I Met this girl S at my friends apt during a pregame. We flirt a little bit when we meet and we all head out to a bar of my choosing to meet up with my friend group.

Luckily for me my friend group contains guys and hot girls so I’ve already got the preselection box checked.

One of the girls in this group is usually extra friendly to me and I can tell the girl I like, “S” is a getting a little jealous about it. We all continue drinking and chatting.

Dance-o’clock strikes and we decide to head to a nearby bar where we can dance and have fun. We get to the bar. Me, showing experience / leadership, decide to take S upstairs to “the best place to leave your jacket.” She follows me and we lay down our jackets, I lead her back to the dance floor and we start dancing / making out.

We decide to leave / do the deed etc.

Now here’s where I screw up.

I SUGGEST WE GET BREAKFAST IN THE MORNING!!!

In my post sex afterglow pillow talk fuzzy feelings 2AM beta explosion, I actually decided to invite this girl out to breakfast in the morning.

My alarm goes off at 8:15am ( I always set an alarm on the weekend) it’s a great way to eject. I suggest sleep overs but not sexless morning time cuddles - save that for a wife or serious LTR. Sleepover, but leave early in the morning. 10/10 times She will try to pull you back into bed.

BUT BEING THE BETA I STILL AM DEEP INSIDE, I say, “haha I don’t have anywhere to be, we can just lay here until breakfast!”

We chat and kiss and cuddle and go to breakfast.

We go our separate ways. Later that day I ask her out to meet up again. [????] WHY?? I must have a hole in my brain.

She says she would like to, but can’t make it out tonight, gives me her schedule and I CONTINUE TO MAKE PLANS WITH HER ONCE A WEEK for the next Month.

2 weeks later we meet up. Immediately afterwards she scheduled a hangout, but flaked day of. Next week I make plans and she “is busy.” My turn is up, but at least I am not hamstring “busy” into - “try again next week.”

Lessons:

ONS is ONS, can be a regular hookup, but never someone you schedule your time around. Remember, people need to earn time on your schedule. YOUR TIME IS #1.

Women are happy enough with casual sex. They will let you know if they want more commitment. It’s not something you need to sense / look for / be proactive about.

Women also say they want attention, but really they want someone to seek attention from.

If a girl seems needy / clingy - don’t satisfy that need. I have foolishly tried so many times to make needy / clingy girls secure. It doesn’t work, enjoy the attention and enjoy your turn.

Lucky for me I have other girls I haven’t put on a pedestal...but every once in a while I meet a girl that melts my brain and I go right back to my BETA training.

Good luck betas