Several months ago I posted a FR about the Paternity test I gave my kids.

Subsequently my wife found the purchased kits receipts in my Amazon account's purchase history. She confronted me (hoping to play the victim) and asked why I did this.

I have only been RP aware for about 1 of my 10 years of marriage. There were some questions on my part about past lies she told, people she hung out with, "friends" whose history I foolishly never looked in to. Basically I was asleep and now am awake. I cant change the past nor do I want to discuss it with her.

I am a new man now with high standards and serious boundaries. I dont need ANY one woman ever again. I just need women and its so obvious to me now that there are so-so many that can make me happy. I'd have left her if didnt decide to fix myself first and try and keep my kids and money.

Anyway-- I told her she was not trustworthy. And I gave a tiny bit of proof that I knew why. When she tried to explain and argue and make it a conversation I shot that down and told her if she isn't happy then she should use the front door.

I spent the next couple months in a state as the "decider". I never alluded to anything--I was around but a bit detached. Basically I did and AM making her influence my "decision" with her best behavior.

She has never been happier. She literally loves the feeling that I dont need her and might walk. She is thrilled to jump through any hoops I provide & when I do provide a bit of warmth and validation then she hungrily gobbles it up.

The moral here is IF you do a LTR-- keep it in a state where SHE must always fear losing YOU.

This way everybody wins