I’ve recently noticed that one of the most attractive things to both male counterparts and women is no insecurity.

I’ve met a guy who’s literally given all the worst traits, he’s not tall, he’s not smart, not got a great job or particularly ambitious, his game seems kinda average, not particularly good looking 3-4/10 and yet he’s got multiple attractive women always chasing or at least around him, he come across as having NO and I mean NO insecurity, it’s not false confidence or over “alpha-ness” not one his traits seem to be derived from insecurity, he just seems to have a stable extroverted but chill frame that just seems to be a magnet for women, it’s made me think a lot about personal insecurity as I’m pretty sure of myself and quite relaxed and happy with who I am, and yet in certain social situations I still get slightly nervous or feel self conscious of how others that could be above me socially are perceiving me, I don’t struggle with women, I get my fair share but somewhere deeply routed there is an unsureness that I need to crush, soon I’m going to start fighting as people say this improved self confidence but what other methods have you found to make yourself secure in who you are? Not intimidated by others frames, some people have the ability to be sure of them selves in ground of anyone, but you can’t be perceived well by everyone because everyone is playing a slightly different status game, how can you be calm and sure of who you are without changing in both a room with a mafia boss and a room with a ceo executive.