Identity crisis

Littleknownfacts · 2018-01-21T15:50:52+00:00

Do you guys have any tips or insights? Have you guys ever felt like this?

Yup. It's called baby rabies. I had/have it too, but I think I'm coming down from it now at ~28. I'm not sure there's anything you can do to make it stop sooner, if that's what you want.

It's really easy to make stupid mistakes when your hormones are all in a rush like this. Are you in a relationship?

Honey_Mommy_82 · 2018-01-21T18:03:29+00:00

It sounds like you have a really strong "nesting" urge and want to get a man and start a family... It's not exactly "babie rabies" that you're describing.

What I think your short term goal could be is to get more aggressive in finding a man to marry. And be upfront that you want to quit and be a stay at home mom.

HumanSockPuppet · 2018-01-22T01:35:06+00:00

Sounds like you feel guilty about letting a man do the earning while you stay at home doong "the easy housekeeping stuff". A common side effect of being raised in a feminized culture that disrespects the female role.

Get that idea out of your head pronto.

In reality, most men have the same lack of interest in housekeeping that you have in having a career. Don't let your guilt over earnings steer you into making a poor life choice.

If you effectively attract and hold onto a good man, he will be HAPPY to be a provider to you and any children you bear him.

The trick is to inspire that protective instinct in him. And you achieve that by being feminine, playful, supportive, loving, and obedient.

NothingNowhere22 · 2018-01-22T03:06:39+00:00

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to transition from career woman into home maker. It's a perfectly natural transition and most every women who does it successfully is happier for it. Many(not all) women finding working in the real world and having a career to just be a giant chore, while their true inclination is just to be in the home and making that place better for everyone.

You don't have to pursue a "career" but you do have to handle your own finances until you meet the man who will take care of you and your children for hopefully the rest of your life. A career is extremely overrated, but being able to make some money and help out with expenses is not. You shouldn't feel like you have to shackle yourself to a man and be 100% dependent on him, OR that you have to slave away to climb the corporate ladder either. There is a middle ground, and in my opinion women are best suited to jobs that you can pick up and put down and that are lower stress, mainly because of the far, far more important job of child birth and child rearing.

carefreevermillion · 2018-01-21T19:16:50+00:00

The idea that your identity is set in stone once you reach adulthood is ridiculous. You will always be evolving as your needs and environment change. So of course as you age you want to back off career and invest in relationships, it's the natural time to be doing that.

md8716 · 2018-01-22T21:11:50+00:00

Work to live, not live to work. You should find a job that lets you pay bills and offers a bit of independence, but allows you to pursue a robust personal life of good fitness, pursuing your own interests, socializing, and so forth. If you're interested in econ (I was), just buy a book and read about it. You don't need to make it your entire life.

You are far more likely to attract and meet a high quality partner when you are out and about in the community operating at peak physical, mental, emotional, spiritual (or "philisophical") and social health.

You can't put yourself out there if you're working 70 hours a week and spending the other hours drinking/eating away the stress and sleeping/recovering from work.

Title	Identity crisis
Author	Blueeyeddd
Upvotes	14
Comments	25
Date	January 21, 2018 12:30 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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