How do you interact with a potential boyfriend’s pet?

Wife_and_Mama · 2023-08-17T21:08:33+00:00

I'm going to offer a counterpoint here. My husband grew up on a cattle ranch. Dogs were work animals. He had pets, but they were strictly outdoors unless the weather was horrible. He was really sweet to my fat, spoiled beagle, who had "little puppy issues" from my abusive ex. He even got up early the morning after we put him down, so he could bury him for me.

It drives my husband crazy when dogs beg. He's trained ours never to beg and to only get on the furniture with permission. They're never allowed in our bedroom. They're only allowed in the kitchen if we're not in there. Honestly, it's kind of nice, now that I'm used to it. Our dogs are well-behaved. I can eat in peace. I don't trip over them while cooking. Our furniture doesn't smell bad. Our toddlers and baby never get tackled, which is more than I can say when we visit other people with pets. My husband claims he'll never agree to having a large dog indoors, though. The next time we get a dog, it'll be interesting to see where we land on that. He just thinks of pets very differently than what I was used to when I was single. I've found I tend to align more with him now, but we don't always agree.

It's not a bad idea to consider the possibility that someone you meet may have a stricter view of how animals should behave, eat, or what-have-you. I think this is something we all assume everyone agrees on and it's really not.

Cosima_Fan_Tutte · 2023-08-17T20:53:17+00:00

When I met my husband he owned a border collie mix who didn't like anyone except him and his parents. Beautiful dog that would get quite protective and territorial around strangers, including me. I can tell you that being willing get to know his dog was a huge, huge green flag in my favor.

I had never been around dogs so my husband didn't expect me to proactively do anything, but following his lead in interacting with and helping train the dog helped cement out relationship. The dog and I are now besties, btw. 🥰

She's also now 14 and incontinent, we keep her in diapers. Before we found a brand that fit her and learned to navigate her peeing issues, parts of the house smelled like piss.

My mom thinks I'm nuts for putting up with this and asks when we're finally getting rid the dog. But I know that if asked my husband to put the dog down he'd absolutely think less of me. The dog was there when he was single and lonely. The dog stays until he makes that call. He's thanked me many times for being accommodating and patient.

So yeah, if your man has a dog or whatever, learn to love it, or seriously consider another partner.

beautifulbountiful · 2023-08-17T20:48:53+00:00

My partner only introduced his dog to women he was serious about, and their reaction to the dog was a tell for him to engage further or distance himself. His dog had rear limb paralysis and scooted and wore a diaper. He doted over his pup and his whole world revolved around him (the pup unfortunately passed a few years ago). When I met the pup, I fell in love and adored him the way I did my own dog at the time, and my partner later told me that he knew that boded well for our blossoming relationship because I was as tender and caring with his pup as he was. I instantly wanted to help with his needs, learned his routines and care, and was 100% happy to leave functions early or not go places to accommodate going home to help care for the pup. We introduced our pups and they fell in love and it strengthened our bond. If I hadn’t loved the pup, he would have ended things (I didn’t know that at the time of course)!

diaryofalostgirl · 2023-08-17T22:02:57+00:00

If Current Interest works out, I plan to love on his dog just as much as she'll let me. His dog is just as important to him as my cats are, and we already understand this about each other. You'll have to slip me some dog treat recipes because that could be an excellent "afternoon in" date!

On a sober note: my ex's dog had to be put down about three years into our relationship. I came straight out to see him when he said he needed me there (we were semi-LDR, about 1.5 hrs). I packed my bags knowing that he did not need to be alone for this, and all the time I was there, I lavished them both with affection. While he had work obligations, I paid extra attention to the sweet doggo. Lots of cuddles. And after she was gone, I gave him every ounce of nurturing I had in me.

AutoModerator · 2023-08-17T20:18:29+00:00

Title: How do you interact with a potential boyfriend’s pet?

Full text: This is a bit of a light-hearted question, but people love their pets and the way you treat them makes a difference in how their owners see you.

I’m a dog person and animal lover in general; I love baking treats for dogs I know and if I were to date a dog owner, I would automatically want to do that because it’s fun for me. Today I realized that making treats, helping to take care of the pet, and being affectionate with it in general could also effectively demonstrate a nurturing personality or domestic skills. For RPWs who want kids, I imagine that the way you treat a man’s pet influences his perception of you as a potential mother.

For those who have dated pet parents, is this true at all? And what did guys like or dislike you doing with their pets?

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Such_Beginning_1629 · 2023-08-18T10:32:16+00:00

My SO has cats. I grew up with a cat, I knew how to read cat, just not his. Because all cats are slightly different in reacting to stimuli/situations. It took me a few hours until cats curiosity won and I got my initial inspection. I passed - cat wanted to cuddle and play. Then I had to defend my workspace. And my seat on the sofa. Gentle but strict. SO shot a few nice photos of me trying to get the younger cat off my keyboard mid-zoom. ;)

I think being willing to read up on cat/dog/bird specific behavior is the smart thing to do. It shows you care. Then - ask questions to get to know the specific individual.

Title	How do you interact with a potential boyfriend’s pet?
Author	Ok-Coat7665
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Date	August 17, 2023 8:18 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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