I need advice. (status newbie)

LaPrimaVera · 2015-12-29T10:54:53+00:00

That stuck feeling, the loss of passion can be a symptom of depression, is there a chance that you're expecting too much too fast? I think the best suggestion would be to talk about this with a counselor, especially if you are still seeing the same one that saw you through the most of your recovery, they will have a better idea of where you are at and what a realistic expectation is. Other than that you could always look into the things your friends, family and SO are passionate about. Who knows seeing them passionate may get you going again.

Best of luck and be sure to take care of yourself :)

BrunoOh · 2015-12-29T12:08:33+00:00

Do you lift? Do you play a sport? Do you eat well?

Personally I find that when either of those isn't in order I start feeling down and depressed. Humans were made to be physically active.

scallopkid · 2015-12-29T06:28:46+00:00

How is your question related to RPW?

CoochQuarantine · 2015-12-29T07:05:47+00:00

If you look through my post history you'll find I asked the same question a little while ago. You may wanna read through that to see what people have answered before to get some ideas. I crochet a lot and love to do yoga in my free time. I'm sick now so my passion is redditing in the middle of the night while waiting for my medicine to do its thing. Lol.

closetrpw · 2015-12-29T14:44:14+00:00

Sign up for a fitness class like yoga or zumba or barre or something so that you have something holding you accountable to be at the gym regularly. There are actually tons of class deals on Groupon and LivingSocial!! Do you have a lot of girl friends? Sometimes just talking to them and catching up and seeing what they are up to can make you feel better. What is your situation? Are you working or studying? If not, maybe try and write or blog about something or read something that's maybe a bit higher reading level than reddit posts like a novel or something that makes you think. I know you're probably not motivated, but try and force it for even just an hour a day. Reddit gets old after a while :/

My hobbies are studying for the LSAT and Patent Bar because I was feeling stuck career wise. I also lift and try to dance when I can. I will say that one of the worst feelings for me is being out of the loop in my friend group so I have been trying to see my friends more often.

Eva623 · 2015-12-29T23:07:30+00:00

You may still be depressed but in a different way than before. My thoughts on ways to find yourself and inspiration would be to start having a routine directed towards growth in your life. Something quite important when dealing with depression is exercise, so maybe starting off the day with a short vigorous workout then whatever you plan out. I find hobbies easier to do if there is a reason, e.g to meet new people or to learn a skill that you find interest in or to challenge yourself to do something you have never done. So a little reflection on what you really want besides just passing the time will help. I also find that helping an unsuspecting person or group is a sure way to inspire yourself... I am not sure if any of that helps, would be happy to clarify, good luck! (My hobby now is work haha. Previously what I did in order to meet people and learn something new was join a jazz and hip hop dance group)

lauren_collins · 2015-12-29T06:40:26+00:00

my hobby is tennis and skateboarding, you can try thatmaybe. i think physical hobbies might put spark into you because of endorphins and stuff, and make you more lively and positive.

kalicutan · 2015-12-29T16:16:58+00:00

When I'm feeling stuck and depressed, I like to write down my feelings in a journal. It's kind of like having a mini pity party for myself. After I'm done writing though, that's it: no more wallowing. If you'd like, you could burn the page too. Then, I write one specific goal for myself for the day: it could be as small as doing a chore that you have had to do for a while, or calling up a friend, or exercising for 30 minutes. It's just one thing, so it doesn't seem hard. But I force myself to do it. After I finish it, I add another goal and repeat. Checking things off my list and seeing what I can accomplish really helps me and I hope it helps you too.

Good luck! I know how hard it can be to work yourself out of depression but take it one step at a time. Don't let yourself get overwhelmed and take some time to appreciate all the good things in your life.

Title	I need advice. (status newbie)
Author	gYpsytuesday
Upvotes	6
Comments	13
Date	December 29, 2015 5:52 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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