Lurker here. Swallowing the red pill was a b*tch for me. I've been in the United States Army since I was 17 (had to escape poverty somehow) and I just graduated college at age 30.

I scoffed at the idea of "hitting the wall." It seemed like revenge porn. I've been exercising my butt off (thanks, army) and my best friends are hairdressers (I look good with long platinum blonde hair). Then I realized more and more guys just wanted to have sex with me. The guys who I wouldn't go for were the only ones who wanted a relationship. Was this a sign of the wall?

Submitting to a man? Yeah, only if he was my boss or outranked me. That idea had been a foreign concept for me.

Well, a couple months ago on accident, I finally met someone. He's awesome. He's almost 29 and he's smart as hell. That's a major turn on. He has the perfect balance of alpha/beta traits.

I'm scared to heck to end up alone and single or have to settle with a beta. I started subconsciously doing RPW things- I don't challenge him on anything; but, I don't have to because he's so smart I can trust his lead. He's letting me basically live at his place rent free while I work at the army base and look for a civilian job.

I don't want to mess this one up. I clean and I am in charge of groceries and dinner. I dare not nag and I service him (if you know what I mean). He's already told me if he lands a higher paying job in CA, he wants me there with him. That's a scary thought for me-depending on a man. What scares me more is that I recognize his value as a man whose SMV is catching up with mine and he can always get a younger, hotter girl if he moves to a better location...such as CA.

What advice can you give me as a newbie at this stage in my life so that I can be set up for more success? I'm lucky to get to be his girlfriend.

He digs the fact that I'm military, educated, and "not crazy." He does have his beta traits. He vents about work to me, I have to sweetly get on him about eating healthy and exercising (he said he already has gotten comfortable!), and he could be more giving in the bedroom (if you know what I mean).