I’d love some thoughts on this issue. To be blunt I’m 24 and not getting any younger. And I meet.no.eligible.guys. None. 90 percent of guys I meet are married or in a relationship. The 10 percent who aren’t are flatly opposed to a relationship (like the last guy I was seeing briefly) or their values are hopelessly incompatible with mine, think male feminists. I don’t have a clue what to do to meet guys.

A bit of background on why I’m 24 and haven’t found anyone yet since I know it will come up. I was very awkward and dorky and didn’t have a clue in the relationship world in high school. One brief boyfriend but he and I were both so immature it didn’t last. By college I had started to come into my own but was soooo far behind with things like appearance that I wasn’t seen as much of a commodity in the dating world until age 20 (when I discovered the superficial level of the Red Pill) I learned to improve my looks and personality enough to attract the attention of a quality and somewhat RP aware man who I cared for very deeply. I was involved with him for the next two plus years. I was still very blue pill on the inside and our relationship was a roller coaster because I was a nagging shrew. Eventually because of my toxic behavior he broke things off completely. This was after we had graduated college. I was heartbroken. I thought for sure I was going to marry this guy. I spent about a year being so depressed I wasn’t interested in anyone or anything. This past year I’ve finally been able to snap out of that and get my act together. I’ve learned from my mistakes and am ready to try my hand at dating again. But now there’s no one around.

I know OL dating is an option but I really want to meet someone organically. I’m realistic about sexual strategy etc. but I’m still a hopeless romantic and don’t care for the interview style approach of online dating. So what are my other options? I live in a very large, very liberal city, with a low percentage of singles. I’m moving soon to an even larger and equally liberal city but one that has more singles and more traditionally minded people. I hope that will open opportunities. I go to church but all the guys are married, much younger, much older, or anti relationship. I’m the youngest person in my office by a solid few years and all my colleagues are engaged or married. Not really into the bar or club scene though I’ll go to a bar with my friends once in a blue moon. Help me. I’m at my wits end. Sorry this is so long!!