Census bureau propose a stop to tracking divorce rates

notseriouslyserious

January 8, 2015

10 upvotes

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Title	Census bureau propose a stop to tracking divorce rates
Author	notseriouslyserious
Upvotes	10
Comments	28
Date	January 8, 2015 4:12 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2rr4y5/census_bureau_propose_a_stop_to_tracking_divorce/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/census-bureau-propose-a-stop-to-tracking-divorce.27718 https://theredarchive.com/post/27718

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I just turned 29 and most of my friends are married and beginning to/have kids. The theme I noticed the most is that as soon as the kids came, my friends turned into walking ATMs/handbags/child care providers. Not to say that having kids shouldn't increase your responsibilities, but it seemed like the majority of it fell on the husband. And then the wife gets on Facebook to whine about how the baby didn't sleep through the night and kept her from getting her beauty rest. Well your husband dealt with that too, and is at work to boot, you assface.

I went to Brazil for the World Cup this summer, and the amount of envy I received from them could power my car to the moon if it was an energy source. I could see the sadness in their eyes when I asked if they wanted to go and they said "I'd love to, but..."

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[–]smoothjazzanarchist0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

You're young as fuck. You're just a bit older than me and there's no way I'm reading to get married, let alone have two children. You don't know what the future will bring. Some marriages are happy for 10 years and then they go down the drain. What if you lose your job? What if you can't keep yourself in check and start falling into beta-behaviours that turn your wife off? Can you insure you'll always give her the tingles and the financial support that makes a true, healthy, redpill marriage? The reason the stance of this subreddit is that we should avoid marriage is because it's a HUGE risk and not everyone can be an Alpha Provider.

If you're not 100% sure you met LTR-material that you can keep happy, horny and faithful, then you're risking a lot more than you're gaining. A divorce will bleed your wallet dry, severely decrease your ability to prosper in life and set back your career goals. It could leave you lonely and miserable if you haven't done a good job maintaining your SMV in a happy marriage.

Love is not enough. Kids are not enough. You have to be solid, successful, attractive, in control and find a woman who wants to be provided for and is willing to please you.

I have to ask, why are you defending marriage here?

TRP knows that there are Redpill marriages and that they can work. The reason you have to defend it is because modern-day marriage isn't the same as traditional marriage.

[–]TrainingTheBrain 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Age has nothing to do with this as we are all walking our own path. I may have started a family earlier and you may have started school earlier. Being in the military I had the opportunity to start a family, get experience surviving on my own, be exposed to things that may have shaped my mind to mature faster, and get an education, albeit a little slower than someone who started college right out of high school. So while I have a family and a Bachelor’s degree at 27 you may be single, being supported by your parents, and have your Master’s degree (Not saying you are but you see my point).

The risk that comes with marriage should be known to every man in this country. But don’t let your fear of what might happen prevent you from taking action. I have no idea what will happen tomorrow, none of us do. So, we make ourselves as prepared and ready for the unknown as we can.

I work out hard, continue to educate myself, lead with a firm but fair hand, always improving my sexual performance, and consistently setting the standard in the professional side of my life. What more could any man do?

I’ve said it before and I recommend it now. If you were to find your ‘Unicorn’ and thought about getting married & raising a family, you had better put her through the fucking gauntlet to ensure that you are gambling on a horse that is going to be winning for the long run – LIFE.

I defend marriage because someone has to step back and say, “Wait, marriage and LTRs can work, but they are risky and will require much more work than spinning plates.”

As for your point regarding traditional marriage vs ‘modern day marriage all I have to say is this. I don’t give a fuck what either of those mean or why there are different labels. In my eyes and that if my wife’s, we are married for life, through arguments and disagreements, etc. Marriage is a life commitment to another person and the only reason I would recommend marriage to a fellow man is if he plans to have children.

I wanted kids, I got married and had kids, I never stopped being the leader of my clan and I will continue to be the Family Alpha as it is who I am, not something I do.

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Women in general hold men to one standard, and expect men to hold them to another. Whenever she wants gratitude/respect/love/etc., she wants you to take into account everything that she's done for you in the past.

On the flip side, she is primarily interested in what you have to offer her now. It doesn't matter how much testing you've put into a woman, it doesn't matter how much you've demonstrated a substantial leveraging of status, etc., all that matters is what you have today.

You could have been a famous, attractive, wealthy man most of your life, and she could have stood by your side for ages being the most loyal, interesting, pleasant and desirable partner ever... but the second you slip up, even if a minor fracture, you'll notice her interest in you wane.

All men are at risk. Like the motto goes around here, "Marriage is TRP on hard mode." It is not for most men, even though most men desire to be married and have kids some day.

The men who have a false notion of, "I've tested this woman endlessly, and she's passed all my tests... and we've been married for some time now and she's continued to stay strong... I'm ready to start a family with this woman and everything will be alright."

A man who goes into a marriage knowing fully well what he is risking, is a man who has prepared himself for the consequences of being burned, but that doesn't make him any less likely to be burned.

The safest men are the ones whose own value far exceeds that of their partners. Think superstar athlete with overweight female.

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I don't have a fucking clue why you would, I know why I do. You're the one commenting on someone else's situation like you know what the fuck you're talking about.

Your male hamster machine is in overdrive.

I'm not making my situation fit my own reality. I took a very realistic approach to getting to the point I'm at and I chose to marry someone who made it through my screening process and then I reproduced with her.

The other option of never having kids wasn't what I wanted. It's also the reason I don't comment on what other's should choose when it comes to family or marriage. An Alpha does as an Alpha wants, men saying blanket statements like your, "being married with two kids sounds absolutely miserable" is fucking weaksauce.

Maybe I could make it work, you have no idea. So why not ask how, or why I chose to instead of leading a pointless discussion?

Edit: Spelling

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