Once again, trudat regales TRP with a cautionary tale...

Ok so I have a very good friend of mine who has been through the grinder with women. Lets call him Mark.

He is a work hard play hard kind of guy who is an entrepreneur running a company that does a very specialized type of punch-down type construction/finish carpentry. It's not super duper lucrative, but Mark lives in a small bayfront home and has a few toys (motorsports stuff). He's doing pretty OK.

Mark always had a thing for wild slutty women. He's kind of freak himself. He's no stranger to the inside of a bar and has a few hobbies that provide him with an active social life. He's been known to throw a few parties and jump into his hot tub with more than one woman. Mark is not the most handsome man to look at, but his work keeps him very fit and tan and that really works for him. His nickname would be anything but face, lets just put it that way. It can slow him up at times, but others no - just depends on the woman.

Years ago he meets this party girl. She is divorced. Used all kinds of divorce trickery to get possession of a 20 acre horse farm that she lives in when she meets Mark. Both her and her ex husband's name are on the mortgage and deed, but she lives there. It's a beautiful place, really. Mark rents out his place and moves in with her with the understanding that they are going to buy out the ex husband.

Ex-husband reneges on deal once he finds out that Mark has entered the picture. It's my personal belief that the ex husband never believed this chick - lets called her Sally - could pull off a refinance and buyout, but Mark could and thus deal was off table. Ex husband forces sale of property. Mark, in a shocking moment of clarity, decides not to put his name on a $300K note giving a portion of the proceeds to Sally.

They move into a rental together. It's a very nice place actually - waterfront. As a couple they are in constant drama, but Mark likes her because she's into making out and touch play with other girls in front of Mark. Mark only gets to fuck her, but gets to watch his little freak GF make out with other girls and occasionally gets a stray feel up or handy. Still... Good times for Mark. Lots of booze, occasional recreational drug use and freaky sex.

Until...

She gets pregnant.

Mark's good time party craters. She becomes a fucking she devil and puts Mark on lock down. Mark is trapped like a motherfucker.

Its misery for Mark. He's defeated like a killer whale at SeaWorld.

The kid is born and the relationship is rocky at best.

One day, while Mark is at work, Sally wipes out the entire house and moves his kid and all of his shit 4 states away. Mark comes home to an empty house and no idea where his child is. Over the previous few weeks, Sally has been visiting a woman's abuse support group and had enlisted the help of the group members to come and pack up the house so she can escape.

Mark may be many things, but a perpetrator of domestic violence he is not.

He's pretty distraught. He calls the police, but cannot get them to press charges against Sally for kidnapping because although his name is on the birth certificate, they were never married and no formal custody agreement is in place.

A few weeks later Mark gets a letter in the mail for a child support hearing 1,200 miles away with request for financial disclosure. Mark finally finds out where her residence is and hires an attorney.

I won't break down the court battle, but it took Mark 10s of 1000s of $$ to force Sally to move back to his state, with it taking 5 years to fully settle on a final custody agreement. Mark actually won. By winning I mean he got 50-50 custody without having to pay a dime in support. For a man that's winning. What saved him was the business was a family business handed down from his father. Mark ran the company, but his parents still owned the corporate shares. His father was smart enough to not reflect Mark's full income in Mark's W2s. Also, some of this happened right in the middle of the recession, which also served to force down Mark's earnings. Also, Sally (you'll love this) is a college professor at Veterinarian College. On paper, she out earns Mark.

The fighting and bickering continues (she's REALLY pissed still), but Mark came out that smelling like a rose, despite the anxiety he experienced and the money it cost him in attorneys fees.

Oh but the story is not over...

Some time passes and Marks starts dating a solid 9/10 ridiculous knockout. Jet black hair, green eyes, smoking hot body. She's a party girl, just like Sally. She's crazy, likes to make out with other chicks, from what Mark says a freakazoid in the bedroom. By now Mark has moved back into his bayfront home. He's got a brand new $60K truck and he's feeling his groove, albeit somewhat a little weary and slightly worse for wear.

A mutual friend of Mark and I, lets call him John, has a nose for problematic bitches. Now the three of us all have baby mamma drama with temper tantrum throwing women. John has far and away fared the best of the three. He actually has a decent rapport with his kid's mama. Hot brunette starts talking to mark about kids and marriage. John says to Mark Dude you're 43... You want to go through this shit again? I'm telling you this bitch is no good.

At the same time Mark coincidentally introduces brunette to 4th friend of ours who has more money than sense, has a lucrative small seafood company. Let's call him Tim. It wasn't anything like a handoff either. Just This is my friend Tim, he's a friend of mine.

Brunette notices Tim's decent financial success, dumps Mark for Tim. Mark does not fight or lament the break up. In fact, Mark is relieved. Saved him some trouble. Part and parcel to this transition was Mark's growing indifference towards brunette. It facilitated the brunette's defection.

A short while later, brunette is preggers. Fast forward 18 months and Tim is currently in jail as we speak, Brunette is in his house fucking other dudes with kid there. Brunette pulled the old restraining order kick Tim out trick, which Tim stupidly broke out of sheer disbelief of how fucked up it all is. Tim also may be many things, but a domestic violence abuser is not one of them either. Tim will not be allowed live in his own home for probably a year (her name is not on the asset he'll get it back). By the way... Tim is 53. WTF... Tim is SCREWED.

Mark is not screwed (well not any more screwed than he already was). He finally learned to let a bitch go when the time is right.

TL;DR Had a friend who LTR'd a slut and paid the price, but then learned from the experience and avoided repeating his mistake.