I am 33 and a wife and SAHM to 6 . Married 14 years. I really bust a gut making Easter perfect for my husbands family staying with us over Easter. One one of the days I had to slip off to see my own mother on her birthday and was anxious about leaving our guests but my husband reassured me he would do two things I needed so I could visit her and come home ready to resume my duties without being stressed that I was behind with things. Unfortunately he failed to do both which resulted in me staying up until 3am Easter Sunday morning playing catch up. After his family left I communicated that I really desired some time alone with him to reconnect and some intimacy which he promised would happen that evening. Again he didn’t deliver which was disheartening as I had really made an effort with looking good smelling good etc as he had promised an intimate evening. I have taken myself off this morning for some me time while he was still sleeping. I think I will find it hard not to have a bad day especially when I get back to the children and chores of the day without feeling like I have had my needs met and feeling taken advantage of.

Any tips for how to proceed? All other aspects of our marriage is great. It’s just this issue that seems to reoccur.

*extra info - I find when we have family around we can’t fully be ourselves as we have quite a traditional relationship which they would not understand. This I ncludes things like mild bottom pats and aggressive hugs here and there to reassure me and make me feel safe which I love and asked for. Also quite a lot of physical affection in the kitchen and verbal commands and correction that I love and asked for when I get sassy. This obviously hasn’t been happening this week as we have had guests so maybe that’s adding to my feelings right now.