Went lifting today...

nrokchi · 2014-04-13T16:10:20+00:00

For those reading this, a fallacy was stated in the FR: do not compare yourself to others! The core of RP is not about being better than others; rather, it it about getting a better you to get the things you want.

Using this FR as an example, /u/dotzie points out how women are comparing you to other men in a gym environment. He even goes on to point out that there are economically equal men that 'looked way better than you' in the same gym talking to those women. While this might be true, it is also irrelevant. Being fit is as much (in my opinion, more) for the confidence/mental side than it is the physical attractiveness element.

Strong confidence helps you keep frame. Keeping frame means you stay cool. Staying cool leads to getting women. No where in there was 'be hawt' mentioned. Besides, we all know a gym bro who is much fitter than us but can never keep frame and ends up with nothing at the end of the night.

IWantWhatsReal · 2014-04-13T18:19:54+00:00

SO MUCH WIN!

Please don't do this.

mr_throwz · 2014-04-13T16:12:41+00:00

Another thing, I realized, that I am not going to get a flashy car or a tatoo. Those things are superficial. Building your body seems superficial but really is not. It requires determination and strength. Those are qualities that you can't easily buy, you need to work on it, for some time.

Is your fasting blood glucose, blood pressure, cardiovascular health, joint mobility, and metabolic health "superficial"? No, these things are fundamental.

kommissar_chaR · 2014-04-13T17:27:13+00:00

You can do both, I have a nice car and some bitching tattoos. Just do what works for you.

barneygumbled · 2014-04-13T15:30:30+00:00

A fancy car takes determination too because you need to get the money to buy it.

newbie3hunna · 2014-04-13T15:43:01+00:00

Read the thread about luxury = weakness. Also fit girls enjoy working out and being active. Why would they date a guy who is the opposite of that?

Torquatus · 2014-04-14T01:19:24+00:00

My only encouragement would be to avoid comparing yourself to others in the gym.

There's that classic story of a young guy who just sold his company during the dot-com bubble and takes this gorgeous girl out to an exquisite restaurant. He's happy that he can wine and dine whoever he wants, pay as much as he wants, ride home in his brand new Italian supersport, and go anywhere he wants.

He's loud and exuberant in the restaurant, living life with a huge smile on his face, until the maître d' comes over to inform him that the last filet mignon went to another patron and he must select another dish. The guy is a bit crestfallen, and anyone could see he was a bit annoyed for the remainder of the meal.

His girl gets up to go to the bathroom, and an older gentleman next to him leans over and says, "Hey, listen. Never compare yourself to anyone. There will always be someone with a bigger house, faster car, better body, more height, prettier woman, or more money. Enjoy life for yourself, not based on how you stand relative to somebody else." Then the gentleman signals for the maître d', gives him a black card, and says, "This young man's meal is on me."

When you see a girl in the gym eyeing another guy, don't even think about it. That's her nature as a woman. She's eyeing someone else hoping they look back. She wants, craves, and needs attention. Validation.

Focus on yourself. Unite your mind with your body. Destroy those weights. Keep perfect form on every rep in every set for every exercise. When you're gasping for breath, do just one more rep. Then do another. When you're too tired and need to rest more before another set, do the set anyway.

Mastering that mentality will give you the mental fortitude to dominate any other obstacle life puts in your way, whether its in your own business, in a job that you have working for someone else, in school, or in dating.

Do things for yourself, and the rest will come.

Julian_Berryman · 2014-04-13T15:35:09+00:00

Nice one. Just wait till your GF/friends/family start to notice the difference and start fit-shaming you.

Pay their comments no mind. Transcend the conformity they expect of you and continue working on self improvement.

RevBoni · 2014-04-13T17:46:36+00:00

I like tattoos. Please tell me more how I'm an attention whore and you'll notice how I couldn't care less.

WhiteE350 · 2014-04-13T18:31:15+00:00

(FYI) A tatoo costs $100-$1,000 My Audi S5 cost $70,000 I would say a car takes some determination to get as well. I also visit my local gym a minimum of five times a week.

Starrucca · 2014-04-13T18:40:14+00:00

Get that geek-speak out of your vocabulary. If you ever said "so much win" to a female she would instantly forget about every considering having sex with you.

khanline · 2014-04-13T15:55:48+00:00

Spelled "tattoo"

2014-04-13T18:50:36+00:00

First entry was FREE.

You have got a PhD or a cool start-up, you can be an author of a great iPhone app or have a cool website, great, but she just spoke with a PhD start-up owner on treadmill and he looked way better than you.

Chances are he won't. Even if college educated people are more likely to weight lift, the gym is still a fairly accurate sample of the general population. Only 1% of the general population has a PhD. Only 5% or less have start up. This isn't college where almost half of your classmates plan to go to grad school.

Zackcid · 2014-04-13T20:18:22+00:00

Careful with your limiting beliefs. I walked in the gym with similar ideas -- how I'd be insignificant scum because I weighed 145 lbs and just started out lifting. To my surprise, I noticed a lot of looks from girls, eyeing me, smiling, and some finding excuses to talk to me ("euh.. how many sets you got left on that machine? :)" ).

I also noticed that most guys cower from girls at the gym. As soon as you got two hot chicks doing stuff with the dumbbells, suddenly every other guy is uninterested in doing curls.

gocougs11 · 2014-04-14T01:36:57+00:00

but she just spoke with a PhD start-up owner on treadmill and he looked way better than you.

So much this. I work out at my medical school's gym, so nearly everyone in there either already has or is about to have a PhD, MD, PharmD, DMD, or some sort of other very advanced degree. I brought in one of my buddies who usually lifts at Gold's. He's been lifting with me for about a month and always says the level of alpha in the general population there is insane. At golds there are a lot of guys who are trying real hard to get big, and to improve themselves and all that. The guys in the med school gym are just maintaining themselves, most of the self-improvement has already been done.

TP_2 · 2014-04-14T04:44:48+00:00

You seem to be stuck in a phase where you think you have to offer a woman something to get something in return...

Just take what you want and watch the how the tingles dictate her every action.

And stuff like:

Building your body seems superficial but really is not.

Body building is insanely superficial. Not that it matters either way. When it comes winning the rat race at some point you have to ask yourself what you are willing to do to succeed? If you answer is: anything, then you're on the right track. You don't need to make excuses for being superficial if being superficial improves your quality of life ten fold.

iamnotfromtexas90 · 2014-04-14T08:02:48+00:00

tattoos are 99% of the time a bad move you will later at least once in your life regret. Pass on the excessive tats. focus on real life growth.

Rehydrate · 2014-04-13T23:33:44+00:00

First of all, I saw one girl doing lifting. I realized, that fit women who go to such places to exercise see a lot more well-built gentleman, then other women. Perhaps that's the problem with getting a fit woman when you are not fit enough - she already seen a lot of good looking guys this week so she will not be interested. You have got a PhD or a cool start-up, you can be an author of a great iPhone app or have a cool website, great, but she just spoke with a PhD start-up owner on treadmill and he looked way better than you.

So whats your point again?

That she won't choose you (or me)? You give a fuck because? ...

Oh how sad...what will I ever do to gain the affection of some gym slut?...i;m not good enough for her....poor me. I must lift more, earn more, drive a lexus, ... just for the privilege of taking this girl out. And maybe she'll fuck me too...if I prove worthy enough.

ROFL LMFAO.

Women are depreciating, disposable assets. Pretty girls are dime a dozen. The hottest women you meet at clubs fuck for money. Have you not heard of backpage.com ? While you are spitting your alpha bro- game at her, remembering all the techniques you learned the the Internets, I could fuck her silly for $100. No game, no lifting, no MFA (male fashion advice). I don't need to waste my time on pea-cocking for a fucking hooker when she'll happily fuck me for $100.

Lots of 'hot' chicks have fake tits. Form fitting clothes make them look better than they are by pushing and holding everything together.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5XBo12okS7g

Lift if you want. Wear nice clothes and suits if you want. Give Roosh money to learn 'game' if you want. But don't do it because you want to game some slut.

Any pencil dick could fuck hot chicks with hourglass figures for $100. Rates in your area may vary...but the point stands.

$100 is chump change if you make median income and have no dependents...

Unconaction · 2014-04-13T15:48:02+00:00

Dotzie- solid observation, yeah fuck everyone else, you're on a mission and bitches get jealous since they have fucking zero value going on in their life.

For me, path gets lonely, you may find you have to dump the neg friends,plates. I come here to get that interaction with like minded grownup men who say it how it is and get legit advice.

2014-04-14T02:29:16+00:00

/r/nofap

Helps with them gains, and don't forget to jog. If you keep lifting without heavy cardiovascular exercise, you'll become a walking cube of muscle.

If you want muscle with definition, and endurance/strength, then lift/jog. Every time you add 10pds to your bench-press, increase your jog distance by 0.5km.

Title	Went lifting today...
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Date	April 13, 2014 3:07 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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