Second time out to the bars

selfsufficientnigga · 2017-05-09T14:51:35+00:00

You will need to stop being a 'nice guy' i.e. being polite to everyone. This person has intruded into your personal space, demands your personal time and effort, and you have no obligation to entertain them in the manner they wish to be entertained.

So you can just ignore them, or ridicule them, or engage in 'verbal judo' with them for the fun of it. That doesn't make you a bad person, and you're not obligated to show good manners to people without the same.

I mean, the 2nd girl literally came out of nowhere trying to scam free drinks without absolutely any effort. 'Who is this guy, is he buying us drinks?' If your friend was talking to some girl, and you came in and said 'who is this girl, is she gonna bend over so we can fuck her in the ass?', would you expect the girl to be polite to you?

skankhunt-yon-juu-ni · 2017-05-09T14:52:02+00:00

A part of me wonders though if girls that "hunt for drinks" are actually more open to putting out or are just "hunting for drinks," almost as if it's become some sort of requirement for them to sleep with you.

They are not open to putting out for the guy who buys them drinks. It is a shit test opening salvo and if you fall for it, you failed the shit test right off the bat and they will try to exploit your beta and potential orbiter status for all they can.

notadaddy · 2017-05-09T04:50:26+00:00

it's liberating when you finally see women for what they are and this question no longer breaks your frame. Even better when you realize you no longer offer women drinks in bars.

zayelion · 2017-05-09T12:32:27+00:00

They really just want the free drinks. Watch how they tip.

4nt43us · 2017-05-09T12:35:41+00:00

I do charity work.

You kinda fucked up here. Should have just said no again and kept laughing in her face. You do not need to give a reason. Your reason was an attempt to justify and validate your original position because you felt 'guilty' for saying no. Fuck them. Even if you didn't do charity work and you were a thief you don't need to be charitable to anyone if you don't want to. You do not need to give any justification to anything.

Word of advice for the bar scene, I always avoid women who try and scab drinks off me because they are active and conscious opportunists and these type of woman are the worst. Woman are opportunistic unconsciously and can't help it, but those who are actively opportunistic are fucking terrible. They usually are extremely vapid, have a shit job/low education, have no value to give in general and as such take as much value as possible from anyone they can.

Live_it_up_321 · 2017-05-10T20:41:11+00:00

A few weeks ago a decent-looking woman came up to me beside the bar, being all flirty, bumping into me, etc. I flirted back but didn't offer shit. She left, then came back, asked me what I was drinking. Beer. She said "boring."

"Oh yeah, what's exciting?"

She said something about a shot. I shrugged. She "offered" to buy a round for me and my friend. I said ok why not. After some awkward looking around, she walked away. Fuck off, parasite.

MattyAnon · 2017-05-09T17:07:42+00:00

A part of me wonders though if girls that "hunt for drinks" are actually more open to putting out or are just "hunting for drinks," almost as if it's become some sort of requirement for them to sleep with you.

They pretend it's a requirement, but really it's a shit test. "Will you do what I tell you, will you provide for me, are you a beta loser?"

They go out, they get drinks bought for them, they are rarely interested in the guys paying.

Don't pay for women's drinks. It's that simple. Any which way you play it, find a way to not do it. And don't explain why.

Buying the FIRST round on a date where she's made an effort to meet you is fine. Other than that, don't buy drinks if you just met her (unless she did first, and only if her drink costs as little as yours).

My first time out to the bars I went with a friend (girl) of mine and she totally played the room for free drinks.

They get free drinks, AND free validation. They know the guys are trying to buy sex. This makes them feel even better. It puts them in a strong "I can't lose" position, and they milk it for all they can, pretending it's a necessary condition for sex.

All you need is the word "no", but feel free to dress it up how you like.

Xiphos462 · 2017-05-09T16:49:28+00:00

get the bitch a water. They're free.

RobotWhiteKnight · 2017-05-09T15:28:33+00:00

My go to reply on this is, "I usually only buy drinks for women that I'm sleeping with."

This leaves the possibility that sometimes I do buy drinks for women that I'm not sleeping with, but shoves the quid pro quo transaction of paying for their time back in their face.

9 out of 10 times they shut up and walk away. Occasionally it has started a conversation. Exactly as intended, it filters out the cruft.

Jake-Dallas · 2017-05-09T07:01:14+00:00

Being polite was your mistake, tell people to fuck off face to face, they will be so scared to start a fight will avoid you.

People live with a lot of fear nowadays. And when someone is not polite or nice they go back to their "safe zone" shit. Nowadays everyone has a lot to lose and damaging other's faces means a lot for some people.

Mudpielol · 2017-05-09T12:33:09+00:00

A part of me wonders though if girls that "hunt for drinks"

Where I live, there are actual women that spend their night trying to convince dudes to buy them drinks. At clubs. They're called fake customers. They get paid for it, I don't know how much. After the night is done, they leave of course.

xMusclebeard · 2017-05-09T14:56:42+00:00

Just let your girl score drinks for the both of you, make a game out of it. And never buy drinks for a girl at a bar. Be the guy who doesn't and you score two things: You weed out the ones just looking for drinks, and she will immediately hamster your SMV up a notch or two.

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2017-05-09T13:11:01+00:00

Any closes that night or is that your entire field report for the evening?

zephyrprime · 2017-05-09T15:07:42+00:00

"A part of me wonders though if girls that "hunt for drinks" are actually more open to putting out or are just "hunting for drinks," almost as if it's become some sort of requirement for them to sleep with you."

Anyone who buys them a drink loses their respect and makes them much LESS likely to hookup.

unspecifiedthreat · 2017-05-09T21:06:05+00:00

How many of those men did your female friend sleep with after getting free drinks from them on your first night out?

That will answer the question you pose about intent.

Jjmcgrayy · 2017-05-09T23:41:38+00:00

A part of me wonders though if girls that "hunt for drinks" are actually more open to putting out or are just "hunting for drinks," almost as if it's become some sort of requirement for them to sleep with you.

Let me answer. It's just drinks. If she wants to/ or doesn't want to sleep with you, no amount of money wasting will change that.

Save your cash.

Jack0fDiamonds · 2017-05-10T01:43:24+00:00

Girls "hunting for drinks" are doing just that. No they will not put out, they are there for the purpose of being a scourge.

Title	Second time out to the bars
Author	coverusername
Upvotes	21
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Date	May 9, 2017 4:26 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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