Advice for 20yr old gal

Pycnostyle · 2021-01-18T16:32:31+00:00

One thing I'd advise is to consider the logistics of what you're after. Once you know your target market, where to find him should be clearer.

It sounds like you want a man to support you financially, while you would not work outside of the home. There's not necessarily anything wrong with that, my wife doesn't work outside of the home either, but you have to remember that most couples are dual income these days and a relatively smaller percentage of men will be able to support you, even if they wanted to. Especially if you're looking for a man who is close to your age. So you're probably looking for a dude who is

older than you and is already successful,
has a high earning potential (pre-med, pre-law, finance, computer science, etc.), or
has wealthy parents.

See my line of thinking here? By being clear about what you want, you limit your potential matches. That's a good thing, despite it being limiting, because it makes you focus on what's truly important to you: what you want your life to be like.

Over the years, I've seen any of the above work. Which dude is the most appealing to you? Personally, I'd be looking for a late 20s or early 30s guy who prioritized his career and achieved success, and is now hoping to start a family. Maybe he was a little dorky in his teens and 20s but is now starting to come into his own, and you represent the fantasy chick who wasn't interested in him when he was younger. You'll probably always still be more attractive than women his own age, and if you can keep his home running smoothly, he will always appreciate you. I'd hit my network up for such a guy, surely a friend or family member or someone at your church would know such a man.

But, I mean, that's what I'd do. You need to think through what would work for you.

dusty_dungarees · 2021-01-18T18:06:10+00:00

Pursuing your interests is a great way of developing your skills for your future as a wife. Not only does it increase your value as a potential life partner and helper to your man, but it will bring you into circles of people who appreciate the crafts you love. Who knows, maybe that next seminar you sign up for, will cause you to make a new friend, who will introduce you to her older brother... and the rest is history! It's all about connections at the end of the day - getting to know people you can trust and enjoy good relationship with, and help you get in touch with the right type of men. You will find you wont feel so introverted with people who love the same things you do!

Roses_With_No_Thorns · 2021-01-18T09:42:56+00:00

I actually think being an introvert could help you. Men like to feel that a girl is slightly submissive and being the introverted type naturally portrays this and makes you attractive so they aren't potentially put off by your education/degree. I also don't personally agree with finding men while in college since most (not all, mind you) are only going to be interested in sex. They aren't looking to settle down just yet but if your willing to date one for a year or so and wait out his youthful phase you might find him becoming a highly desirable mate. Otherwise, I would look to meeting men in local places such as book stores and the like. A man that enjoys reading will most often have a pleasant disposition - I'm against finding men in bars, etc. UNLESS he is there as the designated driver because again, that is a red-flag for playboy-type activity which could only lead to heartbreak later on. This is just my personal opinion as I'm sure some have met perfectly acceptable gentlemen in bars but again, I think his REASON for being there is the hint at his true nature.

I don't personally think online dating is ideal but I have met many people where it has been successful and, owing to the "pandemic", many have been left with no other alternative.

Again, these are just my opinions.

aussiedollface2 · 2021-01-18T08:21:37+00:00

Hi there! Just a question, what are you graduating from? Is it something you’re passionate about? Even the most traditional men want you to have an interest in something. I would say work/University/through friends is the best way to meet guys (if can be hard if your work is female dominated though). I think University is super h a great time to meet guys so I would try be as social as possible for the rest of the year until you graduate xo

2021-01-18T20:25:45+00:00

I met my husband thru online dating while I was living in Miami and him in France. Found me a masculine guy with a good head on his shoulders and honest as honest can be. He spoke fluent English since his dad speaks as well being from Norway. Maybe broaden your horizons a bit. I feel like American men are all the same and it's hard to find a good one that isn't a drunk and playboy.

2021-01-19T22:56:37+00:00

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2021-01-18T21:20:41+00:00

Met my wife through an online dating site. I don't know about others but I truly think technology has changed not just how you do business, but how you date as well.

Never has there been a more easy time for women to meet prospective dates, with the added bonus that as the fairer sex if you're not repulsive, you can literally pick and choose who you want to meet without first stepping out your door.

I have a personal philosophy which is that one should apply the Pareto principle when it comes to relationships in that probably only 20% of the people you meet, or less, will be worth your time while the other 80% will definitely not be. It doesn't matter where you meet men, whether online or offline, you have to apply caution and filter out the majority of wasters. But I feel online dating is a very very good modern tool for dating anyway, you should definitely use it, but don't depend on it.

anna_alabama · 2021-01-19T00:46:08+00:00

I met my fiancé my freshman year of college on Bumble. He is a HVM, who wanted to settle down young. Don’t completely rule out dating apps. I also am an introvert, and it didn’t affect his attraction to me at all.

dotabob2625 · 2021-01-18T16:49:49+00:00

Sorry I'm new, but what is SMV and HVM?

lemurianelf · 2021-01-21T16:45:35+00:00

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ihopemewingworks · 2021-01-21T18:51:58+00:00

First of all your smv won't decline until 25 and even 25 it won't really but that's when women start aging, if you take care of yourself you could probbalt extended that a bit but more importsnt to find a masculine man early because they might feel like they deserve it, they want kids so starting to get to know someone at 30 dosent make sense. But don't stress. Five years is a looong time. B

First of all shyness I think is greatly appreciated it's seen as very feminine. I know my bf found it very endearing, and it gives this i want to protect her feeling in men or it's easier for them to feel it if you're shy I think. If you look good, smile, make eye contact then that will be enough inviting for a masculine man.

Now where to find a masculine man, that's so hard I asked myself thay as well and I just got lucky. I mean you can try online dating just incase, but having a active life, where you do things where men might see you is a good idea. Anytime you see a man outside that you feel like is masculine, be close to him so he might notice you, smile, a little bit of eye contact. Maybe go to a gym where there is also be like a self defense class (like martial art or boxing or something) might make you meet some masculine men. But it's hard because going to masculine activities might also be off putting, but I'd say just do normal things, go to the gym, on a hike, go shopping, other hobbies that you can think of, just make sure that people can see you and that you don't lock yourself in (which I know is very easy as an Introvert) but you don't have to be social, you can even be quiet in these environments, make sure you look your best and be kind. Also I'd say go for a guy who is a bit older maybe over 25 because they tend to be more serious and if you just want to find the one and not have to go trough this whole finding a guy process again that could be a good idea.

pearlsandstilettos · 2021-01-18T16:27:43+00:00

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BroChapeau · 2021-01-20T23:51:37+00:00

Don't use dating apps. Go join organizations, business groups, hiking groups, dancing groups, etc. Good men do real stuff in the real world with real people, and they have lives outside work and dating.

Title	Advice for 20yr old gal
Author	virgo-queen
Upvotes	25
Comments	39
Date	January 18, 2021 5:56 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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