This is not in reference to my now (amazing) fiancé, but in reference to the previous serious relationship I had.

In light of a lot of women here holding on to relationships where the red flags are not just present, but glowing neon with warning sirens blaring, I want to bring light to the red flags I ignored in a previous relationship.

If any or all of these sound close to home or familiar, please consider your vetting process and heavily consider what your next steps are for your well-being and best interests.

  1. Punching walls. (I don't care what anyone says, it's a no for me. Shows no control of emotions, especially anger.)

  2. "You're not standard beautiful but I don't like beautiful girls" (trying to undermine your confidence)

  3. "If you had to choose between me or your family who would you choose?" (I don't think I need to clarify this one)

  4. Screams at and mistreats pets and you. (anger again)

  5. If you have ever tried to leave a relationship and they manipulate or coerce you into staying...leave harder.

  6. Making you feel guilty for not wanting their criminal friends in your house.

  7. Forcibly making you not clean or cook, and instead do drugs and eat and be lazy.

  8. Making you feel guilty when they fail at something. Like it's your fault they failed or you did something wrong to cause them to fail.

  9. Isolating you from your friends and loved ones. Basically isolating your world view.

  10. No care. For example eating all your food and leaving you a corner of a crust of pizza after getting home from a double shift. (I had the low self-worth to say well at least you saved me something. I am sad for the woman I was in this relationship)

Ladies, feel free to post other red flags here to create a thread where we can help these women who are constantly asking vetting questions how to spot a man that is not worth marrying.

And if this is not a good post to make I apologize, I haven't been active in this subreddit in a while.