Advice for a twenty year-old Omega?

DougieTheCaker · 2014-10-24T04:59:32+00:00

I think some form of companionship would help you greatly. You don't want to live life in your head or on the internet. Making some friends, having conversations, doing activities etc, all while focusing on the important things / goals in life sounds like a good route for you.

RedOverdose · 2014-10-24T05:26:08+00:00

First off: this belongs in /r/asktrp , but I will answer anyway. It's very long, but you would really benefit from reading the entire thing. Please do.

I know how tough it can be to finally be snapped out of the frame of catering to woman and being a romantic, and you may feel hopeless at times. If you have lurked for a while, you may have seen that "the red pill is hard to swallow". While the analogy isn't exactly my favorite, it's true. It will suck for a while, you may feel lost or confused.

However, it is important to know that you have already taken the first step. You have found this subreddit, which has been very influential in many peoples life's. I can say that I was once in a position like yours, as well as many other RedPillers, and it isn't unsalvageable. It will be a long journey, but it is worth it.

You say you have no hobbies or passions. That's an issue. I don't know you, but you mentioned you used to love lifting, metal music, drawing, and being competitive. Lifting, which you will know if you've stuck around for a while, is an incredibly important part of the redpill. If you need more information on that, it's practically everywhere. Get into some more metal if that's what you want. Learn guitar, another very worthy hobby to have.

I personally love drawing, it's a great way to practice patience and in the end you have something awesome to look at that you can say "Wow, I really tried and I made that". Like all skills, you won't be the best at first but it comes with time and practice. As for competition, look into joining some kind of MMA if you are interested. I'm not sure what your community offers, but a quick google or asking someone could surely yield some results. Sounds like you have an interest in mechanical engineering, make sure you maintain your passion there and kick ass in it every day.

I know how much easier it sounds to just cruise the internet free of risk or possible harm, but put yourself out there and really commit. If you actually want to improve your life, this is your opportunity. You are still young, you can be whoever you want. I know that sounds like a corny kids presentation, but really think about that. You can walk anywhere that you want to, and no one will know a thing about you. Act however you want, try taking risks and making friends. Success comes from rejection, you won't get anywhere if you never try.

Last thing:

Right now, I don't give a a shit about girls/sex/dating because I have much bigger problems than getting my dick wet and slippery.

This sounds like hamstering to me. You are coming here to improve yourself, but girls and sex are always a nice thing to have going for yourself. Take a while to really understand the RedPill, and then apply what you learn. Make some friends and develop some hobbies. You are going to fuck up. Lots of times. But you will be recognizing it, and you can fix it. You really have to commit if you want to improve your life.

Varrian · 2014-10-24T06:58:33+00:00

The first thing that everyone who takes the Pill should do is a couple months of Monk mode. This is my personal opinion and may not apply to you. Monk mode is the time you take to restructure yourself: get a new look, start gyming, get your mindset straigtened and work on your career/studies etc.

Once you have your bullets ready, you can start the gunslinging action and pump them bitches full of lead...or something else.

kempff · 2014-10-24T05:36:16+00:00

Tons of advice.

But first, just dedicate yourself to self-improvement. Then come back and talk about it.

I'm a twenty year-old Omega

Repeat after me: "I am an alpha-in-training"

early masculine behaviors(liking heavy/industrial metal music, drawing guns, driven by competition in everything, etc.)

Hold on a second. Virtue is the masculine behavior, not taste in music or firearms or fighting.

Not to toot my own horn, but, I'm as alpha as fuck and I like Gregorian chant and listen to Beethoven. When it comes to guns, I prefer compound bows. And I love port wine - the good stuff, get out your card - and white burgundies.

And I have begonias on my front porch.

Come over here and tell me what you think constitutes masculine behavior.

Just get big and read the sidebar man.

KyfhoMyoba · 2014-10-24T21:11:18+00:00

Here's some advice you probably haven't heard or will hear anywhere else.

Join Toastmasters^TM. Learn public speaking. There is a phenomenon called "The Podium Effect". A man automatically becomes more attractive when he's the one behind the podium. Put 1000 guys of identical SMVs in a room, and the women will want the one that's speaking behind the podium.

Good skill for business, too. Think about how many people hate, HATE public speaking. Fear of public speaking ranks higher than fear of death, statistically. If you can do it, and do it well, it puts you in the top couple of percent of people.

I'd be interested to hear from anyone else that has noticed an increase in their SMV because of their public speaking.

circlhat · 2014-10-24T05:14:25+00:00

You remind me of myself and at your age I would focus on career and establishing yourself. Figure out how to make money and support yourself.

A good portion of why I am is because of how I was raised: by a "strong" mother who was a teacher, a bitchy sister and a gay, feminine brother, all of who looked down on my natural and early masculine behaviors(liking heavy/industrial metal music, drawing guns, driven by competition in everything, etc.). I'm sure you can figure out the rest of it.

Sadly the only advice I have is move on and forget about this, you can't change the pass you can only warn others.

What advice would you give an Omega male?

Stop calling yourself a Omega male first starters , you define who you are.

As for social skills I notice something very interesting from social butterflies. They repeat the same thing over and over if it is good and draws a lot of energy. Think of them as Call of Duty, same thing every year but always a best seller.

I use the same method went on a few dates, and keep a list of all the lines and conversational techniques others have used. I use this as a social crutch when I lose flow in conversation I always have a story or a follow up question to ask.

My list is always growing but as I get better I don't feel a need for it as much as I use too.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-10-24T16:12:54+00:00

Monk mode my brother.

You are NOT a natural Omega. You were raised that way and you can overcome it.

Let me tell briefly you about your history. Your direct ancestors killed every deadly large animal with sticks and their bare hands. They also killed most of our related human ancestors and raped their women. They were fierce warriors, and merciless killers! You descend from a million year line of ferocious predators who conquered the world. You are a human being and an apex predator. More importantly, you are a MAN.

A few years of social conditioning cannot destroy the million years of blood, sweat, and victory flowing in your veins! Forward!

zuk1 · 2014-10-24T07:46:51+00:00

What is an omega? Not defined in glossary.

Mightaswellmakeone · 2014-10-24T09:56:32+00:00

Colleges usually haves clubs, sports, activities, etc. If you haven't tried it already, spend time going to a variety of them over the next three weeks (including the Halloween events). After that try to stick to 3-4. After that occasionally adjust based on what you like (replace old clubs with new clubs, etc.)

Also invite people you meet to other things. Sometimes the difference between making friends is a lack of invitation.

joaquim56 · 2014-10-24T19:32:33+00:00

You're learning all of this at the right time. Good for you.

I wouldn't call you an Omega. You've had a GF, which puts you above many at your age, even though it ended poorly. You're still young, though.

Focus on building your SMV. Read the side bar of course as well.

Really start getting out of your comfort zone. That' the biggest thing. Pursue things that scare you--public speaking, approaching women, traveling, and doing great at school to make sure you're being set up for a great career.

You're in college, so join clubs and don't retreat to video games and Internet surfing.

__dicked__ · 2014-10-24T17:17:42+00:00

Some ideas, just based on my own experience:

1) Your school probably has racquetball or ping pong in the rec facility. Go there and find a pick up game. This is probably a better way to meet men than women but having guy friends is very important, anyway.

2) I know this sounds lame, but a lot of fit, attractive, interesting women go to contra (Irish square) dancing, and very few dudes. If you want a good f:m ratio, I have seen almost no better activity out there. See if they have that in your city. They do in the NE and NW. It isn't like Salsa dancing where you have to be good at it.

3) Pick up a musical instrument. Talent is the only thing men can acquire that completely trumps physical attractiveness. I know in this sub lots of people consider alpha males to be tall and fit but talent is better. Most people would consider me very attractive but I have been envious of several ugly dudes in my life that were talented musicians.

4) Don't put aside your hobbies when you meet a girl. That's what girls do when they meet guys, and most find it unattractive when men do it.

[deleted] · 2014-10-24T05:28:25+00:00

Join clubs at your college, preferably a fraternity. A strong sense of brotherhood is invaluable for your confidence and in life.

pureimpurity · 2014-10-24T05:10:20+00:00

Find hobbies that you are passionate about. Develop skills that will assist you in getting a solid job out of college. Lift, gain muscle mass, find positive masculine role models/friends, and dabble in risky but not overly dangerous behavior. Read books and flex your mental muscles. Stay away from bad influences or at least minimize exposure. Increase your testosterone levels. Don't ever complain. From now on, you are responsible for everything that happens to you.

antidoxdevice · 2014-10-24T11:15:01+00:00

Lift, take up a sport, focus on your degree etc

Im not sure how long you have left, but in the UK most people finish uni by 21, if thats true for you then focus on getting a job in a big city.

This is going to be unpopular, but consider a career other then mech eng, theres no women and the money isnt event that great.

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