I'll try and make this a short one. This all happened yesterday. Highlights the absolute power of pre-selection and how it can be one of the most potent tools you can use.

I opened a girl sitting next to me in a lecture a few days ago. She wasn't hot, but her friend was. We chatted for a bit, traded numbers after the lecture, and for the past few days if we see each other while waiting to enter the lecture hall we'll chat and sit together, her friend often joining us. Her friend is friendly but distant towards me, we'll exchange pleasantries but nothing concrete. Often the girls will just chat amongst themselves and gossip anyway, ignoring me.

Yesterday, I'm sitting in a double lecture bored, fiddling with my pen, looking around, across the other side of the room I spot a blonde who's falling asleep. Her head keeps bobbing forward and falling, startling her awake... and then she falls asleep again. I thought it was hilarious, laughed to myself like an idiot, the girls next to me looked at me weird. I recognise this blonde from before, I saw her with a group of her guy friends being quite bouncy and jokey earlier. She was hot, at least and 8, and from the demeanour I remember of her, potentially fun to be around.

Lecture continues but nears it's end, we're set to have a 1 hour break and then return for the last lecture of the day. I've got nothing to do so I text a plate. She lives on campus, in the dorms 5 mins away from me. (I've mentioned her in FRs before) I'd often just text her during breaks and see if she's in, and then pay a quick fuck visit. She's always receptive, never says no, is always happy to see me. (Besides these visits I don't talk to her whatsoever, and I often leave long breaks between seeing her.)

My plate replies back that she is in. I text "I'm coming over". Start walking towards her dorms. In front of me is Sleepy Blond and her guy friends, I spend 2 or 3 minutes trying to come up with some kind of opener to talk to her/them without it coming across too forward or cheesy or tryhard. I always have trouble with this, I can never think of innocent openers.

I overhear their conversation, she tells them she's going home to nap before next lecture, they say bye and head off in another direction. She's on her own now, it's my chance to talk to her. I've learnt from countless approach failures to just bite the bullet and start talking to them straight away, the more you dwell on it the more the you think about it in your head, the quicker approach anxiety consumes you, and you end up pussying out. You need to start the conversation before you can hamster yourself scared.

So I talk to her, "hey are you going towards (plates dorms)".

Her attitude instantly changes. She's cold from the get go. I know from her first creeped out look that she's not interested. I've seen this look countless times before. It's too late to back out now. She says "yes" and I try to maintain a strained conversation. One word answers from her, I'm nervous because of the shutdown so I'm talking too fast. She's got the demeanour of a girl who's used to being opened and shuts down guys often. I can tell she's not attracted to me from the way she's responding. Heck, this isn't my first rejection, I've got used to it by now, but we're walking in the same direction and I can't just bail out without it being awkward. I managed to get a genuine laugh out of her by telling her I saw her falling asleep, I asked her how she was finding the course etc etc. It felt like I was grilling her with questions but she really wasn't putting any effort into keeping the conversation going so I had to keep it up lest we just walk in awkward silence. She was sleepy because she was out partying last night, she is on one of the sports teams so I know she's popular.

She asked me where I lived, I said, "at home, which is why I have to talk to strangers outside of class to make friends". I'm setting up plausible deniability here, trying to make it out like I wasn't hitting on her this whole time. She says, "why are you going to (dorms) then". "I'm meeting someone, I'm not just following you...." I say to her. This gets another laugh.

I need to tone it back and look un-invested in her if I'm to save face, so I interrupt her mid conversation and call my plate to come and get me from the dorm reception. After a few more minutes of strained, bored conversation. We get to reception and my plate is waiting for me. Sleepy Blonde sees Plate, Plate sees Sleepy Blonde. I say bye to Sleepy Blonde, hug the Plate and pick her up, watch Blonde watch us and she walks off. Plate is hotter than Blonde, objectively.

Plate starts grilling me on who the Blonde was while sucking my dick. I tell her it was "just a friend". As I'm leaving she keeps trying to get me to skip my lecture and go for round two, I leave anyway.

Get to the lecture and find Lecture girl and her friend waiting outside, chat with them for a bit, and wow look who bumps into us; if it isn't the Blonde girl from earlier! I chat to the blonde, pretend to forget her name, make the other two girls wait while I speak to her, asked her how her nap was etc etc. She's blushing and talking differently now she's noticed me with the other two girls. We walk into the lecture together and she sees her guy friends, she walks with me towards them as if I'm going to sit with her, but I say bye again and instead sit with my regulars.

Lecture girl and her friend are acting differently to me now. The friend is speaking to me as if we've been friends for a while. I sit between them rather than on the side of them as has been the norm for the past few days. These things aren't coincidental, the friend changed her positioning because she wanted to speak with me. We had a good chat, she laughed too hard at dumb jokes. I was sitting below Blondey so I couldn't see her during the lecture, but when I got up to leave she was looking at me.

All three girls changed their dynamic just from seeing me with another girl. I didn't even need to do anything different. Blonde did a complete 180; she may have not found me attractive earlier, but from seeing that other girls do her opinion of me changed. Attraction is based on what other people find attractive, and seeing me do well with another girl framed me as sexual and masculine in the eyes of each girl. My plate is acting differently to me now, lecture girl and friend are more open towards me, and the Blonde is now more receptive to my advances. I'm going to ignore her for a bit more before I try to open her again.

Lessons Learned:

  • Pre-selection is king. You can shift a girls opinion of you entirely just by being with other attractive women,

  • Don't wait to open a girl, you'll hamster yourself into paralysis. Just go for it within 3 seconds.

  • Even a failed set can turn it's self around eventually. Her opinion of you can change just as quickly as her feelings do.

  • Getting girls to compete for you will keep them invested in you. Plate fucked me eagerly after seeing the Blonde, Blonde "coincidentally" bumped into me later in the day.

  • Some women won't see you as a sexual prospect until they see other women do.

  • If she starts chasing, start running. She'll chase harder. Don't get too invested once she's into you.