shattering and sweeping out of my mind.

Correct. I view AWALT as a spectrum, not a switch. Some women are 100% AWALT in that they're literally riding the CC, branch swinging, and acting like the poster child for hypergamy every single day. Others might be 80% ... others 50%. No one will ever be 0%. That tendency will always be there. But some women are better at controlling and restraining their innate desires and coding than others.

And to be clear, it's a function of temptation too. A woman can easily be NAWALT if there is never any temptation to be like that. Put her in an all-girl school in the arctic and see if she starts riding the CC. It's not going to happen because the option just isn't there. Add an all-boy school right next door, but fill it only with omega boys who are totally undesirable and the temptation will be there, but so low that I doubt it will ever be a problem. But drop her in the middle of a bar fool of 6-packs and biceps that are swarming her and all of a sudden she goes from 3% to 60% - she gets a little drunk and maybe 70% until enough additional temptations creep in - and then you know at some point, under the right circumstances, she'll be AWALT too.

1 area i still need to work on is not cave into emotional blackmail

I'm not sure what you mean. How would it be blackmail - like she's going to out you for some emotional reaction you had if you don't do what she says? I think you mean emotional manipulation in general.

An easy way to address this is simply to say it out loud in the middle of the moment: "I understand that you're emotionally worked up right now, but I will not allow your emotions to manipulate me." It's not the best way to maintain frame, but it's an easy way to get in the right mindset and clarify some boundaries for future conversations. I wouldn't do this more than 2-3 times, but it's certainly useful in the beginning.

mainrobot · 2018-11-24T22:54:00+00:00

I've gamed several pastor's daughters and they're just as easy as the rest, if they're into you. Everyone was born a sinner, people are really the monsters they hide until nobody is watching. Kept one as a plate until she got a "more christian" Beta boyfriend after we became long-distance. This all transpired a week after she told me she'd marry me if I asked. Fickle, aren't they?

One thing I wish the red-pill community would talk about is how quickly a woman's attraction breaks down if you aren't actively pursuing her.

RedPlanetMan · 2018-11-14T01:46:40+00:00

It’s common. This woman Instagrams me every day dying to hook up with me and I see her at Church every Sunday with her husband and kids. Hypergamy is real and the Church is gynocentric anyway. I’m Christian, but I could care less if the girls I date are Christian.

Title	How common is this really?
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Date	November 14, 2018 1:11 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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