Red pill marriage…almost…

KombuchaEnema · 2022-04-19T18:34:48+00:00

Make a doctor’s appointment. Tell them you’re feeling like crap. Figure out if your hormones are in order and/or if you have any vitamin deficiencies. Even something as simple as a vitamin D deficiency can wreak havoc on your mind and body.
Start eating clean. Lack of self care feeds into a low self-esteem, and a low self-esteem creates a further decline in self-care. This is a cycle that feeds into itself.

Start clean eating not just to lose weight, but to feel better. Keep your added sugars below 25g per day (on every nutritional label there is a section for added sugars). Added sugars wreak havoc on your mind and body.

Remember that your husband’s lack of attraction probably has less to do with your physical appearance and more to do with your lack of self-care and self-esteem. You have probably sacrificed a lot of your own needs for that of your family. Maybe see if you can start having a weekly spa day or a weekly massage or some other thing that can make you feel good!

This isn’t to make you feel good about your appearance. A massage feels good physically. A spa day feels good physically. Stop relying solely on the image in the mirror to feel good.

“I feel ugly!”

So what? It’s okay to feel that way. You still deserve love from yourself even if you feel ugly. And you know what? Feeling ugly isn’t permanent. You once felt beautiful. You can feel beautiful again.

Recognize that feeling for what it is - a temporary bad feeling that can absolutely be changed. But don’t rob yourself of things-that-feel-good just because you don’t feel beautiful.

You want to feel beautiful before you start doing self-care.

The truth is that you have to do self-care before you can feel beautiful.

Noressa · 2022-04-19T19:02:55+00:00

My biggest thing? Don't wait for motivation to start. Motivation is great when it sets in, but it never lasts the duration and you simply can't rely on it.

Second: The vast majority of weight loss comes from changes in the kitchen. "Abs are made in the kitchen" is completely true. Changes in diet will absolutely impact you more than doing exercise. Exercise will help you look better and retain more muscle (you'll lose muscle and fat when you lose weight.) I've done 270 down to 160, back up to 200 with my second kid, and I'm headed down again. Good meal planning, being aware of calorie intake, and not eating after I brush my teeth at night really help me manage calories when I don't have time to get a workout in.

Finally? Get support. It is incredibly difficult to make changes without support. It's difficult to maintain changes without support. It's hard to stick to new changes without support. If no one knows what you are trying, they can't try to help you. Reach out when you make a mistake and know it happens. Use support to get back on track. You are more likely to be successful if you can pull people in who will cheer you along your plans. This can be in person or online.

amhran_oiche · 2022-04-19T18:42:04+00:00

The first thing I would say is to be easy on yourself. eight pregnancies! anyone would be a total idiot to not know what effect that would have on someone.

second, any changes to how you eat will make a difference. you're not going to make 2 or 3 different dinners to make everyone happy. there's just no time.

third, find an activity you enjoy and make time for it.

you don't say your ages, kids' ages, or what your home/work situations are, but make time any way you can. if you have young kids, go for walks every day. LONG walks. let the kids explore appropriately. Ask you husband to buy you a treadmill or climber. take up hiking, swimming, or something else.

is your husband naturally fit or does he have time to go to the gym? if he has free time to be working out, ask him to help free up some of your time to do so as well because you are in a PARTNERSHIP. you are only one person and cannot reasonably care for all your children, shop, cook, clean, AND workout all in a day.

kotaclove · 2022-04-19T18:34:40+00:00

Definitely work on making healthier food choices! Simple foods - chicken, salmon, ground turkey for yourself with sides of rice and veggies! There’s a bit of a variety there and it’s super healthy and nourishing. Drink water! Let yourself share a cheat meal with him once a week on date night. Then work on building fitness habits - 30 minute walks, 2 20 minute walks, joining a fitness class. You’ll see differences just with being more conscious of what you eat and with walking daily!

Luscious-Grass · 2022-04-19T23:46:24+00:00

First, wow, 8 pregnancies. Amazing.

Second, it sounds like you almost don’t want to lose weight because of resentment that he isn’t attracted to you after having his 8 babies.

So play some mental tricks on yourself.

You have 8 kids to stay healthy for. Do you want to be an active grandma? There are MANY reasons to take care of your health and lose weight.

Get started and then start to work on the resentment separately. It’s not your fault and it’s not his fault. You’ll have to work through that.

BuildingAMasterpiece · 2022-04-19T18:42:23+00:00

r/loseit has some great info!

My current regimen is keto with an eye on CICO. (calories in/calories out). Weight loss is 90% in the kitchen, so I'm told.

For motivation, if you can afford it, noom is pretty good and the "lessons" are pretty short. It's also more wholistic and might help some of those other emotional issues. For exercise motivation I love Beachbody on Demand - I put in more work with the fun trainers on video! But zombie 5k (or Zombies, run!) Is a great app that can get you out of the house to "play". (Same people make another app called The Walk as well). Don't fixate on the exercise to start. Bump up your activity without overdoing it and really focus in on good, healthy food at appropriate portions!

Remember your Why - so your husband is more attracted to you, to chase your kids, whatever it is. Write it down and look at it or journal about it when motivation slips.

Hope this helps!

Edit to say: also, talk to your doctor! If your weight is a health risk they may have some support options for you. Mine put me on a super low dose medication and it's worked wonders to "take the edge off" so to speak

LateralThinker13 · 2022-04-19T19:53:35+00:00

Tough love time.

I looked great when we met and before our first child but during that pregnancy and 7 more I have gained a lot of weight

Common problem. Also, 8 kids? Wow.

I would love to turn it around but don’t know how to get the motivation to start.

You mean, reigniting your husband's lust for you, radically improving your health, lifespan, and well-being, and justifiably increasing your self-esteem, aren't reasons enough?

I am so big that no amoun of salons or shopping trips would boost my self image at this point.

Which means you're fat to the point of serious negative health. Forget losing weight for him, do it because you want to live long enough to enjoy grandchildren and to be able to pick them up.

How do you start such a big endeavour with negative emotions.

You don't.

You haven't come to terms with your weight. You haven't accepted that YOU and only you are in control/responsible for it. And you haven't accepted that only you can change it. Only once you accept how things are, can you then accept the path to where you want to be.

Example: I'm 25 lbs overweight. It's on me for my poor diet and lack of exercise. I commit myself to religiously returning to my keto diet and working out twice per week with heavy weights for 30 minutes. This is the minimum I will do, and it is subject to further amendment only AFTER keeping it up for one month and being unsatisfied with my improvement. This I vow.

That's how you do it. Write it down, sign it, vow it, swear to the deity you hold sacred, and post it on your social media so everybody can keep you accountable. Then DO IT.

Anonymous_fiend · 2022-04-19T19:11:18+00:00

Kudos on 8 kids that’s a lot. It’s common for women to neglect themselves after kids. But taking care of yourself is important not just for your husband but also your children. They see how you treat yourself and it effects them. And you deserve to be healthy and happy with yourself too. If you need external help maybe see if your family can eat healthier with you. Or see if any of them want to join you on a nightly walk. What’s the reason for your overeating? Are you a plate clearer, snacker, convenience eater, boredom eater, emotional eater, etc? Do you find yourself finishing your kids plates if they don’t? Do you reward yourself with food? Or do you have more of a sweet tooth? Identifying your eating patterns makes it easier to change them. They may not need to be completely changed. Over time small substitutes add up.

Volume eating and cico is and easy way to drop weight fast and keep it off. Intermittent fasting, keto, volume eating, and other fad diets are just tools for cico. 1500 calories with some light exercise might be a good goal for you to start at. Even if you don’t keep to a certain calorie amount tracking your food helps you me more aware/mindful. Half of your plate should be low calorie items like vegetables. Cut back on oils, butter, sugar, sauces. You don’t need to eliminate them but maybe use lower calorie ones and more spices/herbs instead. If you are a snacker prep little snack boxes for yourself. Fruit, light cheese, veg w/hummus, hard boiled egg, light popcorn, diet jello, etc are all low cal snack ideas. Fiber, protein, and some fat helps keeps you full. Halotop/enlightened/yasso & low carb tortillas are my holy grail sub items.

If you’ve been struggling for years maybe outside help is necessary. A therapist can help if there’s underlying issues like binges. A dietitian/nutritionist can give you a meal plan that fits your needs. A doctor can prescribe weight loss meds (which really do help with appetite). My dad got wls and had kept the weight off for years. For him that was the push he needed.

vplatt · 2022-04-19T20:14:45+00:00

As a male I can't even imagine what it would take to stay on top of body shape and esteem after 8 pregnancies. That said, transformation stories are fairly routine in the intermittent fasting and keto communities.

/r/intermittentfasting

/r/keto

Those are different approaches to the same problem. Personally, I find that if you combine them and don't go overly strict with either, that it's super easy to get the nutrition side of things under control; especially with some basic food tracking.

Couple that with some fitness (preferably something fun, social, and out of the house away from the family to give you a break) and some new clothes from time to time to celebrate success and you'll feel brand new after a bit.

One more thing: When our kids were young and my wife was in the thick of the SAHM years, we used to have a "Mommy's night off" every week. She had more "her time" than this actually, but this was scheduled. I would just abscond with the kids and we did something without her. She would do whatever she wanted. You could go sit at a favorite restaurant and read and relax, go to a movie, whatever... the point was to make it scheduled and special. It honestly helped me have better connection with the kids too because I worked so much. It's something they still refer to today as young adults, so I know they appreciated it too.

alp157 · 2022-04-19T18:27:58+00:00

Intermittent fasting. No need for anything, you just start skipping breakfast. It works wonders.

liftingtailsofcats · 2022-04-19T22:25:46+00:00

My personal opinion is the very first thing you need to do is have a conversation with your husband. Communication is fucking key...let him know you're aware of all this and it was low self esteem that was keeping you from starting. Let him know you're about to get to work but it's a process and don't forget I had 7 of your babies you son of a bitch lol. Tell him you don't need help just a little encouragement here and there would help with your self esteem.

Second thing I would do is figure out you're routine. Recognize it's honestly a lifestyle change. I have a full gym in my garage but still have a membership to a really nice gym for a few reasons - I go pretty much everyday and on days I really don't wanna workout, I'll chill in the sauna. It's great for solidifying a routine and takes the pressure off ALWAYS having to workout every time I go, it becomes more like your sanctuary away from home. I would def recommend both weights and cardio...don't worry about bulky muscles, long as you're not eating 3k calories and 1gram of protein per pound of body weight a day it's all good, you'll just get lean.

One thing that really helped me get into all this was realizing how fucking insanely beneficial exercise was for longevity - https://youtu.be/92kYDVjX0G0

Literally nothing else compares

Third is "you are what you eat" is real ...I wouldn't worry about counting calories to begin with, just eating clean is huge. My two big tips here are smoothies (I get frozen bags of blueberry and other fruit at Costco) to cram a shit ton of good stuff into you're body at once and crockpots bc I'm not a great cook..

Good luck you got this 👍

Strixt · 2022-04-20T02:19:56+00:00

Attitude first.

The best time to start saving for the future is now.

The best time to start investing in yourself is now.

The best time to start a workout routine and go to the gym 2-5 times a week to a fun spin class is in fact - Now!

You’ll get into the groove of a healthy workout routine which will often help you want to eat clean. Then in 3 - 4 months you’ll be upset that you are only losing say 1lb a week. Then you’ll have to fix that attitude again.

That 1 lb a week is already an amazing achievement and it took so long to put the weight on and it only makes sense it’ll take so long to get it off. 1lb a week is a truly healthy and obtainable and most importantly a sustainable goal!

marcelmarceau1972 · 2022-04-20T17:57:05+00:00

Another perspective: improve, taking motivation from him, but improve for you. We men are pretty bad at expressing feelings, it might be that he is also tired and doesn't have as high libido as before, and he shifts it to you. I hope it's not the case but imagine going through all these sacrifices and him saying "oh, I still don't feel attracted to you".

Work on your self-esteem. You are a better person that you were when he married you; you have gone through motherhood, experiences ... you have given SO much! As a husband, I'm disappointed that you know he is not attracted to you (I am really really hoping he didn't say it!!!), one of our main jobs is to build and feed our wives emotionally, to sustain them as they go through motherhood, through changes ... through life. Would you stop loving him if he gained weight? I hope he knows you are in this together. As I see it, if you don't find the time to rest for ALL the bad nights, ALL the home ed, he is NOT providing all. I don't mean to sound negative against him, I'm sure he works hard in his job and business, what I'm trying to say is that he also shares responsibility in all that's going on, and it's clear to me that you are doing lots of things and sacrificing yourself. You are doing lots, recognize that. Recognize that we all go through ups and downs and physical changes, and that doesn't change how we are as persons.

Work on your health. I won't say much about this, but you need to be rested.

I hope you both can align. It's hard to see, but life with children changes you. It might mean a cheaper house and sacrificing his business to be able to get home worry-free. There are many sacrifices he could do other than working full-time + business.

I don't take away of you trying to improve. Please do. I just think it would be much more beneficial if you both work together on this.

RoseSung · 2022-05-05T07:20:49+00:00

A good nighttime routine. • Have your children in bed freshly clean by a certain time everyday. • Don’t let your children have sugar right before bed. • Don’t let them watch tv right before bed. • Don’t let your children stay up late. •Lack of sleep can cause stress, fatigue, and a cranky attitude. It’s also a bad way to set the tone for the rest of the day. • Beauty sleep is important. Princess sleeping beauty would agree. • A silk pillow is good for your hair and skin. It can prevent wrinkles, sagging, and leave your hair feeling silky smooth. •You need to wake up feeling energized in the morning and ready to take on the day. This is so important for your long term well-being.
Exercise and diet. • Cardio like jogging melts off fat. Set aside 30 minutes a day and you will easily see results. • Eat smaller portions of food frequently throughout the day. • Eat more fresh fruits & vegetables. • Eat less carbs & meat. • Stay away from packaged and processed foods that are man made. • Make more home cooked meals so you know exactly what you’re putting in your body. • Reward yourself with a cookie or your favorite dessert here and there. • Drink plenty of water. Your body is 75% water. Water is also great for your skin. • Exercise boosts self esteem and gives you that confidence you want. • Try out different exercises and diets to lose weight and see what works for your body.
To alleviate your pain. • Have hubby give you massages. Massages alleviate back pain, leg pain, and hip pain. Love also alleviates pain. Massages are soothing and healing. It’ll make you feel calm and relaxed. Use lotion, extra virgin olive oil, or coconut oil. • A chiropractor can align your spine and alleviate back pain, hip pain, and leg pain. • Physical therapy can alleviate your pain too. • Stand up straight and sit up straight. Practice good posture.
Beauty… • Beauty and charm are deceptive. A woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. • The prettiest makeup a girl can wear is a smile!!!!! • Wear makeup to enhance your features. YouTube makeup tutorials. Find products you like. Find a makeup routine you like and gain inspiration from that. • Gain inspiration from people around you or Google for your next hair salon visit. • A nice mani pedi will make any girl feel better. • Wear nice clothes that make you feel confident. • Put on nice smelling perfume. It’s uplifts your soul. • Put together a Pinterest board, or a vision board. Maybe have magazine clippings to gain inspiration.
REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE! • Your husband married you out of all women on this earth. • You two created 8 children because he finds you hot, beautiful, pretty, sexy, and attractive.
Use your words to build yourself up. • When you look in the mirror practice saying sentences like “I am beautiful.” “I am confident.” “I am kind.” “I am smart.” • The power of the tongue can speak things into existence. So don’t be self deprecating.

skuzzlebutt_lover · 2022-04-19T18:38:03+00:00

Healthier food choices, lots of water, and intermittent fasting, also work in a good walk at least once per day and work on increasing your time (good family activity). If you can, a gym membership would be good to start working on strength training.

111loR · 2022-04-19T20:22:30+00:00

You sound sick. Not lazy and fat, but sick. Like you have insulin resistance and like your thyroid and adrenals aren't working. Like someone with PCOS, etc... What helps best to my knowledge is healthy keto, careful supplementation and hormone replacements, but everyone is an individual.

Get to a doctor ASAP and start learning all you can about nutrition. YouTube alone has thousands of hours of really good classes. For free. Also if you have hormonal issues and inflammation, skip gym for the beginning. I'm not kidding, anything but light excercise might spike your cortisol and make it much harder to debloat and lose weight.

ferg1e · 2022-04-19T22:15:15+00:00

Hi, I’m gonna make this easy for you! Eat anything you want, BUT portion it out and count the calories. Forget “eating clean” and restricting yourself from foods you love. If you want pasta, weigh out your portion and count the calories. You need to eat in a calorie deficit in order to lose weight. You can focus on healthier choices and exercise later on. Those things come naturally when you realize that you can eat way more strawberries than you can cookies for the same amount of calories, and that if you go on a walk you can eat a little more! Use the app MyFitnessPal, get a food scale and make it your friend. Check out r/CICO for more information and motivation posts. You’ll need to calculate how many calories you need to be eating by going based on you BMR & TDEE. If you like, you can send me your statistics such as height, weight, and activity level and I can help you calculate it up. You should eat no more than 500 calories less than your maintenance calories. It can be so easy, you can do it! :)

barmitzvahmoney · 2022-04-19T19:48:22+00:00

All you have to do is stick to a healthy diet for three days. Once you feel less bloated with good skin you will get the motivation to continue!

muscleguy1976 · 2022-04-19T19:55:15+00:00

Go to the gym, go early and go often. People there will help you get fit. Lift weights. Muscle burns more calories. I know. I did it and taught my wife to do it. I can teach anyone to do it. You don’t have to be great to start. But you have to start to be great.

jzdelona · 2022-04-19T20:17:41+00:00

There's a lot of good advice here you should follow, but I just wanted to say if it's gotten that bad and you're really struggling to lose it there's no shame in surgery. If you do that though it should definitely be accompanied by therapy or OA or FA (Overeaters anonymous and Food Addicts anonymous) meetings to help you address the underlying issues. I know a lot of people who've had success but they also stay accountable to people in their self help groups.

dadudenines · 2022-04-19T20:54:52+00:00

I strongly suggest immediately employing intermittent fasting. I have compiled some before and after pics so people can see how much of a difference it makes and how even the biggest women can dramatically become hot:

https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/s4fico/weight_smv/hsqrn1m/?context=3

Beyond looks, losing the weight is going to keep you functional into old age, keep the doctor bills down and of course the biggest thing will be just be better daily mental health:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ljWexd3T7A&t=593s

Exercise is probably the most overlooked way of improving mental health: https://time.com/5360195/exercise-mental-health/

titlejunk · 2022-04-20T02:57:58+00:00

Intermittent fasting.

Ok-Employ9862 · 2022-04-24T17:43:35+00:00

In terms of attraction, its not something you have to do alone, putting makeup wont solve issues if makeup is not what your husband likes you with (an example).

Tell him to teach you what exactly he thinks is attractive and do it, litterally, in my experience woman have no clue what is attractive to men, they think every men is the same and they all like blond hair big boobs but that is not it, every man has its own taste, ask your husband exactly what he likes, ask him to explain it more even if you think you did understand, somethings you wont be able to change and some things you will, focus on what you can change and work every day a little bit towards that change, it wont be easy but he will not only treat you better he will want you more and you will win lots of quality time, words of affection, gifts, physical touch, acts of service and sex only by being attractive in the way that he chose you to be, not in the way that you think is attractive.

Sliw · 2022-04-19T19:18:23+00:00

Get after it momma, you can do this.

Clean up what you consume, from your food and drink to your digital consumption. Go through your fridge & patnry and throw away everything that's "unhealthy". Start with soda and processed food. Start eating a shit-ton of protein. Tuna packets, chicken breast, that kind of stuff. Eat as much as you can stand and know that every bite of protein is a bite of poison you didn't eat. It takes WORK to stay big, stop working so hard at it.

Start getting active. There's no substitute for going to the gym regularly. Get some nice clothes to wear while you're there and you'll go more frequently, longer. Start with 3 days a week for one hour. Go for walks, get a dog if you don't have one then walk it. Think about some activities you'd like to do, then go do them. Kickboxing, cycling, golf, whatever. It's time to do them now.

Don't look down. It's super easy to allow your attention to go somewhere that isn't helpful and obsess over things you can't change. Focus on the things you CAN change.

It's all up to you, it's all within your control, now get after it.

ebsf · 2022-04-20T04:12:40+00:00

One's body basically reflects one's daily habits of diet and exercise over the past three years.

So, to change one's body, one must make permanent changes in one's daily habits of diet and exercise.

What one does on any given day doesn't matter much. What matters is what one does every day. Success doesn't happen at once. It is the consequence of a series of small, incremental successes.

These small successes don't add up, they multiply. Do the arithmetic and you'll realize that 1% daily improvements don't mean at 3.65x after a year, they mean >37x after a year.

Any change, to be sustainable, is incremental. Consistent improvement requires consistent improvement.

Finally, change means changing the current situation, not the situation at another time.

What does this mean?

First, candidly assess your current habits and results. Be specific, do not sugarcoat, and most certainly don't wallow. Write this down. Change requires taking responsibility, and the first step toward that is recognizing reality. Congratulations! You've had your first success.

Second, focus on how to be just 1% better. What is one sustainable improvement that you can make in each of diet and exercise, each week.

For example, for diet, forget calories for now. Week one, drop all sweet drinks. (Especially those with artificial sweeteners. These are profoundly sweeter than any natural ingredient and have been found to be highly addictive as a consequence.). Week two, drop "snacks," meaning anything sweet or salty that comes out of a bag or box. Just don't buy them at the grocery. Week three, start planning your dinner menu (and grocery list) a week ahead and shop only to that list. Week four, eliminate desserts. Week five, eliminate takeout. Week six, eliminate prepared foods, meaning anything that can be cooked in a microwave. Week seven, donate your microwave. Week eight, eliminate frozen foods and serve fresh veggies each night. Week nine, have seafood one night weekly (salmon is really good for you).

For exercise, week one, walk around the block each day. Week two, get up early and do it before breakfast so you don't miss a day. Week three, walk around two blocks. Week four, add some bodyweight exercises (calisthenics) each day. Planks, pushups, and squats. Just do what you can. Week five, walk a half mile. Do one more rep of each calisthenic daily. Week six, walk a mile on weekend days.

From the start, keep a daily log. Weight, diet, exercise (walk distance and time, plank seconds, number of squats). The numbers don't matter, but the routine of doing the things and recording them, does. This will help you plan your next improvement but more importantly, it will show progress and it has been shown that nothing is more motivating than progress. Recognize, too, that just sustaining the routine and consistent improvements is a success in itself even if the numbers on any given day ebb and flow, because the results will be a consequence of the routine, not the numbers.

Finally, keep going. Just focus on the next month and the next five pounds. You'll feel increasingly capable over time. Honestly, you easily could be running marathons in three years. Don't worry about that, though. Just know that there aren't any limits as long as you persist.

On the last point, NEVER, EVER MISS A SINGLE DAY!!! When you miss (we all miss), just start over the next day and don't double up, because that isn't sustainable.

This got me to lose my "Dad bod," a permanent 40-lb. weight loss, into my college-era blue jean size, and running 30 miles a week.

Good luck!

Nguempintacomeupinto · 2022-04-20T17:09:33+00:00

I’ve been married to my husband since I was 25, I’m now 44. We both gained weight over the years. Last summer, after an outing with his friends, my husband mentioned to me that one of his friends called me fat. I felt shame, and took it as an indirect cue. So I started to eat healthier (I already ran daily) and lost 15 lbs. Now, he’s making snide comments about how I look unhealthy or like a “crackhead”. I just can’t win. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, I guess. Good luck with your weight loss efforts, hopefully that’s the only issue, bcz I think the real issue in my case may be my husband’s attitude..

RoseSung · 2022-05-05T06:26:44+00:00

A good nighttime routine. Are your children bouncing off the walls and asking to watch tv at 11pm? Or are they in bed with their teeth brushed and all clean by 9pm? A poor nighttime routine will cause stress, fatigue, and a cranky mama. Poor sleep is a bad way to set the tone for the rest of day. You need a consistent nighttime routine and to get your beauty sleep. You need to wake up feeling energized in the morning and ready to take on the day. This is so important for your long term well-being.
Exercise and diet. If you want to lose weight I recommend drinking a lot of water. This is also great for your skin. I recommend eating smaller portions of food frequently throughout the day. Another recommendation is to eat more fruits and vegetables and to eat less carbs and meat. Follow this and you will lose weight overtime. Reward yourself here and there. Doing cardio like jogging will melt off body fat. If you set aside 30 minutes a day to jog then you’ll see results like that. The right exercises and diet will boost your self esteem and give you confidence. Try out different exercises and nutritional diets. See what works for you and makes you feel like a sexy mama.
Take good care of yourself. Ask hubby for a massage now and then. It can help alleviate your back pain, leg pain, and hip pain. Or schedule a massage at the spa every week or month. A chiropractor or physical therapy can alleviate your pain. Stand up/sit up straight and have good posture. The prettiest makeup a girl can wear is a smile!!!!! You can always go to the hair salon, nail salon, wear nice clothes, put on perfume, and put on beautiful makeup to make you feel more beautiful than you already are. It really is all about how it makes you feel at the end of the day.
REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE! Your husband definitely finds you attractive. He married you out of all women on this earth. You two created 8 children because he finds you sexy. Don’t put yourself down! Use your words to build yourself up. Look in the mirror when you wake up or when you go to bed and say things like “I am beautiful. I am confident. I am healthy. I am smart. I am kind.” to build yourself up!!!!! You will eventually believe it and your body will naturally act this way and other people will treat you this way.

Title	Red pill marriage…almost…
Author	OLOWalsingham
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Date	April 19, 2022 6:15 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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