Hi

So I’ve posted here before about similar stuff but I’m really struggling. I think the problem is I’m not sure how to be with him , I feel like I’m being way too soft and a doormat and him and his mother are just playing games and annoying me.

At the moment I have a problem and I’m aware that my usual method of going along with what he wants just isn’t working for me. I’m just getting more and more anxious and resentful.

Last week I just didn’t know how to react. His son rang up about something ex was in background wanting money. His mother rang immediately about this to which he point blank told her what he’s doing about son.

He’s been telling me he’s not speaking to ex and him n his mother not getting along too great but this is clearly not the case so I felt angry and upset that I keep feeling like WE are not really a team, THEY are.

Also his mother keeps messing me around also and he lets her. I’ve been informed that she is coming to pick me up but has an appointment so it might be half an hour earlier or even an hour later. She also does detours to various crap on the way and I’m sitting there like an idiot. I’m so fed up of this crap and I’m noping out of her picking me up tomorrow

I feel guilty all the time like I can’t upset them or her, I’m not dating her but I need to somehow address all this crap with him in some way?

Last week I went on a bit of a rant via text which is unlike me and felt angry and sad. Is there some way I can bring up these things, bring him these problems? For him to sort out as it’s not my mother it’s his stuff etc. Yet he says my texts hurt him, probably because he got some truth in there

I feel like he won’t listen as mummy rules but also she’s loud and shouty and controlling and he’s used to that but my way isn’t working? Do I have to resort to her ways?

I struggle between being submissive and feeling like crap COs am being a doormat to being too ranty and turning him off me but I’ve been bottling up stuff for ages but also feeling guilty if I say anything. I used to be more feisty before him and would say what I needed to say.

If you got this far thank you so much and thanks for any help in advance 🙂