In a continuation of our Back to Basics Series, we decided that it was time to revisit some of the rules of the sub. The rules have grown and been redefined over the years but the core reason they exist is to keep RPW, RPW.

Along with the wiki and theory posts, the rules exist to help us give solid, RPW advice to newcomers (and veterans). We want you all to have a firm understanding of both the what and the why. This will help us to help others achieve their goals.

Let’s dive in:

Rule Three: Do not insult the community or it’s members

RPW values, truths, even harsh and unpleasant ones, over comforting lies. Do NOT insult any RP user or community in the network. Calling others out for bad or foolish behavior with the intent of helping them improve is encouraged. Harsh speech and direct insults for any reason, are not allowed. Ladies, do not badmouth your men.

 

This seems like a basic one but there are a few parts that merit additional information.  Working backwards: 

 

*Do not badmouth your men.

We do not condone our users to badmouth our significant others because, first of all, it is a bad reflection of ourselves. After all, if your man is an idiot/asshole/loser/creep, aren’t you just as much of an idiot/asshole/loser/creep for choosing to be with him? You probably aren’t, so it’s unproductive to paint your SO in that light too. Most of the time, insults like these are actually attempts to emasculate or vilify our men and victimize ourselves. That is not productive for seeking actionable advice within the context of healthy male-led relationships.

 

There is another part to this – do not badmouth an OP’s man. When you call someone’s SO, say, a simp, you. 

 

1.      Put her on the defensive. This is not  going to help you get through to her. It’s a terrible tactic if you are actually attempting to give actionable advice. Which leads to…

2.      It’s not actionable advice.  If it comes with advice it’s almost always either “Leave Him” (against the rules, more on that in another post) or “He should…” (against the rules, have we done the “you can only change yourself” rule yet? More on that in another post)

 

*Be nice to each other

 

This can be a tricky one because we value ”truths, even harsh and unpleasant ones, over comforting lies.”  There are quite a few times that we have received reports that a comment is “targeting or harassing me” and when we review the comment, it is quite clear that the reporter simply did not like what was being said. 

 

Rules of thumb: 

 

1.  Flat out insults are not ok. 

  1. Generally it is best to approach an OP in good faith and with the assumption that they are looking for help. Harshness should be a response to a difficult OP not a starting point.

  2. That doesn’t mean that you should validate every OP who comes through. Remember - truth over comforting lies

  3. Leeway is granted to long-time members who have already added value to the sub. If we know you, and you are a good contributor, then we aren’t going to tone police you the way we would with a random drive by commenter. 

 

  • Do not insult the community and it’s members

 

I saved this one for last, not because it was most important, but because it is the most divisive. We are part of The Red Pill community of subs. If for no other reason than this we are not a soap box to rail against TRP. 

 

There are other reasons too. A big part of understanding RPW is understanding that men and women are different. Inherent to this is that men and women often have different goals that only sometimes overlap. RPW is not for you to rant (about anything, but specifically) about why men are “bad” just because they are trying to achieve their sexual strategy goals, simply because it is unproductive to do so. We accept that not all TRP men have goals aligned with ours, and move on to more productive and pressing issues that actually affect our lives outside of the interwebs.