A gentleman died last night

nicethingyoucanthave · 2013-05-24T16:13:20+00:00

Here's what happened: she liked you.

She probably liked you before you met her, before you said or did anything to her. She liked the way you looked; your physique or your height or maybe the clothes you wore. She liked the way you interacted with other people; maybe she saw you with friends or even just interacting with strangers.

Or she may have just decided, "tonight I'm going to have sex."

Regardless, not opening the door for her isn't what made her like you. And if you had opened the door, it wouldn't have hurt your chances.

I did not give a compliment.

Compliments on the other hand can hurt your chances. So, good job on that one.

It remains a numbers game. Congratulations on last night. You're still going to have a lot of rejections, red pill or no.

socal83 · 2013-05-24T14:45:48+00:00

lol the next phase in your redshift is disbelief as to how brainwashed the blue pillers are.

p.s. i'm coining the phrase redshift as applied to TRP right now. trademark!

dropit_sphere · 2013-05-24T14:43:38+00:00

Add "gentleman" to the long train of words ruined in modernity. Similar to "creep," it is now relegated as an indicator of female sentiment, devoid of objective meaning.

The word gentleman originally meant something recognisable; one who had a coat of arms and some landed property. When you called someone "a gentleman" you were not paying him a compliment, but merely stating a fact. If you said he was not "a gentleman" you were not insulting him, but giving information. There was no contradiction in saying that John was a liar and a gentleman; any more than there now is in saying that James is a fool and an M.A. But then there came people who said - so rightly, charitably, spiritually, sensitively, so anything but usefully - "Ah but surely the important thing about a gentleman is not the coat of arms and the land, but the behaviour? Surely he is the true gentleman who behaves as a gentleman should? Surely in that sense Edward is far more truly a gentleman than John?" They meant well. To be honourable and courteous and brave is of course a far better thing than to have a coat of arms. But it is not the same thing. Worse still, it is not a thing everyone will agree about. To call a man "a gentleman" in this new, refined sense, becomes, in fact, not a way of giving information about him, but a way of praising him: to deny that he is "a gentleman" becomes simply a way of insulting him. When a word ceases to be a term of description and becomes merely a term of praise, it no longer tells you facts about the object: it only tells you about the speaker's attitude to that object. (A 'nice' meal only means a meal the speaker likes.) A gentleman, once it has been spiritualised and refined out of its old coarse, objective sense, means hardly more than a man whom the speaker likes. As a result, gentleman is now a useless word. We had lots of terms of approval already, so it was not needed for that use; on the other hand if anyone (say, in a historical work) wants to use it in its old sense, he cannot do so without explanations. It has been spoiled for that purpose.

~C.S. Lewis.

Gentle-Mang · 2013-05-24T18:07:48+00:00

I think you've had a taste of what you could have, but as you said in a comment you 'acted'. You don't want to act, you want to be yourself.

You don't have to refuse to hold doors open or be aloof or put on any kine of show. You do things because you want to do them, not because you're trying to impress her or get validation from her, and not because its part of some persona that you feel you have to adopt.

The key is freedom from dependence on outcomes and freedom from having your confidence depend on validation from others, especially the girl. That's where real power comes from and that's what I think TRP is about

[deleted] · 2013-05-24T16:02:31+00:00

acting aloof and not giving a fuck > nice guy

all day everyday

favours_of_the_moon · 2013-05-25T01:51:58+00:00

Very often if you open doors, pull out chairs, give compliments, a woman will think that you are a pathetic little bitch trying to kiss up to her in order to garner favor.

She will think you are a sycophant.

That's not what chivalry is about.

[deleted] · 2013-05-24T21:26:37+00:00

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James_Coook · 2013-05-24T15:39:36+00:00

Details man. Your brothers need details. Was it the kino or the cocky funny that helped you?

Pubesaurus · 2013-05-24T14:43:54+00:00

I applaud the.

GrayFoxHops · 2013-05-24T19:53:01+00:00

I would agree that holding the door open is a risky move these days. Transgressive/liberal/feminist girls hate that kind of stuff. You have to know the views of the girl, really.

IMO:

Conservative girl: Walk slightly ahead. Hold open the door for her and let her walk past you, putting your hand on her lower back.
Liberal girl: Let her walk slightly in front of you, perhaps with a hand on her back. Let her open the door as you both walk in.

HippieHero · 2013-05-24T20:40:14+00:00

I really wish you dudes would go into further detail. Define "fairly physical". Did you touch her arm?

I'm not trying to be a smartass, I'd just like to know how all this is working.

[deleted] · 2013-05-24T16:43:34+00:00

lol who actually does any of that shit anyway besides complete betas

Title	A gentleman died last night
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Date	May 24, 2013 2:15 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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