u/adam-l recently commented this on another post:

...women aren't "fine-tuned" for the extended provision for them and their children that civilization has afforded them with marriage etc. At their very deep core, they just want to mate with the best there is right now.

The best there is right now.

It sounds simple. But it is profound. And to save you the reading time: This is nothing new. It is just very condensed.

It is a first principle that will help you either a) get laid or b) figure out why you are not getting laid.

Here is how you apply - whenever you are unsure, ask yourself this:
"For this woman, am I the best possible mate right now?"

If the answer is yes: escalate.

If the answer is no: understand and fix the problem.

How to understand the problem?

There are two ways to fix the problem. Long-term fixes and short-term fixes.
Long-term fixes are things that will improve your chances a lot over time, but not a lot right now - i.e. there is no point in doing 50 pushups when trying to get laid at a club.
Short term fixes are the opposite: you may be able to spit some tight game, but without good looks, that will always be an uphill-battle.

From this, you can identify a myriad of possible problem-combinations.

Example: You are average hight, but slightly above average looks. You are ripped, but not huge. You have high social skills and you spit tight game, but you are naturally introverted. You lead an interesting life and are financially abundant.

The worst possible place to go is a night-club. The night club game belongs to two types of people: Those who are obviously huge and jacked, and those who flaunt status (bottle service, etc.)
Most of your strenghts can't be leveraged here. There is a plethora of men who can status-signal harder than you. It's too loud to lead an interesting conversation. There are too many distractions. For the hottie in the night-club, you are not the best possible choice right now.

Your best possible place to go is tinder. You can use photos to show off your interesting life-style and your ripped body. Above average looks make for a great photoshoot. And you can invite girls on solo-dates easily. For the bored Tinderella, you are the best possible choice right now.

Long-Term fixes

  • Lift, build a muscular body
  • make more money
  • build psychological resilience
  • build a better social circle
  • carefully curate your online presence with good photos

Short-Term fixes

  • pick a venue with fewer men (less competition)
  • lead her to a place with fewer people (less competition)
  • keep her off her phone (and off tinder)
  • spit tighter game (make yourself appear higher status)
  • display dark triad behavior (make her appear lower status and yourself as the only option)

Application

As you probably guessed, application depends highly on you. While it is always helpful to be more jacked and have more money, there are some situations that will get you laid easier than other: The situations where you are the best there is right now.

For me, application used to look like this (I'm married now):

I was a broke musician, living in a tiny house with two cats. My main avenues to get laid were either Tinder, Karaoke Bars or Concerts. Why? Because I was the best there is right now in all of these. I had a myriad of cool stage photos and headhots, I could sing better than anyone else at Karaoke and I was the guy on stage at the concert.

The tiny house and the cats made it easy to pull: "Come see my cool house and my cute cats."

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