Whelp, I learned the hard way...

its-iceman · 2016-06-04T21:40:06+00:00

Yeah you should definitely get some heroin. That'll really show her.

Or you can go for a run. Think about your life. Accept this is happening to you without emotion. Seriously, accept it. You can feel the pain, and I'm sure you are, but try to acknowledge it without all the feels.

Look for the bright spots. You don't have kids together, so you're not on the hook for her whore ass for another dozen years. You are young as shit and have how many years left? 30? 40? Maybe even 50? You make good money and easily attracted a cheerleader Barbie to let you stick your dick in her asshole. That's not a coincidence. You'll have lots of prospects in the future. Hit the gym. Check out something like Crossfit maybe, where the shorts are short and the girls are hot.

This pain is just a chapter in your life. People are all seasons and hardly anyone sticks around forever. The only one you can count on is looking back at you in the mirror. Make that person better.

Want to do something stupid? Talk your best single friend into hopping on a plane to the Bahamas. Go to Atlantis. Check out the 18+ pool. There's more available and willing pussy there than anywhere else I've ever seen. Go enjoy your life. That will really show her.

thesixace · 2016-06-04T22:54:39+00:00

All good homie.

"I bought her a LOT of nice things. Anything she wanted, it was hers."

Change this around to:

I'll buy myself a LOT of nice things. Anything I want, is mine"

TerminalForm · 2016-06-04T23:21:25+00:00

Listen man, put the drugs down. Understand that the reality is she could have ass raped you much harder, and at least you got some fulfilling sex out of it.

Look at where you're at now.
Despite having suffered a huge sunk cost, you still have a decent home, a car and a well paying job. It's time to rebuild.

1) Work harder than ever at your job. It will distract you from the pain, increase your chances of getting a raise and will eventually allow you to associate with higher class people.

2) When you come back from work, hit the gym. No point sitting at home and and mourning loss. Lift so that you can achieve mindfulness in the muscle pain itself. This will sculpt your body and tone you mind.

3) Eat healthily. The nutrition you feed yourself is going to go a LONG way to warding off any depression that will come with the recent events. Eating junk will only push you into that spiral of apathy and worthlessness. Eating nutrient rich and protein heavy foods will make you feel like a man.

4) Give it about 3 months of the above monk mode and then hit dating apps. Fuck girls. Extract your vengeance how you please. Prove to yourself that she was a fucking cow and that she truly made the wrong choice. Eliminate in yourself that feeling that you weren't sufficient.

By the time you've done this, you will be 100 times the man you were. And you will have made up for all those lost years.

grewapair · 2016-06-04T23:03:05+00:00

You weren't playing by the real rules.

Now you are. It hurts but that was your wake up call.

FffffatAlbert · 2016-06-04T22:08:02+00:00

That which angers you has control over you. And not being in control is beta bitch to the core.

Right now you are taking the wrong lesson from your experience. As other posters wrote, look at it in a different light and learn from it.

RickJamesBeyach · 2016-06-04T23:23:27+00:00

So you were a sugar daddy and just didn't know it. Look on the bright side: some sugar daddies pay a Consider your payments to her as tuition for your degree from the school of hard knocks. If this experience led you to the Red Pill while you're still young, it was worth it. Give yourself a day or two to get over it and get on with your life.

Borsao66 · 2016-06-05T01:58:35+00:00

"Experience is the best teacher, but invariably the most expensive." - Robert Rapue

Jakei34 · 2016-06-04T23:46:41+00:00

And now you're here. Fuck heroin and weed. You should rather come and see how deep the Rabbit Hole gets here at TRP

Once you go Red...you just go Red and never look back.

WhiteTrashKiller · 2016-06-05T01:27:45+00:00

Dude, why are you upset? You wouldn't get upset at a misquito biting you, would ya? Or a dog for pissing on the rug when u forgot to take him out. It sounds stupid, I know. You have to understand the nature of women.

You exchanged resources for sex, good sex as you call. That is a good thing, you just happen to get attached to it. A positive is she is hopefully making good money, you don't get ass raped by the courts and you've had the poon before that new guy.

There is an old saying that goes"no matter how hot a woman is there is some man, somewhere that is tired of putting up with her shit".

You still have a career, make it better. You've had good sex, go have more, with more women. Don't get your emotions involved in what amounts to a business decision.

"Buck up Lil camper"

blvckmatter · 2016-06-05T01:48:14+00:00

Things can only go up from here if you make the right moves

Btw getting a degree that makes you 6 figures is not a waste of time, that's a big part of success

sqerl · 2016-06-05T02:36:47+00:00

And this example gentlemen, demonstrates the pussy pass. How many more of us will suffer this fate. I'm willing to bet she gloated to her friends about locking down her beta bux provider and relished the Chad she found at college. Women know how men act around them. They know what they can get away with due to their looks. Ever since 2nd grade when little Suzie dropped her book and little Tommy rushed to get it for her. "How cute!" parents exclaim. But we know it's the indoctrination to the pussy pass.... and they complain about male privilege.

OP - no kids? You're lucky. Get your head screwed on straight, you're going to need it. Is the divorce final? If not, it's time to take that brain you cultivated and put it to work. If it is, time for you to put this behind you and put yourself 1st. You got this.

JohnnnyOnTheSpot · 2016-06-04T22:42:32+00:00

Lol classic beta post and classic redpill bet responses

3rdParty2012 · 2016-06-05T00:04:22+00:00

Dude, put down the Valium and pop some Viagra's instead. Take some of that dosh you make, and go plow two Vegas hookers. Then you will see it is all a game. Women do not love men, they love what men can provide them, direct cash for sex transaction should cement this in your mind. Your omega life is done, a new chapter starts today.

WeedDaddy · 2016-06-05T02:19:17+00:00

You did surprisingly well. Most who go the beta route won't get to fuck a recently retired cheerleader. You got a decent mileage of fairly unused broad. The guy coming after you got the short end of the stick.

"Working hard" and focusing on your career is essentially the good old beta way. A low six fig salary won't make a man a Dan Bilzerian in women's eyes.

blasted_biscuits · 2016-06-05T02:54:46+00:00

Scammers don't just prey on people through email. There are the scammers that prey on hearts and know what they're doing the whole time. It's a con game and they're running the long con. Just realize the lesson and don't get conned again.

afkb39sdfb · 2016-06-05T03:21:41+00:00

I'm not 6'4 and rippling steel, therefore my feelings don't matter I guess. I'm not an alpha, I'm not a beta, I'm the fucking omega. That's okay, because I have a bottle of Jack and some Valium.... Maybe I'll see if I can get some weed and fuck it, why not some heroin?

Are you here for a pity party? You're not going to get one.

PlusGoody · 2016-06-05T03:27:54+00:00

You got 7 (+) years of dream girl sex and probably some housework and cooking. No child support, likely minimal alimony, and she's not trying to take your house (if she were her boyfriend would have arrived to throw you out, not move her out). I'm not even sure you were screwed here.

But let's assume you were -- how not suffer it again? Don't wife up a stupid girl. The next one will infect your kids with her bad genes.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-06-04T21:25:30+00:00

What possible reward were you given for all these gifts?

You didn't try anything, you had a covert contract (I give you money and support, you give me loyalty and desire) and it bit you in the ass. You're not a nice guy, you're just a shitty negotiator

ransay3277 · 2016-06-04T21:42:32+00:00

First of all, forget the heroin. Weed... Sure. Secondly, it could be a lot worse. You are able to see your mistakes. Remember... A smart man learns from his mistakes. A wise man learns from the mistakes of others. But a fool never learns. Right now I would suggest hitting the gym, Staying busy and get a good attorney. Now is not the time to swing to the other side completely. Know that there are a lot of guys in worse positions than you. Keep working on yourself, keep reading this and other related forums. Stay busy! Sitting around moping about this is the worst thing you can do. Lastly... Put all thoughts of getting back with her out of your mind. IT IS OVER! In time you will look back on this and laugh (I know it surely doesn't seem that way now.) The guys here will have your back. Good luck to you my friend.

Forcetobereckonedwit · 2016-06-05T01:55:53+00:00

Pain hurts. Physical pain hurts for a minute, an hour, or a month. Emotional pain hurts for a really long fucking time! We ALL go through it. I have had in excess of 1k lovers, many GFs of multi year duration, and I am in the middle of a break up with a plate-turned-GF. I hurt. I get weepy. It suck balls worse than anything else. You are NOT pathetic, you are human. You did all the right things and you probably did all the wrong things too. She's gone. Be happy she didn't pop out three kids and THEN rape your nice guy ass. Get drunk if you need to. Take a HALF a Val if you need to get over the next week. DO NOT KILL YOURSELF. That's an order soldier. Believe it or not, you WILL feel better before too long. You WILL get over her. You are in the exact right place to grieve, rant, vent, confess your beta sins, and start building the new you. You'll make it...and the sooner you can get through some wussy ass grief and start working on the new stud Mailpoops, the better.

tb87670 · 2016-06-05T00:03:55+00:00

She even had the nerve to bring him to my home to help her move her shit out.

If I was you in that situation that is the point I say only she gets in to move her stuff, he enters the house....well, tell him dying isn't a good way to make a living. It's still your house and you can keep out anyone you want except her since she needed her shit. This is why many guys around her say bag up her shit and toss it outside while she's gone during the day or something.

All in all you have my sympathies bud. You got a harder introduction to AWALT than I did, that's for fucking sure. Don't do heroin, too expensive. Have a trip in Mexico like the guy who wrote the article about wanting to die and doing a hooker and drug frenzy then decided to live. He got lucky, came back, got tested, and was clean of std's. You might not be so lucky. But hey down there you can buy anything you want from 'doctors' like opiates, horse tranq's, whatever your fancy. Cartel drugs though can run a bit high even down there.

ecosci · 2016-06-05T01:39:15+00:00

Thats why i always say you have to have options and be ready to exit with little to no emotional scars they are always scheming so dont use drugs, nobody can win against hypergamy but you dont have to sit thier and let it beat the shit outta you get some hobbies and keep moving forward,she will be back running because the alphas will ruin her life but fuck taking her in lesson learned.

Eyes_Of_The_Dragon · 2016-06-05T03:09:02+00:00

You played by the rules women told you, but they rigged the game in their favor. Put the bottle down and pick up the barbells. Live for yourself because killing yourself over her would just give her even more ego validation. The best revenge is living well and never being a sucker again.

suske127 · 2016-06-05T03:14:28+00:00

Damn man. This post had me going until the last line; even if you're being genuine, calm the sympathy card. We all feel bad for you as it is and we're all here to give you brotherly advice because deep down we are all brothers and we all love each other, you know? Screw your ex; we're here for you. No need to grab for our sympathy.

If you really were being 100% genuine then, no! Absolutely do NOT do any crazy shit like heroin. I mean I won't even say to do weed unless you live where it's legal. If drinking is your thing then go for it but don't get wasted every night and make yourself more miserable. You're worth so much dude; if you need an escape then go skydiving. Take a road-trip. Do something that won't harm your body or more importantly, your brain.

If you want to talk about shit then message me; if that's weird then find somebody else. The fact that you're here means you're a smart guy; don't give that up because one chick screwed you

alexbudy · 2016-06-05T03:17:20+00:00

damn. real shit right here. damn

Retspihi · 2016-06-05T03:19:44+00:00

Sorry man. Never give more than 50%

unicorn-carousel · 2016-06-05T03:26:46+00:00

Six years of her dropping and flunking classes I paid for

First problem. TBH I don't think you fucked up even by sending her to school or much else necessarily. I'd have cut her off after MAX 2 years. If she wanted to go back she could put herself through a semester and pass to redeem herself, or a similar agreed upon plan. You might've become beta and complacent as fuck during that time too, seems like you knew how to win and you know she was fucking up before year 6 dude.

Cope however you must, but I think your main mistake was letting her get so far out of line. Move on, find your old ways, repeat but know when to walk away or at least make a better deal next time. Drug wise, nothing but weed. Weed is the shiiiiit for these situations. Think pleasant things as you inhale to fill the air with love /s :) ... just got a new bag delivered myself... Cali is awesome :) :)

Edit: to elaborate more. I and the hottest women I've ever dated (back in HS) are in the $200k+ income range, pretty specialized professionals. Girls are over 30 and still hot. Even after 4 kids, doing Yoga and still very very feminine and fuckable and firm bodied. To keep these women, you need to play provider AND fuck them right. That isn't to say they aren't side bitches to other people ie. are loyal...

JackGetsIt · 2016-06-05T05:19:02+00:00

Just because you missed all that social development and girl chasing skill development time doesn't mean you can't learn it now; and when you do you will have money, game and redpill knowledge putting you at the top of the food chain. This pain will pass and you will be a better man for it. Hang in there.

Expectations1 · 2016-06-05T02:11:26+00:00

3 words.

Read Eckhart Tolle.

wurantine · 2016-06-05T02:18:04+00:00

Look I know my advice may not be the most adequately redpill advice, but it sounds like you need to remember why you enjoy living. Think back to before you met her, what did you want to do? What were your aspirations? Do that I guess, more women is going to do nothing but agree with all you've written about let them find you. Don't go chasing anything, just you know do what you do.

Inoffesnive_Username · 2016-06-05T01:11:43+00:00

I totally agree, OP. Fuck all these white knight f*ggots trying to save you from yourself.

neo9960 · 2016-06-04T22:57:57+00:00

I'm not even going to comment.

munchtastic · 2016-06-04T22:29:26+00:00

Tell her to try heroin ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) . But seriously, nobody should be using heroin. Watch NBA basketball and complain how much LeBron flops during playoff.

awmace5 · 2016-06-05T03:05:46+00:00

Pain is a gift that teaches boundaries and capabilities. Being hurt physically teaches you how to avoid that pain in the future. Being hurt emotionally teaches you the power other people have over you. Being hurt mentally, that is accepting a mindset that clashes with your ideals, teaches you the nature of life.

Title	Whelp, I learned the hard way...
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Date	June 4, 2016 9:16 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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