Prior to writing this I really believed that female friends were possible, but after a conversation I had 2 days ago, that idea blew up in my face point blank.

I recently got laparoscopic surgery. The procedure left my stomach bloated because of the gas they use to push your guts up. The day after the procedure I sent some internal pictures along with a picture of my stomach to the female friend in question who is studying medicine, thinking she might find it interesting.

Me: (sends photos) "I'm not actually that fat, my stomach is just full of the gas they pumped into me haha"

I expected her to disregard the caption and instead focus on the photos themselves but I was very wrong.

Her: "My stomach still comes out more than yours, are you calling me FAT?"

Me: "No of course not lol >From the pictures can you see whats going on?"

Her: "Not really >"Your stomach is still smaller than mine..."

Me: "It's not that bad for girls to have"

Her: "That would be fine if my stomach didn't stick out farther than my boobs..."

Me: "Guys don't really care for size >Boobs are like charities, any amount is appreciated lol"

Her: "Yeah ok no >that actually makes me really depressed >>I already know I don't have boobs... >>>Jesus you need to learn how to talk to girls"

At that point, I knew I had lost, so I just left it at that. Keep in mind the conversation was the day after my surgery

Conclusion (+massive rant)

Please tell me if I'm overreacting but afterward I felt very, very hurt by that conversation. We have been friends for almost 8 years and she attacked my ego when I only wanted to make her feel better. Never did I once insult her. But now both my and her feelings were hurt and I really felt guilty that I had done something wrong. And then I realized how hard she had shit-tested me. As soon as she brought up her boobs, I should have shut it down. Maybe if it was some other girl, I would have. But this is a longtime friend and I foolishly thought she would never harbor such disrespect for me so as to project her insecurities. Lol. I opened the door for her to attack and she did, because nothing I would have said would have been good enough.

So that begs the question:

Why am I the one feeling bad?! I had to pay $1k+ to fix my intestines and experienced immense PAIN and discomfort from that operation, having to take 2 different fucking medications just so that it's bearable enough for me to get out of bed in the morning, YET she projected her own bullshit body insecurities on me while my stomach is literally filled with gas and who fucking knows what! I COULDNT EVEN SHIT FOR 2 DAYS! She eats ice cream and plays VRChat everyday while I have an active lifestyle and did the operation at all because I had spent so many years neglecting both my mental and physical health that after joining TRP I decided to fucking FIX MYSELF FROM TOP TO BOTTOM. But oooooh no, its HER insecurities that matter despite the fact she made them for herself and does nothing to fix them. I took the initiative to share photos for her interest and it ended with me being a fucking punching bag meanwhile I'm trying to be the good friend, to genuinely help her feel better and remedy her own fucking shitty feelings, yet I'm the one coming out feeling like shit?! What the fuck! That's not how friends treat each other and I know damn well I was disrespected in that last text.

I know that there's a lot I could have said differently but I already know the simplest answer: I should just not have said anything at all.

They will never care about anything you go through because so long as their feelings are hurt, nothing else matters. Not your pain, friendship, years spent together, compliments, and definitely not your feelings.

No more female friends.