Make yourself her only option

brinkleybuzz · 2017-03-13T16:00:34+00:00

She knows you are her only option because if she cheats or disrespects you, you will walk away. If she understands this, her actions will align respectfully, and you won’t have to worry about her branch swinging.

While I agree with your attitude, I think you are setting expectations too high in terms of controlling the behavior of women. Women act on emotions and are often unpredictable. While setting and enforcing boundaries and having high SMV help, millions of women have cheated on high value men who had strong boundaries and were willing to enforce them. There are stories throughout history of women who risked death because of their tingles for a forbidden lover. This is a recurring theme in literature and films targeted to women.

Things like developing high smv and establishing and enforcing boundaries in relationships are more about men developing self respect and an abudance mentality than they are about the impossible task of controlling women. You can't control what she does but you can establish standards and stick with them to control who you choose to invest your time and commitment in.

The_Gentleman_Thief · 2017-03-13T14:54:20+00:00

I can not stress this enough and it's been repeated as infinitum here: WOMEN CRAVE STATUS. Be it wealth, success, or fame. It is hardwired into them. If they fail to acquire status for themselves, they will acquire it vicariously through a man. Once acquired, they will showcase it to other women as validation . Hence why social media is wildly popular for women. Women care what other women think of them. Both shame and pride fight for control of the emotions.

You need to be that status. Not everyone can be a ripped 6'4 Stanford PhD techbro with his own startup. Still women seek exceptionalism from a man. Women do not want a normal man, they want one that stands above. Excel at something and make it known. Even if you are a damn good Magic card player, make it fucking known. A woman will notice. It might not be a Barbie, it might be a the nerdy plain looking girl who's one too many burgers for her dress size that's your strike zone.

Also if you are playing Magic full time, losing some lbs for fucks sale.

FlexGunship · 2017-03-13T15:41:23+00:00

I had a girl over. She had thousands of unanswered messages on a dating app. I asked to read some...

Protip: don't be a bitch and you're in the top 1%.

Edit: I replied to one guy and said "slow down buddy, she's staying with me tonight. I'll delete those last 8 messages so you don't look desperate. Try her again tomorrow."

He messaged her the next day saying he was going to come kill me.

Edit: not kill me, I guess. Just split my jaw. http://i.imgur.com/5PUK8MM.jpg

Honestly, I don't know why he didn't say "thanks, I was really off the rails there!"

aanarchist · 2017-03-13T14:26:41+00:00

become her only option by not being a bitch. balls are so rare in this society that i feel like just not being an uneducated and not being a coward gets you alpha male status.

ShakaLeonidas · 2017-03-13T21:00:16+00:00

APEX FALLACY

Brad Pitt, Frank Sinatra, Johnny Depth, Jon "War Machine" Koppenhaver, James Packer, Elon Musk. King Henry Vlll, Tom Cruise.

Those are some pretty top of the line guys there and they still had problems with the "loyalty and fidelity" of their women folk. Its a pipe dream thinking you dictate the sexual fidelity of a woman under normal conditions. Society checks female promiscuity. Western Culture = Open Hypergamy = Open cuckoldry. There's a rain they call it Dual Mating Strategy.

The only thing ensuring your flower isnt being plucked by another is ISOLATION ,24/7 surveillance with threat of immediate beheading, or their are no petals left on the stem.

Until then, its never your pussy. Just your turn.

feoen · 2017-03-13T19:17:07+00:00

I have to disagree with the OP. The tl;dr is that AWALT and "She's not yours, it's just your turn." Making yourself "her only option" is blue pill programming at its finest because you will NEVER be her only option no matter how good you are.

Example: I was in an LTR with my oneitis until recently. In the last year, I earned my PhD, nabbed a $90k/year job, began lifting and lost 30 lbs.

In January, she invited me to an event with her. When we got there, she ignored me and spent the entire time getting drunk and fucked by some beta she knew online who already had a gf.

Dude was so beta it hurt, he was all broody when I showed up (she didn't tell him I existed) and he was buying gifts for her etc. But his beta status didn't matter, because her branch swing was in full effect.

I tried to dread game her but it did no good. Eventually we had a fight, and her hamster logic stated: "I'm depressed so I want someone depressed like me! You used to be that way but now you're not. Now you have your PhD, a good job, and you look good. You're not who I used to know and you're too good for me!" She proceeded to spend the rest of the weekend with the beta and I was left fuming.

We haven't talked since. I'm still recovering, and it was this episode that led me to learn that red pill existed. I'm now well aware that oneitis and lack of an abundance mentality led to the death of this relationship. But that's not the point. The point is, you can build a huge kingdom and it won't matter to a woman's hamster.

AWALT. You are never her only option.

DarkMeds · 2017-03-14T11:46:20+00:00

I understand where you're coming from, but I fear you may be leading our fellow men astray with a false sense of security. This is dangerous. Search for "...not who you think she is" in top posts of all time to see just how shitty a false perspective can be.

It's true; Status is a prime motivator for women, I don't dispute that - but what every man needs to understand, and understand well is that women are:

Naturally Machiavellian
Value feelings over loyalty
Surrounded by virtually unlimited opportunities for dick (as you state).

This vile concoction is what gives way to one of our favorite sayings... "It's just your turn". As men, we should be completely honest with ourselves and each other lest we become hamsters ourselves. The concept of becoming "Prime Dick" in order to retain females is a feel good illusion and a dangerous assumption.

There's a reason why horrific posts like "My wonderful, caring, loving wife of 20 years blew the mailman yesterday!! I'm in total shock right now. please help" exist.

Of course she'll spread wide for the All-star Quarterback she met at the gym. And I think It's fair to say that not all of us can attain multi-million dollar competitive sports level SMV, so as far as status is concerned in that case, shes gone.

A common theory here (It's wrong) is that as long as you maintain optimum levels of SMV your woman will be less inclined to leave. Now.... this next part will either blow your mind or make me look incredibly inarticulate and retarded but I'm throwing it down anyway.

You're absolutely right, by having optimal SMV she won't leave you for the broke ass musician down the street who's perpetually "starting a band" but she will fuck him when the opportunity presents itself and her justifications align with her emotions. Happens all the time. Read the link. I think it's fair to say that OP's status was higher than the rando his wife fucked. A couple months back there was even a post illustrating how Kanye fucking West revealed a glimmer of weakness which disgusted his Whats-her-face-huge-booty-socialite wife.

If she is leaving you it means she has a better option.

This might seem a simple matter of fact observation but IMO is self-destructive. Using SMV to retain women is counter productive and places the (false) burden of performance on your shoulders when the game is already hugely stacked in her favor. Instead, use SMV to attract higher quality women and pull them into your frame. But always remember:

She's not yours, it's just your turn

armadyllll · 2017-03-13T16:21:25+00:00

I'm not trying to be a dick but isn't the whole point of your post just "increase your SMV and you win", nothing new here

nicetimeisback · 2017-03-13T16:10:18+00:00

This post is too much bluepill IMO.

awalt_cupcake · 2017-03-13T19:54:36+00:00

This is stupid and misleading. She will always have many options. Pussy is in high demand. Just be high enough SMV to get in line even once. My plate for 3 months soft nexted me for an older 30 year old dude with way bigger muscles. Even if you're the alpha in your age group, there are always older men.

lancer000 · 2017-03-14T08:03:54+00:00

A common phrase in TRP is that women don’t branch swing unless they have another branch to grab.

Technically, you are trying to say that, in order for her to not branch swing, we must raise our branches higher/further than others; so, even if she tries to branch swing, she will end up falling face first into the ground.

djlaureate · 2017-03-13T15:14:54+00:00

Love the Ayn Rand quote. "Philosophy: Who needs it" and "The Virtue of Selfishness" are good reads for anyone who liked "The Rational Male". The philosophy of Objectivism has stuck with me for years and helped me to be a better person to my Self and others around me.

Holyballs26 · 2017-03-13T13:38:11+00:00

Do you have a link to the Roosh's story....I love that guy!

Waltthizzney707 · 2017-03-13T19:54:48+00:00

can someone please help me out, how do you walk the line of

To be her only option, you have to prove to her that you are making strides in becoming the top percentile of men, someone she is enthused to fuck.

without seemingly qualifying yourself to the woman, isn't it important to have a prize not contestant mentality?

Luckyluke23 · 2017-03-14T04:02:03+00:00

great post man!

To be her only option, you have to prove to her that you are making strides in becoming the top percentile of men, someone she is enthused to fuck.

thanks man, I really needed to hear this, Lately I've sort of " taken a break" because I wasn't quiet there yet. I always thought that I need to BE rather than be DOING.

like. I had to arrive at the destination and get off the train to get the girl, instead of just being on the train. ( if the train is the " alpha" journey so to speak)

yomo86 · 2017-03-14T09:12:49+00:00

Competing and/or bettering yourself should be your mission for your own happiness - as esoteric as it sounds. Doing it for women is futile, as her mind is not even capable of comprehending or abstracting value. If the new branch has a better haircut than you giving her the tingles she will swing. Your income, your nature as a fully fledged man or even your kindness are irrelevant.

2017-03-15T02:37:07+00:00

Whereas she has to compete with all that pussy out there, you have to only compete with yourself, allowing her to feel unworthy of your dick.

seems like a lot of effort.

SLMC1 · 2017-03-13T20:20:19+00:00

Really excellent post here. This is the gold nugget:

Insecurity. Insecurity in you is your biggest chink in your armor, your biggest obstacle in retaining her. Insecurity in her is your biggest tool in keeping her around. And women can be some of the most insecure creatures around. Supreme confidence, displaying your success in life, and demonstrating abundance are just some of the ways you neutralize insecurity in you as well as foster insecurity in her.

MedinaPharma · 2017-03-14T01:07:13+00:00

One major point to consider is that you have to appear on her radar. You may be the dopest mother fucker out there who doesn't give those super hot women the time of day...but guess what, she won't give a shit unless you "matter" in her world. The down-side of cold approach is that she knows you want to fuck her from the get-go. The super-hot girls tend to date within social circles. This is why its so imperative to have hot girls around. I remember, I went to the AVN back in January and despite having pretty fucking decent game, I'd get cock-blocked instantly by guys from "the industry". For the most part, they were out of shape losers whose personality wasn't that much more developed than a sea-dwelling sponge. And yet, these guys would systematically fuck these porn sluts. Why? Because they're within their social circle. Now imagine a slightly above average guy with a hint of game penetrating a social circle like that... I can see a lot of success for that guy in that scenario.

Title	Make yourself her only option
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Date	March 13, 2017 11:10 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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