Building a Redpill friend group - throw your ideas in!

kdunning · 2016-11-06T19:37:02+00:00

Still focus on those friends even with your difference in ideology.

Lead by example.

Occasionally I'll predict what will happen in their love life and over time as I've been right, they've become more Red and less Blue.

I wouldn't go out of your way to make "RP" friends. That's not a good reason for friends.

Live your life, attract bitches, attract good male companionship. But don't go out of your way to find something like a hole to fill.

Onemanwolfpack23 · 2016-11-06T20:08:36+00:00

There will always be betas.

Just do you.

You don't need "rp" friends.

Just avoid hanging out with low value betas.

Yorknew · 2016-11-07T02:26:11+00:00

Pretty much all of my bros are either athletes (mostly basketball and football), "trap niggas" (drug dealers), musicians, or womanizers. Some are 3/4 of those things.

Pretty much all of my friends are confident, intensely loyal (to me) dudes who have no problem getting women or replacing them. I never have to worry about them throwing me under the bus for women, money etc because 1) our bonds are very strong, from years of being like brothers 2) they have an abundance.

A lot of betas are decent guys but don't have an abundance and will throw you under the bus for even a wiff of pussy. So all in all, I suggest in making friends with known womanizers/players. You'll probably learn a lot and you don't have to worry about being betrayed for a female (unless he's a horndog with no brotherly morals. Some men are like that.)

blackedoutfast · 2016-11-06T21:38:30+00:00

Polarization. Don't try to find RP people and befriend them, that's too much work. Instead just be RP as fuck and make an effort to always meet new people and it will happen naturally. Hardcore BP guys (and SJW type women) cannot stand to be around popular RP guys. At first they will try to shame you for being RP and shit-test you. Don't try to argue or apologize or tone it down. Just laugh it off, agree and amplify, and own it. When shit tests and shaming don't work they will try to kick you out of the group. But when that happens all the cool people will take your side because most people would rather be around a fun, positive, straight up RP guy than some butthurt BP beta male feminist. The purpose of constantly meeting new people isn't so that one day you will have 10,000 friends, it's so you can constantly upgrade the quality of your social groups.

After a few iterations of this you will have a social group that doesn't just tolerate your RP antics, but actually defends you.

You will always have some lame BP dudes hanging around, especially if you are always doing fun stuff and throwing wild parties and have a lot of cool guys and hot girls around you. Don't worry about those guys. They don't have the social skills or status to move up in the hierarchy or to cause a successful split. They know that they don't have the juice to take you on directly, so they just circle at the edges and try to use you as a foil for their whiteknighting (which you laugh off).

Auvergnat · 2016-11-06T21:15:25+00:00

I disagree with answers in here arguing we should stay isolated lone wolves.

I told about the red pill to one friend who understood and accepted it. I knew it was a dangerous thing to do but he seemed ready and he was understanding and agreeing every time I'd drop some increasingly red idea to him, until I told him about the Rational Male blog. He doesn't live here but we chat often online and just that one red pill contact is just great to keep one's sanity in a blue world. But it's still stupid to try to unplug friends. The risks are just enormous.

I met one natural redpiller once (that is, someone with no idea of the existence of the manisphere). An old taxi driver in Australia. It felt awesome to talk with someone who shared ideas and knowledge. Would have made a great mentor had I been living in his city.

Those two experiences make me convinced of the importance of meeting red pill aware people.

I suggest contacting directly users (on this sub and on other forums such as ROK) who casually dropped a piece of info indicating that they live in the same city as you. Your post history should be enough to convince them you're not a troll. And then see if they're open to the idea to chat, then to meet.

I haven't implemented it yet because I live in a place that is too small to find anyone, but I plan to do it as soon as I move to the city. Then you'll start reading occasionally hints at where I live, and I'll welcome direct contact.

[deleted] · 2016-11-06T23:24:09+00:00

My friend groups tend to be pretty mixed. I have idealistic blue pill friends who proudly say "I'm with her" while reading some Allen Ginsberg poetry as well as more "alpha" / chad type friends who just lift weights, drink beer, make offensive jokes, and watch sports.

I think it's important to have a rather diverse friend group where not everyone's the same. Someone might be blue pill but it's good to have different opinions and ideas thrown at you now and then.

What's important is not befriending losers/mooches/leeches. Or someone spineless enough to throw you under the bus if it's advantageous to them. People like this come in all shapes and sizes and they fucking suck no matter how red or blue they might be. Also, by associating with them you might be giving yourself a bad rep.

ChadsBrother · 2016-11-07T16:37:24+00:00

I came across this same problem and I am sure it is a common one for most people on this site. The answer is a lot of hard work. As you are transitioning out of being BP and into RP, true RP men wont fully respect you or see you as valuable, because you haven't done enough to deserve it.

-Work hard at your career and search out careers where RP traits are rewarded instead of punished.

-Work hard at lifting and RP men will want to lift with you

-Sports are a great option. Certain sports are more likely to RP than others. There are "fake" alphas everywhere. It should be easy with time for you to tell the difference.

-Hobbies. Real Alphas have things they are passionate about, a purpose. Find yours and other RP men will notice and want to contribute.

-Meet everyone you can everywhere you can. Even from the first two second glance you should be able to tell if the guy has the potential to be a RP man. Does he have style, confidence, charisma? If so, talk to him. Be social all day every day.

[deleted] · 2016-11-06T21:32:22+00:00

I hang with a mix of blue pill and red pill guys. The red pilled guys go to the gym, pickup women. The blue pills put women on pedestals. We still get along pretty well. I honestly don't see why it matters. Self improvement is for the self. Unless having bluepill friends is somehow holding you back, I don't see the issue.

a_war_of_ideas · 2016-11-06T20:53:59+00:00

As you make new acquaintances just keep your eyes open to what they say and how they act. Before you know it you'll start to get a sense of if they are RP or at least RP inclined if they don't actually read it. If they're someone you could see yourself being friends with, work to pursue that. I would advise against overtly talking about TRP in most cases though.

_the_shape_ · 2016-11-07T01:36:06+00:00

Cliche, but zero in first and foremost on what you can control. Let both what you do and what you don't do speak on your behalf in order to communicate what you're about.

Working out consistently and keeping in tip-top shape tells others that you value your health.
Judiciously selecting what you eat contributes to the same story.
Dramatically limiting (or better still, completely removing) smoking, drinking, drugs etc. also says you prioritize your health.
How you handle your time away from work communicates the value you place on your free time.
What you do for a living (and why) will speak plenty about you. If you are not in the position that you'd like to be in (career-wise), what are you doing to remedy it? This also speaks volumes.
Finally, success with women. My advice is that you reserve brutal red-pill truths for the uninitiated who've recently arrived at TRP's doorstep. In your "real life", avoid preaching to others how they ought to handle their love lives (i.e. drain the blue-pill blood running through their veins) and try to rub shoulders with other men who seem to already 'get it' (as in, already are good with women).

You're only going to raise the odds of being severely disappointed if your aspiration is to bring together and build a true-blue (heh) red-pill community. Look for those who are red-pill-esque, who have more red than blue, whose blue you find worthwhile of tolerating for the sake of whatever red they have to offer etc.

nzgs · 2016-11-07T11:23:48+00:00

Successful private-sector men in their 30s who take care of themselves, avoid marriage and play women tend to be very red pill even if they never realise it. Having worked in a yuppie gym there were a lot of these types who expressed red pill views in private.

Its_Mr_Bigglesworth · 2016-11-07T15:46:32+00:00

Could use a group. Following TRP has improved my life by leaps & bounds. But a side effect is I journey alone now. Some friends turned on me once they saw me rise to new levels. Some friends are still friends but can't keep up because they're comfy & getting left in my dust. And the thoughts and inner pain do build up from time to time with no outlet. Some like-minded individuals, even gym buddies would be pretty cool as opposed to words on a screen

desno · 2016-11-07T18:44:29+00:00

most people have said I've changed. Girls who were friends with me were horrified but now seem to have accepted it, although they seem more weary to introduce me to their friends haha. Guys are praising me, some wing-manning me even more because they realise it's likely to happen, others are bitter but generally see me as an inspiration seeing as I was a quiet nice guy before, so they can relate to my "before" and it gives them hope of being in my position at the "after" (By no means am I yet satisfied with where I'm at, but it's clear that there's a different air about me)

In conclusion, my friend groups haven't changed. I wittle away at their bp mindset, because they clearly want what I have, but are still stuck in their bp ways. Obviously sugarcoat the language. One friend was amazed at how little I text the girls, he said he "felt bad for her" that I dont give them much attention. Then I explained that, every guy does that, so by not texting her, she's actually thinking about me more than the guys who regularly text her, hence I stand out. That's an example, you get the idea (I hope)

__ROOSTER__ · 2016-11-07T02:02:30+00:00

give out copies of The Way of Men to guys you think might bite.

Start lifting and boxing at proper gyms

drop comments on FB and see who bites. Organize get togethers of potential people (activities not just beer)

Most my longterm friends are at least half way there and some are more than half way. Ive also added people who are all the way there over that last years using FB mostly.

LOST_TALE · 2016-11-07T02:25:05+00:00

If it's ancap and conspiracy ok, then I'm in. If it's either statist or shit hurling, nah.

iliketreeslikereally · 2016-11-07T08:49:31+00:00

I'm from Eastern Europe, we do have many beta men but my circle of friends has naturally been filled in by strong, normal men (and the ones that are only partially there, we all try to help) - the redpill here is society's common sense, open and shameless, all you have to do is listen and read less garbage off the internet. Finding decent men ain't hard.

A woman I live with (shared flat) who is very rp has had 4 boyfriends, of whom one was American.

To give you an idea, he told her he wouldn't call her "sexy" because that's offensive to women lol fucking made me and all of my friends laugh. She says the American dude is the only one she is now disgusted by, while somewhat missing and still having feelings for the other 2 of her ex-boyfriends (as she put it, "any girl will get a strong flashback of everything she ever felt for him as soon as she encounters him"). Except for Bob. Poor guy.

Unrelated:

The interesting thing is that one of her exes was a beta, too, but he was more of a mix of alpha and beta qualities. She dumped him because (I think) she got bored in the end, but at the same time he was still authoritative and he'd forbid her to do certain things and tell her how to act, so she remebers him fondly. Says it was her best boyfriend. (The only one she fucked btw, except for me)

Fnaut3187 · 2016-11-07T09:41:58+00:00

I was pretty much an outcast until the age of 17. Had a small group of friends during my bachelor and masters studies. Usually for gaming, star wars night and other nerdy stuff. Lol!

Post trp, I made some new friends who are very different to my old group. This happened due to the kind of discussions I got into. I regularly meet new/regular people in a language cafe where we practice different languages. My new friends had similar views about feminism, Cultural Marxism that is destroying the society. Maybe something like this will help you.

7thAnvil · 2016-11-07T22:56:08+00:00

I have a group of about 4 I hang with regularly and 3 more occasionally. Recruited all of them myself (although several were more or less living RP lives already). If anyone is in AZ and wants to possibly meet up at some point PM me and we can exchange more info.

favours_of_the_moon · 2016-11-06T19:19:14+00:00

Freemasonry. Martial arts groups. Patriot movement. Churches, if your're into that sort of thing.

villa_gotaha · 2016-11-06T23:45:47+00:00

I might be disappointing you, but I don't find it necessary to build a redpill friend group. That's not to say if you do run into likeminded people, you shouldn't capitalize on the opportunity. You very fucking should. But believe it or not, most soldiers, hunters, martial artists, rednecks, weightlifters, etc. are blue pill; just like the majority of men.

That doesn't mean you can't have a beer and hang with bluepill guys. Tons of bluepill dudes are cool minus the interaction with women. Just don't talk about your redpill beliefs. Focus on the specific hobby you guys share. That's what I've noticed. Men don't build close friends through socialization. They bond through hobbies.

harsha_hs · 2016-11-07T09:38:53+00:00

I think, it is more fun to be the hero in a circle of betas than an ordinary guy in RP group.

All my friends and social circle is full of betas. I naturally lead, and they respect me. Also, few know that I have slept with girls in friend circle, that again makes them look upto me.

Title	Building a Redpill friend group - throw your ideas in!
Author	lozboss
Upvotes	52
Comments	47
Date	November 6, 2016 7:01 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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