Never fall into a long distance relationship. Get out if you're in one.

atticusfinch1973 · 2018-09-04T08:53:52+00:00

Wait until Thanksgiving. We used to call it the Turkey Shoot here in Canada because all the girls at college with "boyfriends back home" would go home for the long weekend and break up with them after cheating on them during the first month of school.

If you're in college don't bother with any type of serious relationship (especially distance) and assume that your partner is cheating, it will make your life easier.

deadstick_it · 2018-09-04T07:10:15+00:00

Countless military men would agree.

O--- · 2018-09-04T07:08:59+00:00

The top post at the Gaming sub right now is a dude showing off his girlfriend. Who lives across the Pacific ocean. Let it sink in just how normalized it has become to have a long-distance relationship. Half of all people I know have been into one at some point. It's absurd.

Also, advice to those who are in an LTR and are moving away: AWALT still applies, even if you've been together for a while. Either don't move or break it up before you go.

odaklanan_insan · 2018-09-04T06:58:00+00:00

Most men like to ignore their inner voice that tells them they are being cucked.

They know their girl very well, but just don't want drama, so they feel fine as long as she keeps it secret and don't cause anything to make him "supposedly" suspicious.

This is a weird sort of comfort zone.

They just don't realize that their fake ass relationship is a time bomb and she's not ok with it unlikely him.

Rommel0502 · 2018-09-04T08:50:35+00:00

Realized I didn't have a condom but she was on the pill (they are all these days) and let me raw dog her.

Watch out dude. If she's nuts and catches feelz for you, this is just asking for trouble.

bsutansalt · 2018-09-04T11:54:54+00:00

The next day I browsing though snapchat stories and I ran across Nicole's story. It was a post of her saying how much she missed her bf. I guess she was just trying to justify her decision last night by posting how much she missed him.

This is something I've personally witnessed and seen happen time and time again when other guys banged out some chick who's already in a relationship.

When a gf/wife goes out at night and she starts posting in the wee hours of the morning something to the effect of how great her man is or how much she loves him, odds are she just cheated on him and the social media post is what I call the Rationalization Announcement.

If you see this and she posted it NOT by your side or within earshot, I've got bad news for ya son.

They don't realize what they're doing, but to the trained eye it's plain as day. Like moths to a flame they need to assuage their feelings of guilt by shouting to the world how much they appreciate and looooove thier bf/husband. Even more so if the post includes how much he trusts her, which loosely translates to "holy shit I violated the fucking hell out of his trust!"

kabuto_mushi · 2018-09-04T08:48:44+00:00

I get the point of the story, but wasn't it kinda dumb to fuck this girl without a condom? In the same place I wouldn't have gone through with it, cause a) she could have been lying about the pill and b) who knows who else she's shoved up there recently. Didn't rollo say never let them control the birth or whatever...

red_philosopher · 2018-09-04T07:36:25+00:00

Having been there, all I can say is that it amounts to masturbation. It's great to have a FWB situation long-distance if it's a place you go to once in a while because you have to go for work or something similar. Like masturbation, it's terrible if that's your life...

CasaDeFranco · 2018-09-04T07:20:18+00:00

6. Always carry protection.

Women like this are likely to have STD's; get yourself checked.

Great post otherwise.

toolate4redpill · 2018-09-04T10:22:13+00:00

Dude. Take an empty revolver, put one bullet in then spin that cylinder hard and snap it into place. Put it to your head then.................you know the rest.

If your "gut" told you she was clean, on the pill.......then your "gut" needs a serious re calibration. I take it your a high SMV guy but this makes this all the more insane. Being a side guy seems fun - until it isn't. And it could go bad 1000 ways from Sunday. For all you know it may already have.

jonpe87 · 2018-09-04T13:18:04+00:00

My first Tinder date:

matched at morning, small talk, date evening, a glass of wine, she pay, walk to her home, bang, one day after we have fucked she messaging me saying she has a boyfriend in a "complicated" relationship. heh

Whoisaryan · 2018-09-04T10:21:38+00:00

Not sure why any man would see any appeal in a long distance relationship.

If it’s long distance its not a relationship.

boredathome19 · 2018-09-04T10:17:32+00:00

I'm a little bit curious how you are looking tbh because I have never been motioned over directly by a stranger, I always have to make the first step. Also I think that walking towards the exit when making out with them would just result in them letting me go, but I could be wrong. I've never been able to break ASD on the evening of meeting them. It always took at least another meeting up after making out at a party to fuck them.

superyute · 2018-09-04T12:05:33+00:00

Damn, currently texting with a chick living around 2 hours away from me. She's talking about how she's craving a relationship and love doesn't know distance.

Thank god I saw this post, it's like a wake up call

TigerXtrm · 2018-09-04T11:06:29+00:00

Realized I didn't have a condom but she was on the pill (they are all these days) and let me raw dog her.

Living the dangerous life, are ya? Even ignoring a whole list of potential STDs, I wouldn't trust a girl about pill usage as far as I could throw her. Especially one I met literally less than an hour ago, lol.

t_h_e_s_u_c_c · 2018-09-04T12:19:14+00:00

im getting cringe vibes from this sub

stokeDpoke · 2018-09-04T13:08:07+00:00

She fucked you without batting an eye and let you do it raw. Sounds cool and all but somewhere in the back of your head there's a choir hitting high notes of STD#. Stay safe man.

superyute · 2018-09-04T13:43:39+00:00

As someone who made it through an LDR I have to disagree. I think it all depends on the quality of the woman.

Also, you’re really going to believe a woman that cheats on her boyfriend wouldn't lie about being on the pill?

claykiller2010 · 2018-09-04T14:25:19+00:00

I knew where this story was going. I saw this shit my freshman year in college and the next year when I became an RA, I told all my residents to drop that relationship shit with their HS sweethearts and go to the Frat week parties to pick up some girls. That was 8/9 years ago and even now, I've only seen ONE LTR that worked and became a marriage. I have no idea if she fucked around with other guys (which could've happened) BUT to be fair, she was a decent person so I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. Still, it was just the one compared to the hundreds I saw that didn't work.

--TeraBaap--2 · 2018-09-04T07:08:58+00:00

The solution is to not be in a relationship at all. Fuck one and onto the next.

Chadster113 · 2018-09-04T13:25:18+00:00

I think its important to understand why you shouldn't do long distance or rather the mindset/rationale behind not doing one. Your mindset should NOT be that you are scared to do one. It should NOT be that you're scared she would cheat on you. It should be that why would I entertain a long distance relationship when there are plenty of other girls around me that I could pick. It should be about abundance mentality, not based on scarcity mentality. It's not a positive mindset to think that she'll cheat on me if I do long distance. Whats positive is abundance.

Sure its always good to understand female nature, but if your main rationale behind breaking off a long distance relationship is because you're scared you need to develop more abundance.

every time I hear of a guy doing long distance or moving to where his GF is I cringe inside. I don't cringe because I think he'll be cheated on, but because that is the antithesis of prize/abundance mentality. If he does this he doesn't have enough going on for him in life and needs to reassess his mentality. It's supplicating to be in a long distance relationship.

call_in_the_cavalry · 2018-09-05T09:46:23+00:00

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stonedghoul · 2018-09-04T10:36:23+00:00

Well i must say that you are really stupid for only caring about possible pregnacy. Of course, maybe getting terrible diseases doesnt seem scarier to you than getting her pregnant. I Just cant stand such stupidity

BurnDownTheMission68 · 2018-09-04T15:26:11+00:00

Was all the dog pile of concern trolling about whether the OP used protection really necessary?

It doesn’t add anything to the discussion

stuub7 · 2018-09-04T12:31:55+00:00

stop giving bullshit advice, every situation is different...

2018-09-04T14:17:10+00:00

Been there twice. Enjoyed the short term run of them, but they both crumbled instantly at the first bit of adversity. Only time I've seen it work is when the two people dated previously to it becoming long distance then moved back together after a couple of years. I do think distance has it's advantages though. Personal freedom is great for young people to do as they please while still having the satisfaction of a relationship.

courtesy_flush_plz · 2018-09-04T15:59:09+00:00

I never truly understood nor felt pity for those in the long distance relationship predicament

bigboxguy · 2018-09-04T19:34:32+00:00

Haha what a post as always. Why am I not surprised? For those of you who don’t know, I’ve known Flashcash12 since elementary school. We aren’t that close anymore but he’s the biggest son of a bitches I’ve ever met. The best one though. Anything he writes about on here is probably true. I know growing up he an A1 perspective of everything he’s writing or commenting about. So anything he says in his comments or posts is probably true.

Now his decision making is much to be desired. Pulls some of the dumbest shit I’ve seen. This is straight out his textbook. Too many concussions from football and having a shit influence of a father I guess. So, feel free to give him hell. Too many guys jerk him off anyways and girls jump on him, so he can’t take criticism well, has an overinflated ego and always justifies his decisions. I don’t blame him he gets almost everything that falls into his lap to go his way. He'll probably come out of this completely unscathed and in his favor as usual. He’s still a really nice guy when he wants to be.

And I’m going to downvote this post because you could’ve written it better and less like a douche. Oh, and get your head out of your ass and return the guys texts. Its been a while. I haven't seen you since stripper Shannon thing. And I want to hear about your summer, I heard from your sis you got raped in the butt.

ge0_iscoming · 2018-09-04T20:35:44+00:00

This happened to me not to long ago. I'm good friends with a girl who's bf went to the military. She posts Facebook pictures of them together saying how much she loves him and "I miss you" posts. What drives me crazy is how blatantly she covers things up and other things she shows publicly to advertise herself.

I took her out to eat ice cream and on Snapchat she puts "alone eating ice-cream" with just her because she refused to have me. Her explanation: "oh he might see you with me and think stuff."

On Facebook you see her sharing pictures of big houses, bride dresses, and cute relationship memes. Yesterday, her Snapchat was "mood" while she was dancing dirty at the club. (I was there). I guess depending on her cycle, she would fluctuate between AF/BB moods.

What's messed up is that I know her bf. He's a good dude. He reminds me of myself when I was in high school. Shy, reserved, and sacrifices himself for her. His social media has her everywhere. I mean everywhere. I wish I could tell him what is really going on and about TRP. But I can't now because she cheated on him with me. I guess that's what happens when a girl lets you become her bff.

U-94 · 2018-09-04T22:49:08+00:00

Avoid any relationship until you're in your 30s. Unless you want a fleet of children, in which case move to a creepy small town in the center of the country centered around growing corn.

Esaulph · 2018-09-05T06:04:42+00:00

After swallowing the pill, the sad and twisted reality flashed before my eyes.

2018-09-05T13:52:17+00:00

I swear the girls who post all the “I love my BF SO MUCH!” shit on social media do it to cover their thotty tracks. So many of these bitches have dropped in my DMs it’s hilarious.

grandmasbroach · 2018-09-06T05:59:31+00:00

Let me guess. She also said that she NEVER has sex like that with other guys? First, how do you know she is even on the pill or uses birth control of sorts? Did she diligently alert you when she was taking it for the last month?

Second, even if you look past the pregnancy issue completely. You still have std's to worry about. If she's willing to do that with you, she will do the same with others as well. You aren't special, and I promise she's sleeping with other guys too.

I never understand guys who come here and just outright say that they didn't use protection on some sloot they just met. I think I remember seeing a post with a guy saying he would go down on a chick the first time he met her. That way, he could "get her in the mood faster." Gross. Fucking gross... I don't know if you are young or what. But, mark my words. If you keep doing that, it will catch up to you. I was a medic in the military and let me tell you. Herpes, warts, the clap, even HIV, and nasty stuff like syphilis, are more prevalent than you think they are, clearly. I'm not saying there wasn't anything valuable in the post. Simply that, you really should use protection for a myriad of reasons. What if she just decided she's wanted to have kids one day, but hasn't had luck in relationships. So, she just has some random knock her up because she and her friends decided that was the best option after a night of drinking? I've seen crazier, much crazier. I'm just saying, be careful.

Poloyatoki · 2018-09-06T17:15:13+00:00

I remember reading Rollos part about an LTR at this point I swollowed TRP called my ex bitch up and dumped her. TBP blinds you so much to your value, you think seeing a whore every 4 to 6 months is a relationship. The signs were there that she cheated on me multiple times, however the jokes on her as I kept improving my smv.

There really are women all around us don't ever fall prey to LDR'S, single mothers and crazy bitches. Once you put yourself first you'll see that your time is too valuable for crap. Pick from the tree with the best fruit and eat well brothers.

RylanBlackwood · 2018-09-04T11:29:36+00:00

My gf lives about 50 miles away but I have a car and we get to see each other a couple times a week. I honestly prefer this set up because it gives me space to work on my side hustles, but should I be worried? And how can you find out if something like this shit is happening?

redpillschool · 2018-09-04T13:15:09+00:00

So did you already know her or was pillow-talk exchanging social media handles?

I will never understand the snapchat culture.

askmrcia · 2018-09-04T12:46:06+00:00

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TheFlyingPro · 2018-09-04T11:41:37+00:00

Good one. Long distance relationships also bring people to overthink everything and even making imaginary plans for when they will meet the “princess” again.

Avoid these relationships as the Black Plague.

omrhmslf · 2018-09-04T12:04:10+00:00

AWALT but... you trusted your gut feeling and carried on without protection? Work on that.

Sciptr · 2018-09-04T12:45:17+00:00

Even if they somehow don't cheat physically, the relationship will still go downhill. I was in a long distance relationship with this girl for 2 years in college; it quickly fell apart. By the end, talking to her on the phone was a chore.

I had my suspicions she may have cheated in some way, emotionally or otherwise, because she started sending red flags that I chose to ignore, such as "What if I said I didn't love you anymore, but still liked you, and wanted to be with you?" I had no proof, but stuff like that made me obviously suspicious.

Long-distance relationships do not work. Someone will cheat in some form at some point.

4juice · 2018-09-04T13:03:52+00:00

The points you trying to make from this post were great but the whole context smell alot like horse shit.

flashcash12 · 2018-09-04T14:37:27+00:00

Why would you even take the chance of raw dogging her? That sounds kind of wreck less for a woman who isn't faithful.

mattyiceheretoentice · 2018-09-04T16:11:00+00:00

What city is this? This shit just doesn’t happen where I’m from. Girls care a lot about looking easy

2018-09-04T16:38:37+00:00

Do you happen to go to a Big Ten University? If so, I think I heard this story already in real life--funny enough. If not, it's funny as fuck that I heard almost the exact same story with a chick with the same name the other day.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-09-04T23:09:26+00:00

You can have “long distance” or you can have a “relationship”

From, The Sayings of Chairman Zaitzev

Meanwhile, the OP is an Old Skool Hound

AllahHatesFags · 2018-09-05T20:16:06+00:00

Long-distance relationships are a fucking joke. If you can't fuck her on a moments notice, you aren't really in a relationship with her.

the99percent1 · 2018-09-05T23:42:32+00:00

When I see a young male kid in a relationship, all im thinking is why the hell did he want to settle now?

Dude.. fuck cucking yourself early, go and work on yourself. lift, study hard, start a business, & fail lots. Whilst you still have youth on your side.

MisterRoid · 2018-09-07T23:07:35+00:00

I bet the pathetic BF has to wear condoms during sex with her, while Chads such as yourself get to bang her raw.

BuddhistSC · 2018-09-04T12:35:41+00:00

Always amuses me that "short and sweet" on this subreddit is 500 words minimum. I am convinced that people who post here literally don't know what "brevity" means.

GuruDev1000 · 2018-09-04T14:01:39+00:00

OP is confident that she doesn't sleep around and he was really high status enough for her to break her rules, but why was she prepared by being on pills?

Mescalean · 2018-09-04T10:37:51+00:00

I wouldn’t say never kid. In college? Fucking retarded. Has never worked for friends if mine or I. Has never worked for the billy betas we cucked either.

Go out into the world and sling dick kid. Sling away.

MattyAnon · 2018-09-04T17:21:07+00:00

Realized I didn't have a condom but she was on the pill (they are all these days)

THEY SAY THEY ARE. If you don't use a condom, you are sperm jacking yourself. No court in the land is interested in "she said she is on the pill". They don't care. You're on the hook for child support, zero defence.

"I'm on the pill" is the oldest trick in the book. Other tricks include "I don't want kids" and my personal favourite "I can't have kids" (always said by a woman with zero medical proof, usually the believes this because she had sex once and didn't get pregnant).

You are responsible for your children, you are responsible for contraception.

PM_Me_OK · 2018-09-04T11:50:16+00:00

Dude are you that horney that you're going to believe an unknown girl when she says shes on the pill even though she could just be lying or not taking it like she's supposed to and you are going to raw dog her too and possibly catch an std or worse...lol so many guys are such horny little fuckers on here that they will sabotage their own health and values just to get some used pussy.

Title	Never fall into a long distance relationship. Get out if you're in one.
Author	flashcash12
Upvotes	485
Comments	153
Date	September 4, 2018 6:32 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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When a gf/wife goes out at night and she starts posting in the wee hours of the morning something to the effect of how great her man is or how much she loves him, odds are she just cheated on him and the social media post is what I call the Rationalization Announcement.