God dammit I am a moron

WhiteTrashKiller · 2016-07-04T19:33:26+00:00

Hey Sweetheart! I don't know if you know this, but you are the plate not her. You pay for all the shit, you share your feelings, you made yourself available for sex when she wanted it, wtf?

Now take those feelings off and put them back in the drawer.......

Equilibriun · 2016-07-04T19:29:59+00:00

Protip: No LTRs w women on Tinder

tb87670 · 2016-07-04T19:48:45+00:00

I had one-itis a few times with plates after TRP. Best thing you can do is cut things off the moment they cut anything out, be it intimacy, kissing, sex, whatever. I would have a few weeks of feeling like shit over it, even contact with other women and keeping your game sharp doesn't help you. No, what does help? Making out with a different woman. Each of the times I had a one-itis fit it really didn't get better unless 2-4 weeks passed or the moment I kiss another gal and work up from there. Usually if you are kissing you are in for more shit too, and believe me after a fuck with a different woman the negatives of your one-itis just pop up out of nowhere and you wonder "why the fuck did I get bent out of shape over that?"

CovenantoftheSun · 2016-07-04T20:14:04+00:00

You approached the relationship wanting more from her than she wanted from you. She had the ability to say no to you and you didn't.

She straight up told you to your face she is fucking other men. You offered commitment without her even knowing or asking and certainly without getting anything in return.

You gave away your power and your pride to her and for nothing. Be ashamed. Be angry. You did this. You can't fix it with her, but you can avoid this in the future.

First off, assume the worst and not the best. Take pussies off the pedestal, this seems to be the primary issue to tackle for you. Don't fantasize about your plates assigning them wishful thinking attributes there is no evidence for.

Practical exercise is to use the technique of looking at yourself and the relationships through a third person a"s though advising a friend and not yourself. This will help you stay more wary and objective.

raisins3142 · 2016-07-04T19:54:24+00:00

Don't stick your dick in crazy.

I don't know her, but nearly all women like her are not wrapped too tight.

FistFullOfBitches · 2016-07-04T20:37:22+00:00

As much as this sub hates one-itis, being in love isn't a fatal condition per se. Your mistakes were that (1) you didn't evaluate her (rationally) properly to see if she was worthy of your LTR attention, and (2) you decide to act all romantic and effectively pulled the bait-n-switch on her, without understanding anything about her actual intentions and feelings. You changed out the behaviour that actually attracted her to you in the first place.

As far as LTR evaluation goes, meeting a girl on Tinder and fucking her within a couple of hours should signal ONS/plate rather than LTR. As far as you getting feelings, you should have found out a little more about her and her expectations before the big reveal.

With a different girl, who demonstrates her value and shows you clearly that she's into you and only you, falling in love isn't necessarily a bad thing. Enjoy the memories you made, and use this experience to make some more, better ones.

KartagoPill · 2016-07-04T21:48:19+00:00

fluid bonded - shieeeeeeeeet, maybe she has diseases..?

Get new plate MAGGIT! This ain't fairy tale, you need fresh meat to fuck or youll go insane. Even escorts but please, get to know new bitch.

Purecorrupt · 2016-07-05T19:14:32+00:00

When girls try to ask a out your sexual history never directly answer them. Their direct question is never their agenda.

For example

"Did you eat already?"

She doesn't care if you ate. It may mean.

"I'm hungry and could go for some food."

or she may just want to talk about something she ate.

"I just had the best sushi ever at BestSushiEver."

As you found out she was asking in order to let out that she wanted to only be fuck buddies.

In times I've been asked recently I always either give a puzzled "Are you seriously asking me this?" look. I say "I don't kiss and tell." Or I dismiss the question and re-direct and ask them a question "Are you asking me, because you are seeing other people or you want to be exclusive?"

jophde · 2016-07-05T15:37:45+00:00

joephde, what the hell man. You are a walking, talking, breathing example of what not to do. As for your question, the whole point of having plates is so you have options and don't fall into a scarcity mentality. Which in turn will cause you to develop a case of the oneitis. Your writing personality comes across as a timid child who second guesses everything he does. Man the fuck up and take control of your life. You are a long way off from where you want to be. You already know what to do, you just want someone to tell you. Best wishes, jophde.

thop89 · 2016-07-05T01:06:38+00:00

How can you "be in love"? Are you a little school boy? You can love the thing between you two. The dynamic. The feeling. But the girl?

Don't protect your wishes and desires onto a woman. Be rational. Be self transparent. Know yourself. Be a man.

roeddit · 2016-07-04T21:35:31+00:00

You're trying to fulfill a BP ideal using RP behavior - that will never work long term - that's PUA thinking. You haven't fully accepted RP/reality. The pain you're feeling now was necessary to kill that BP ideal, but the way you're talking it seems like you're headed for the same mistake again - keep focused on yourself and allow yourself to feel that depression/pain.

TonyZ554 · 2016-07-05T07:03:49+00:00

You gave commitment to a girl(slut) who doesn't deserve it. Maybe find out how many other guys she's fucking before you develop "feelings".

Forcetobereckonedwit · 2016-07-05T06:31:53+00:00

Oh boy do I feel your pain. I too, met a plate on a purely sexual playing field...then started to get the feelz for her, and she for me as well, for that matter. She has a live in BF, all that polyamory crap. He knows about me and I him. No problems there as fr as her coming and being my little sub slut for days at a time. This is now two years later and I am torn. I caught hints of her pulling even more fucked up shit a while back and started pulling back my feelings while still keeping the dating and sex going. That doesn't seem like it's going to work...as in sure, she still sees me plenty, and I do anything I want with her sexually, but I can't lose the deeper feelz for her and it hurts too much. Mind you when I started to suspect that there was other shit going on too, I immediately hit the PUA road and bedded literally 12 chicks in two months to"get over her". I still see one of them often and am enjoying plate 2 immensely. Still can't cut loose the feelz for plate 1. So...I'm afraid I will have to cut out all contact with plate 1 and excise that cancerous feelz crap out. Stay true to yourself brother...and stay right here at TRP. This place is the "Dad" most of us never had.

FortunateBum · 2016-07-05T08:02:23+00:00

I'm just going to say, stop blaming yourself. Shit happens.

That said, I'm going to try and reduce it down for you. For the next 10 years, at least, whenever you feel like you're "in love" with someone, dump them. You're going to learn something about yourself. These women you're in love with, they're not for you. They're probably not for anybody because they're fucked in the head.

Also, there was nothing you could've done to make this work with her. Nothing.

SkorchZang · 2016-07-05T10:09:05+00:00

You and me got brainwashed growing up to believe that telling a girl you love her and gushing to her about it while down on one knee will make her "see the light" and then her highness will induct you into her order of brave Sir Knights, so you can be happily together forever.

The red pill reality is that you're going to get the opposite of what you expect. Every single girl. Gush to her, say you love her, go down on the knee - and she will distance herself, shut you out, get freaked out and start reconsidering her options.

But it was true love, bitch!!!!!!

Tough luck, for men. That is just not how women are made. By "going down on one knee" with the I-love-you's you place yourself in her power, you are acting FEMALE to her when you do this. Her immediate disgust and total reconsideration of your attractiveness, I believe, comes from this fact. It's super predictable, every woman does it this way.

Even if her response is "aww!!! I love you too!!!!" (positive), deep down she felt the icy horror already: wait, what is this? is this even a MAN?. Coming to her with your total romantic capitulation is an instant sexual excitement-killer.

Love's the best feeling, nobody says you have to give it up. You do have to love them like a man though: mockingly, with condescension, with a good "Daddy-like" dynamic where you're always looking down to her and giving her your affection as a generous gift from a higher power, never as a supplicant. The famous Lotharios of the Mediterranean had this all figured out, and their advice was to love women passionately, but never 100%. It can be at most 90%, and you always keep the 10% back, holding back so that you remain an attractive mystery to the woman, and so that you retain the capacity of looking at your own love for her in an ironic light - impressing upon her the idea that you're in love, but you're never fooled. Ask women, that is damn sexy.

Cosmic_Cthulhu · 2016-07-05T15:48:29+00:00

said we were "fluid bonded"

Holy shit that made me laugh.

TryingToFitIn2 · 2016-07-24T18:37:54+00:00

Don't limit your love. Believe it or not you can love more than one girl. You can have a relationship with this girl and another one at the same time as long as you communicate. She is NOT you're enemy.

sir_wankalot_here · 2016-07-04T20:23:56+00:00

Enlightenment starts when you are willing to admit you made a mistake.

Piroko · 2016-07-04T19:33:12+00:00

live in SF

Well there's your problem.

How much are you paying in rent? Because my mortgage is probably 1/6th of that and I live in a nicer city.

2016-07-04T21:46:02+00:00

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Title	God dammit I am a moron
Author	jophde
Upvotes	0
Comments	58
Date	July 4, 2016 7:27 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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