Looking for advice, Need help. +Apology.

Ok, i guess i might as well get this part over with. I know that my previous post was a little (an understatement) vague, uninformative, emotional, incoherent, and messy, and thus have decided to "rewrite" it in a more civilized from so that it might be understood at a higher capacity. I have also hidden the original post, but i am not confident in that working.

Preface:

Hello! I am a "little" guy in his late teens with some big problems on his hands right now, and i need some help figuring them out. I am an active christian and an active member of the "staff" at my church (i am kind of a pinch hitter) doing everything from worship team, to repairs/painting, to setting up communion. I have just started following RP "doctrine" full time about a week and a half ago, and i am already realizing some problems with myself, my environment, and the girl i am planning on marrying. When I was 2 or 3 years old, my parents joined a Hyper-Radical Evangelical church, both as basically non-Christians, and ever since then, the church controlled our every though and action.

I already knew the the church was blue-pill as frick (is F- allowed?), and that finding a suitable mate is near impossible: A. No one ever talks about their sexual preferences so you dont even know if you are compatible. B. You cant have sex because that is not allowed, so you cant find out for yourself. C. Dating is banned, instead what they do is they have "get together's" where the guy and gal might sit down and talk while the father of the girl proctors the entire conversation. And finally D. Marriage is left up to the parents of the individual, but is ultimately overseen by the church, and you are expected to marry someone inside the church. I have seen this happen too many times to doubt that it will happen to me, and I can already see the gears turning.

The Problem:

Yesterday i was browsing through the main TRP sub, and i came across a comment by u/SeasonedRP in response to a now removed post saying:

You should check out Dalrock's site to get an idea of how things really are in supposedly conservative religious circles in the U.S. The things taught at strict evangelical churches are indistinguishable from feminism. The husband being the "head of the household" really means he is his wife's servant. If he's a good little boy, does all of the household chores, and obeys her every command, she might reward him with reluctant transactional sex every six months.

In religious circles, women get a pass for anything they do, whereas men are blamed for anything they do. This isn't surprising as something like 70% of the people who attend church are female, so any church remotely deviating from feminism would go under quickly. Yes, religious people use certain language that would lead one to believe RP principles are followed, but in practice nothing could be further from the truth. I'd go as far as advising not having an LTR (and certainly not marrying) with a woman brought up in an evangelical church, as she'll have a sense of entitlement from having been taught her whole life that women are superior to men because of men's sinful sex drives. I've also noticed that every Christian man I have come across who is strictly religious, without exception, is meek, submissive, and obedient to women and truly believes that women are superior to men because they are less sinful.

Modern religion doesn't counter the female psyche. It magnifies and encourages women's worst tendencies.

So yha, even as someone who knows the garbage that occurs inside the church, this hit home. everything he said was built in to my church at the foundation, taught to every boy, and expected by every married man. And with the presupposition that i will not be able to choose for myself who i marry, except at the cost of my grandfather inheritance (he does not agree with many things my parents have done, and are yet to do, but he is close to death and has left me an abundant inheritance, and it would be a shame for my parents to confiscate it as my mother is the distributor of the inheritance, and i am not in the will.) and excommunication from both my family and my church.

I consider myself in a unique scenario because unlike most of you guys, i have little to no option for whom i choose to marry. My parents have already selected who i will marry, it is more of a matter of when. Based upon what i have observed, I have 3 years. That will be the close to the middle of my first 4 years of collage, and they would want me to marry a "strong christian feminist woman" to keep me in check.

So, do any of you guys have any ideas? Trying to stop the inevitable is a bad idea, and will only cause more conflict. I am not willing to be stuck in the type of marriage that i have seen so many other forced into. how can i shape the girl i am going to marry into the woman i want in the next 3 years. I am working on going from the boring dry beta to the Pantie wetting chad i could easily become. God has blessed me with good genes, lets just hope that with some work, i wont get screwed over like all of the other males in beta christian circles. How do i act, speak, and do things that will negate this "entitlement" that seems to be running rampant. How do i make her my helper, and not me hers.

Thanks.