Summary: A few key events can clue you in to 95% of the breakups that will happen, they follow specific patterns.

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Intro:

I've been in multiple long term relationships lasting 3+ years, have listened to count, and have been helping people with their relationship woes for 6+ years here on Reddit under different accounts. This is my attempt to help others form a plan to help them avoid some of the worst aspects of some women's behavior. This is a compilation of some tricks I've learned and used over the years, as well as some signs (some obvious, and others that I never see mentioned here). Plus this also has a lot of WARNING flags to look out for during your relationship and how you can prepare yourself not just for the worst scenario, but so that you can hopefully avoid it altogether.

You Have a Girlfriend, Now What?

This is not about getting a girlfriend, this is about what to do once you get one, and where common mistakes will occur and how to set yourself up in the best position to avoid them. The first place I would start is when relationships from the past naturally comes up, I would ask how her previous relationships ended or let her talk about her exes when they come up and egg her on. If she talks shit about them, notice how and give her good reinforcement about it and call them idiots or whatever to keep her talking. Don't ask timelines directly, but ask who broke up and if it was her, I bet she has a pattern at what time of year, how far into the relationship it made it (most girls continue the same timeframes if they are breaking up with guys), and ask why she broke up with him (if she says they kept on fighting or he was depressed for "no reason" or other similar things, you can start to think about her part in it). Lots of girls breakup either in holidays or in spring over and over, and they have reasons, but the reasons don't always matter. The first year of relationship, pay attention to her during that time of year and see if her mood goes up (more dressing up) or falls (depressed or stressed about holidays and asking things to be done, she'll stop wanting to be as social). If it's more dressing up, then you better be on your A game during that time of the year each year and making sure she's sexually satisfied, if it goes down she may be pushing you away and has mental intimacy issues (maybe daddy issues here and try to figure out who's love she felt like she worked harder to get as a child).

Her Past Matters Most the Time

People want to say their past doesn't matter, but for the most part it does unless they have repented their own part and mistakes...they're going to keep repeating them. People can absolutely change, but you should definitely avoid hoping they changed, and figure out in the first place if change is even something they actively sought out and wanted. Some people honestly don't want chang Te and seek drama become it makes them feel important, a sabotage later on no matter how good the relationship actually is for them, they simply don't want it, or even if they do, they don't think they deserve it and will sabotage it. People can change, but they have to change themselves, things will always us, how we react defines us. The only way to predict the future is to examine present conditions, and the present conditions always come from our past behavior. Without being able to predict the future, you will still be insecure to guarantee anything from yourself and commit towards and are on your own if you make hollow commitments that can't last due to your partner. It certainly will not help you believe in yourself more. So here are some other tips.

Projection is a Cheaters Favorite Weapon

Finally, remember that whatever you're accused of is usually in their reality in the beginning. If they're afraid you'll cheat, chances are good she's cheated in her past or been cheated on and to talk it through (unless you've cheated in your past and or told her you did). Someone who is afraid of you cheating is likely to have already cheated or will cheat in the future in most experiences. Nothing to judge, it's just reality.

NO JUDGEMENT = BETTER INFORMATION

Just always keep judgement to zero, and let her talk without any judgement and then you can always make decisions based off of complete information. But if you judge her, the manipulation starts building in order to avoid it.

95% Breakups Will Occur In These Ciscumstances

Key Time Markers

Relationship Duration:
* 90 days (fake/best personality drops, wants love or at least genuine interactions)
* 9 months (neurotransmitter full swing, should be honeymoon, or is thinking if will work for future, pulling back is bad sign here)
* 1.5 years (further commitments and jealousies of others, if not, bad sign and need to gauge her interest)
* 2-3 years (neurotransmitters drop, so marriage or kid had to occur, or wants next step of commitment, moving in will probably be bad idea since naturally things are harder at that point, if she's had someone who she's interested in, she might cheat at this point but is just now considering it, fights will increase)
* 4 Years ("something missing" if you didn't get married or have a kid yet, neurotransmitters are gone and she found someone else that gives them to her and doesn't know herself that this is normal and either cheats or breaks up)
* 7 years (if married, she's questioning if this is how her life will always be and how she's defined)

Key Events That Influence Cheating or Breaking Up

Relationship Events:
* College (obvious)
* Grad School (missed out on college experience)
* Change in Birth Control (her hormones will have key swings, pay attention if she dresses up more or less and the frequency of sex rising or falling, if it rises, mark it down and see if there is a pattern to it that rises and falls or is just rising up along with more drama and fights - which is a bad sign and you really need to up your game)
* Substances (LSD is notorious for causing a manic swing and breaking people up, Weed is notorious for causing girls to be less steady in their identity if they rely on it daily and more impulsive in their behavior, really most drugs or alcohol should imply some amount of poor impulse control and be a red flag).
* Moving (any long distance relationship is rough) * Traveling (solo or with other girls or especially with cool guys, traveling is going to cause her libido to boost)
* New Job (will become attracted to new male and will have to fight it and you will be an outsider and she won't be as attracted)
* Close Friend has breakup (girls friends influence them immensely)
* Bad "friends" (girls poison each other with bad advice especially if they want to get with that girls boyfriend or are jealous)
* Girls night (she'll feel left out on all the "experiences")
* Death of someone close to her (she'll push you away and needs to seek sex as a coping mechanism to feel alive, weirdly undocumented but check out Esther Perel)
* Major year marks (21,25,30, 35,40 - "life crisis" points)

Your Part

The more key events that occur during key timeframes the more you need to make sure you are the most attractive male in her life. There are tons of behaviors that are attractive but pretty much they all boil down to being a guy that other girls are interested in. During those key events, even having more girls interested in you might not be enough to stop her if all the right ingredients are mixed on a girl who doesn't believe completely in your relationship. You just gotta focus on you at the end of the day and not let one girl determine your happiness or you're setting yourself up for failure.

Key behavior is you cannot be judgemental at any point or it will not only worsen it, but will stop her from sharing what's going on and be more likely to hide it than communicate it. Always be fun and promoting during these times is the secret to just being better than any other guys she'll be looking at during these times.

Conclusion: Follow this guide and you will set yourself up to be much much more secure in your future that you're building with someone else and dedicating your life and time and energy towards. A little bit of sweat early can save you a lot of blood and tears down the road! The way I see it is no matter what there will always be problems to face if you are in a relationship with someone, this is just a list that switches those problems from being things that can set you back and you are crying over her into a place where she's just crying over you. Problems are consistent, this is just about improving your situation and the problems you have. Best of luck!