Talk me down, fellas

monsieurhire2 · 2013-10-25T00:11:25+00:00

So . . . are there any red flags?

Also, what do you actually want out of your life, versus what you think you should want, versus what other people tell you that should want?

No path is without risk.

A lot of RPT is about waking up reality and not living in a fantasy land with regard to male and female motivation. It's not about choosing monogamy or spinning plates per se.

HalfysReddit · 2013-10-25T02:52:59+00:00

Dude, we talk a lot on TRP about having many different women in our lives and all but it's all honestly for one goal: happiness.

And for a lot of guys, that quest for happiness ends with a monogamous relationship. We fuck around a lot yea, but eventually some chick comes along and impresses you enough that fucking around just doesn't seem as appealing.

Fuck what you're told to want, what do you want? Does this chick make you happy? Do you have reason to believe you shouldn't trust her? Do you prefer your relationship with her over your bachelor lifestyle? If so, the fuck are you thinking, asking us to "talk you down"?

Motherfucker, I get some fine ass, and I'd love to be in your position. I'm still waiting for my impressive chick, don't fuck up a potential shot with yours.

All that being said, do keep in mind that she might not be what you really want. Just look at what's up, consider it all, and make a decision.

Archwinger · 2013-10-25T14:04:58+00:00

This post assumes, wrongly, that there's some kind of "rule" when it comes to being a Red Pill advocate. That you can't ever be in a relationship. TRP is about men, not women. TRP is NOT about spinning plates and getting laid all day -- that's one aspect of life that really does fit the school of thought, but the point of TRP isn't women. It's about being a man and coming to grips with the truth.

If you are a strong, confident, man who is well-versed in the Red Pill and how the world really works -- what men want, what women want, how men work, how women work, and how to get what you want and give a woman what she wants (despite her constantly trying to get in the way of you doing that) -- then a relationship can work, at least for a little while. You can enter that relationship with reasonable expectations, and not be floored and shocked when the woman does something a non-RP man would have thought was crazy, and react appropriately, and not be caught with your pants down when it all ends but instead smile, amused, and move on to the next girl, happy for having had such a good run.

There's no need to talk you down if you're armed with the right information and going into a relationship with reasonable expectations.

jolly--roger · 2013-10-25T00:31:12+00:00

rub one out and ask yourself then

GenericUsername14 · 2013-10-25T04:18:07+00:00

You should pursue exclusivity if that's what you want to do. Why? Because you want to do it.

I would obviously suggest that you remain level headed in your evaluations of this woman, now and later.

You said before you fell for her that she was marriage material. Well, she just might be YOUR marriage material. You don't want to pass up something that might be a once in a lifetime chance, finding a trustworthy and reasonable woman that is highly unlikely to royally fuck you in the future, just because you had some fears about the situation, even if those fears are plausible and grounded.

You know the risks involved, but I am sure you can figure out for yourself what you want to do, and when. Don't be afraid to make a decision, whether that decision is to settle down with her or, should you find yourself facing serious flaws, to pack up and move on.

dmahan · 2013-10-25T00:24:18+00:00

Just put it off for a couple months, and see how you feel then.

jokeicide · 2013-10-25T06:25:53+00:00

If I could offer a different perspective,

Could the Crystallization Theory) apply here?

Right now, naturally your mind only wants to see everything good about her, maybe even glorifying her to an extent. But eventually that image breaks down as you see her for her faults as well.

From this conclusion, I would ask myself if it is either: A) worth it to wait and find out what kind of person she really is (because it will happen) or B) enjoy the sex and move on.

Edit: link

HullBredd · 2013-10-25T17:26:02+00:00

Well don't just jump right in like a chump. But you need to quit buying the bullshit you read here--don't get me wrong, there's some good stuff. It's the bullshit you have to quit paying attention to. Stop letting people tell you that every women is a cancer.

x7CR7x · 2013-10-26T04:16:14+00:00

Oneitis.

RedSunBlue · 2013-10-25T01:59:10+00:00

Put her in your line up, but don't stop recruiting new talent.

JoJackthewonderskunk · 2013-10-25T02:53:34+00:00

It sounds like you've made up your mind and want to date her. There's nothing wrong with that if its what you want to do. Applying red pill to the situation is intended to give you the upper hand in your dealings with women, not entirerly discourage you from exclusivity. Bottom line: do whatever the hell you want.

EVILEMU · 2013-10-25T08:33:58+00:00

Why are you second guessing yourself? You make it sound like you're afraid from a genuinely nice person.

FortunateBum · 2013-10-25T19:09:16+00:00

Take things slow, don't let her pressure you into doing stuff too soon, hold off moving in together as long as possible.

2013-10-25T06:26:45+00:00

You're suffering from ONEitis. Fuck three other girls and see how you feel about this one.

Remember that just because she's great now, doesn't mean she'll be great down the road. I can personally attest to that. My ex-wife was amazing at first, then a year and a half later, I'm doing her fucking homework for her, taking care of HER kids (both of which were from two different dads), and I wasn't allowed to have friends or she'd fuck them and then cry rape.

2013-10-25T01:50:50+00:00

Pros-and-cons list?

She sounds sweet, but I know how it feels, trying to figure out if you like a girl or you like the idea of a girl. See if you can hold off being exclusive while you make a list of pros and cons... not just of the girl, but of dating exclusively in general, including all your fears.

Good luck

Title	Talk me down, fellas
Author	atlascrowed
Upvotes	8
Comments	32
Date	October 24, 2013 11:51 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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