There are several platitudes thrown around here on trp regarding the subject of "respecting" women. Or in other words: how useless are they ? Some say they are simple baby machines, some say they can do everything a man can but they just don’t want to, and some say that it’s all upbringing and the better they are forged the better they end up.

I'm in the process of swallowing the pill since about two years. I've read all the sidebar material and the top 200 posts and everything I could get my hands on. I've posted stupid shit, talked and commented stuff I didn't understand and have not internalized most aspects. However 90% of the material clicked instantly (in theory at least). But one topic I had a very hard time to get over... the problem having two parts:

First part: I was, basically thinking all my life, that absent of individuals with very low intelligence, men and women and all of humanity are basically capable of doing anything and it’s just a matter of preference and upbringing. This view was taught by school, family and Hollywood movies alike. everybody equal, right?

This view is obviously conflicting with trp, at least to some degree. How could women be useless vagina people and go to university at the same time ?

And the Second Part: I was never the most social guy, but I have some really close really good friends, the kind you know since childhood. I assumed women as equal, so I expected to find a soulmate who would be wife and intimate friend at the same time. A beautiful thought, having someone like that, isn’t it?

The resulting problem while swallowing the pill was the destruction of that fantasy. It was so disheartening. Can I really not be close to her and feel a real connection ? If I can’t have a soulmate, is it really worth it ? Of course I was a pussy!

At some point like a year ago, I tested the dominant, don’t give a fuck, heavy escalating behavior and had instant success. Once you overcome the internal mental blocks and fears and just see and treat them as play-things, the difference in responses you get compared to “normal” polite beta tactics is astounding!

That was a problem for me, because acknowledging this as true within all women results in the following conclusion:

Respect is inherently something which is not laying on the ground ready to be picked up, it is something that can only be earned through action and achievement. You cannot force respect, it is the “other” person who decides based on how they perceive you!

The same way it is impossible for a women to "respect" her tit suckling beta boyfriend who caters to her every wish, it is impossible for men to respect and view women as equally capable because they are not acting on their own, they are reacting to you!

Men and women are different. You can respect her sense for aesthetics. You can respect her dedication and empathy towards a child. You can respect nurses for dealing with old people. You can respect her for making your house a home. You cannot respect her like you respect a man, because they don’t create their own way of life! They join the way of life of a YOU!

NO! You cannot rely on her the way you rely on your friends. You cannot be her soulmate. You can like her quirks, her submissive behavior, her firm tits, the way she presents herself, her company, whatever but never unconditionally. You have to set the boundaries of your relationship and enforce them. You need a way of life (mission) and guide the relationship. And because you do that and she does not, she is not on the same level as you.