30F doesn't want to settle, asks WAATGM?

CoronaDeLaurel · 2020-03-12T22:42:46+00:00

From all the places on this good earth she choose tinder to try to find a husband. She fails... who would have guessed...

Quick-Relationship · 2020-03-12T23:01:47+00:00

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DeeplyDisturbed1 · 2020-03-12T23:28:14+00:00

I got serious three different times...one lasted 5 months, the other a year, and the last one about 4 months.

A saying comes to mind here:

If you meet an asshole in your day, you met an asshole. If everyone you meet all day is an asshole, then YOU are the asshole.

SuperGoxxer · 2020-03-12T23:57:50+00:00

I often think I'll end up alone or settling

Yes, you dumb bint, you will have to adjust your standards to reality. Note that she doesn't describe herself at all, and has no real comments about what she brings to the table.

Wall, meet insufferable female ego.

Vargles · 2020-03-13T00:24:04+00:00

"Im career focused"
wellTheresYourProblem.png

They screamed until they got their way and were given leadership roles en mass and better than average chances at making careers instead of trad life with a loving husband and kids/home to take care of. Why aren't they happy after getting what they want?

RRFdev · 2020-03-13T00:20:32+00:00

I'm career focused and have little to no friends.

All you have to do is log in to meetup.com and join whatever event that's hosted in the weekends. But no, that's too much to ask for a high powaaaaaaaaaared careeerrrrrrrrr independent and stronk womym.

It's not like she doesn't have relationships. She chose not to have any. This echoes exactly what I have been saying about how CC riders tend to not have any friends.

the_cheddar_man · 2020-03-12T22:55:16+00:00

A 30F who thinks hey I am perfect... here is what I want and dont even message me if all you want is to fuck... even though every guy that came before me already got all he wanted... so tired of this

asdf333aza · 2020-03-13T02:50:11+00:00

We are gonna see a lot more of their kind soon.

A 30 year old nowadays is probably from the new generation of girls who are used to getting tons of attention from social media. Probably got a crap ton of swipes on tinder too. Drank the feminist cool-aid that told her having a career would make her feel great and make her desirable.

And now we are at the point where reality hits.

The wall comes along and her looks don't get her the attention, she used to get. Her social media dries up. 100 likes turn to 10.

She realizes that no one will take a 30 year old women seriously. Her best years aew behind her. The successful guys her age are looking for hotter and younger girls. The guys younger than her only want her for sex and probably can't meet her financial standards.

She realizes that being career-focused involves sacrificing a chance to have a family. And she realizes that most men don't care what she does for a living, we care about if she's hot. That fancy job or degrees doesn't add more than a point to your attractiveness. A female's job or career is nearly worthless on the dating market. But the feminist lied to you and said it would make you more desirable?

brcn3 · 2020-03-13T01:02:47+00:00

Her first problem was waiting that long to get serious, her second was going on Tinder to find a serious relationship.

sshevie · 2020-03-13T00:05:24+00:00

I suggest she just start her cat collection already.

linuxlover223 · 2020-03-13T00:32:00+00:00

No paragraphing structure... I refuse to fucking read this wall of text

OldFashionMarine1 · 2020-03-13T01:55:12+00:00

Did she ever think to herself that SHE is the problem? After all, she is the common denominator in EVERYONE of those failed relationships!

1st10Amendments · 2020-03-13T00:21:52+00:00

“Bang your head

“Metal health will drive you mad.”

— Quiet Riot

Chairman_Ellen_Pao · 2020-03-12T23:47:02+00:00

Someone please be kind and gift her some dildos!

houseoftolstoy · 2020-03-13T01:41:26+00:00

Her first problem is she is expecting serious, marriage oriented guys to be on Tinder.

She is also aiming too high in spite of her claims that she is not, since she thinks most guys are in the category of being able to "pick up women and play around." But the only guys with options are able to that, and that is only the top 20 percent. Even accounting for the guys who have that outlook but are not in the top 20 percent (minus the guys who do not play around despite being in the top category), I would bet against it being most. I do not know how guys who are unlucky with love being able to have that outlook, as it implies success.

Her being career focused will also mean she is limiting how much time she can look for a serious relationship. And that along with the other pieces of information tells me she is not actually serious about marriage. Women who are serious about marriage cannot view that goal as something to put on the back burner. That probably also explains how she could be with a guy for 9 years and have no marriage as a result, despite claims that she wants one.

LonelyBobcat · 2020-03-13T02:19:06+00:00

Who wants someone that has such a big break down from casually dating some men? the longest relationship was just a year and she acts like she needs to 'heal' from it.

PhantasyBoy · 2020-03-13T14:07:42+00:00

YOU’RE ON TINDER, retard.

hozarkmoca · 2020-03-13T00:51:22+00:00

Bango Skank wuz here

MachoToughGuy · 2020-03-13T04:57:37+00:00

She no longer goes off of looks because she needs someone to pay her bills, perhaps someone who was not that popular in high school or college and that kid, now successful adult hit the books and makes good money now; someone who she would not even give the day of time to when she was young and hot.

thewatisit · 2020-03-13T08:25:13+00:00

She had her first boyfriend for 9 years. Wonder what happened there?

rvail136 · 2020-03-13T10:34:18+00:00

No hon, most guys have long since realized that if you're on Tinder/phone aps, you're just THOT who is looking to hook up and get laid...adding a notch to your lipstick case. Real dating sites, that aren't mobile based are a different story. But it's like anything else, you have to look very hard before you find your diamond.

So put away the violin and stop playing victim. Good men don't care. Good Men want a Good Woman who won't betray them...who won't wander outsides the bounds of marriage. Good Women are as hard to find as Good Men...

geo_gan · 2020-03-13T14:16:04+00:00

“I’m at a point where I don’t go off of looks” = I only previously went for Chad

Buchwild · 2020-03-13T07:14:56+00:00

Yes, looking for a husband on tinder is a bad move but she was in a long-term relationship for 9 years, it's not like she's hopping from guy to guy.

toolate4redpill · 2020-03-13T10:58:06+00:00

Metal health?

Is it driving you mad,mad mad?

Does it make you want to bang your head?

I-am-the-lul · 2020-03-14T09:25:09+00:00

Going to Tinder to look for a husband works about as well as going to a whore house to look for a wife.

CarlSpacler · 2020-03-14T10:11:01+00:00

Bang your head, metal health will drive you mad! what a damn mess

tankforwin · 2020-03-14T19:38:18+00:00

Is this my ex??? Or just all women are like this.

SirKolbath · 2020-03-14T22:02:58+00:00

So glad she no longer just goes off looks and is searching for a personality to match hers.

Kurt751990 · 2020-03-20T20:38:18+00:00

METAL HEALTH! COME ON ROCK YOUR BOYS! SHE'S GOTTA GRAND CANYON CROTCH! COME ON FEEL THE LOOSENESS! SHE WANTS SOME CHIIIILLLLDDD SUPPORT! CHIIIILLLLD SUPPORT! SHE'S GOING TO HIT THE WALL!

LordFlippy · 2020-03-13T00:39:38+00:00

I don’t see what’s wrong with this one. I don’t feel like she’s done anything wrong or is asking for anything too crazy. Am I missing something?

Title	30F doesn't want to settle, asks WAATGM?
Author	Quick-Relationship
Upvotes	180
Comments	81
Date	March 12, 2020 10:16 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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