Dual-Mating Strategy. Approaching the wall & Alpha widowed: Damaged by the CC, one woman's failed attempt to switch strategies.

AliBarakat · 2019-03-11T21:57:11+00:00

She listened to feminist advice. I'm happy for her.

She should continue to follow feminist advice and eat lots of food, stop dating, and start hating!

harharry · 2019-03-11T21:38:41+00:00

No more bad boys for her.

She had her good years, but let’s be honest; the newer model years are so much better. She might be an antique before she even realizes it.

I sense an eventual divorce rape in a few years. Soon she will have to put in work for dates and occasionally suffer disappointment, oh the horror!

She: the world is ending! Hot guys want someone younger and fresher! Woe is me!

The world has bigger issues than some entitled cunt’s drivel. Perhaps it is time for her to appreciate what feminists say about entitlement and apply that to her dating life as a woman with fewer options.

At the same time, she doesn’t have to like the guy she currently profiled, but if that is the best she can do then she needs to either fly solo or grow up and stop being a spoiled brat in relations now that she cannot get all that she wants.

Consistent_Check · 2019-03-11T21:58:06+00:00

Sounds like the guy has high-functioning autism or Aspergers. Usually a lack of dating or social experience, simplistic attire and being very "nice" are signs of it.

Poor guy. Just being different puts him at a disadvantage, especially with women who had "normal" sexual and relationship histories in their youth.

DogMuh · 2019-03-11T21:26:21+00:00

not attracted to saggy skin beta fat dude. fucks him anyways. basically hates him already and wants to change everything about him. trying to be logical, emotionally not feeling it.. i dont blame her because he sounds like a cringey beta cuck, but why would she fuck him and continue dating ?

Stevefr0mYellowstone · 2019-03-11T23:19:35+00:00

I gotta be honest, I don't find this one that bad. She isn't attracted to him physically. She's explained why. He used to be super fat and the excess skin is disgusting. He doesn't do a good job dressing himself or putting effort in his appearance. He's got self esteem issues. He's got a lack of experience. The sex didn't go well. And if her story is to be believed, I think he may already be putting her on a pedestal. Four dates, in one week? Asking her to be exclusive with him this quickly? With all those issues, its not a surprise that she isn't that into it. This guy's quite a beta.

We talk about being alpha widowed, and while I'm sure she has been, frankly I don't think this guy is all that. This isn't a surprising or unexpected reaction in my eyes.

The best thing for this guy is for her to stop seeing him. She will cheat on him. Its not if, but when. She should look elsewhere and hopefully he'll find someone more into him. Kudos to him for losing all the weight, but he still needs more work.

DeeplyDisturbed1 · 2019-03-11T23:45:06+00:00

First comment:

<He's weird.

Without any context, without his side of the story, or a photo, or video, or a profile, or a love letter, or an anecdote -just some woman's feelings. And HE is weird.

Space Ghost.

Land_of_the_Losers · 2019-03-11T23:08:47+00:00

laborious process of dating as I did when I was in college.

Yeah it must've been really tiring, eating the free dinners and being driven to places. And the free drinks which magically kept reappearing in her hand in nightspots? Exhausting.

JackieChansStuntGuy · 2019-03-11T22:10:25+00:00

Can’t pair bond with Beta Bill eh? From how she talks, she already has no interest in a “nice guy” even before the first date. Why even bother showing up and wasting time? A free meal? It is strange that she put out to him, but he should definitely save that morning after text for the metoo that’s just around the bend.

Just jump back on the carousel, guys will be all over you until you’re 70 lol.

u_dwg · 2019-03-12T02:21:11+00:00

The desperation. She feels her eggs drying up with each passing day. She reaaallllyyyyyyy wants to like this guy but cannot settle for the ex fatty nerd. Her only hope is to lock down 40 y.o. Chad, but that’s not happening either.

Blogginginvicecity · 2019-03-11T23:41:03+00:00

LOL she's straight up sad she can't get into him for the money. Holy fuck! It's so out in the open here, wtf! How sweet of her to put this on display for us.

He fingers her till she bleeds, he makes her cringe, she didn't like fucking him (your dead bedroom is already ready, my guests), she hates how he dresses, why the FUCK IS she with him? Oh yeah, the money, he's a home owning software engineer. She's not even trying to look like she's self aware but I don't think that was ever the goal here.

Oh Lord, the more I read the better it gets. What a juicy one we got here!!!

he just doesn’t like buying clothes and wears the same variation of clothing every day. I feel like it indicates a lack of self esteem which is unattractive.

Is basing your self-esteem on accomplishments outside of the social hierarchy foreign to ladies like this? "He looks like some random shmuck like Jesus was described. Now I understand why Jesus didn't have kids. Bitch probably dressed in robes made for 13 y.o., the fucking imbecile." Perhaps this hyper-awareness of the hierarchy is why women are so insecure, to the point that they're sexually aroused by status symbols on men --the sex which is understood to have the physical potential to be higher in the social hierarchy (aka the provider class). To that point, it's clear here that she's mad he isn't displaying signs of status because she wants to secure his beta bux. But he doesn't care to push the right buttons on her water fountain for her to even get temporarily infatuated! Ha! Alpha-fucking-widowed! (hmm... ...pun intended)

He’s aware that the fact he didn’t date at all in his 20s and lacks much relationship or even sexual experience makes him seem weird and awkward, which unfortunately for me is part of why I’m not feeling it.

Ha! "Open up your feelings to women they said!" She doesn't want to know your beta-bitch back story. Convince her you're a king God already so she can get wet and take your fucking money, put the baby on Facebook, and board up that bedroom already! Man up! C'mon guy...!

houseoftolstoy · 2019-03-12T12:22:50+00:00

He has a great career, interests, can be funny (though other times he’s made me inwardly cringe) and is always so sweet to me. Unfortunately, I find the large amount of excess skin he has (from losing 200+ lbs) impedes my sexual attraction to him. He’s a software engineer and homeowner so he’s not hurting for money, he just doesn’t like buying clothes and wears the same variation of clothing every day.

How much do you want to bet this is precisely the kind of guy she avoided in her 20s? Not saying she should even be with him, but what a difference it makes when she feels the clock ticking. She will have to get used to this new reality.

He’s aware that the fact he didn’t date at all in his 20s and lacks much relationship or even sexual experience makes him seem weird and awkward, which unfortunately for me is part of why I’m not feeling it.

I have a feeling the lack of experience would be less of an issue if this guy was more attractive. It just looks like a smoke screen to hide distract from the lack of physical attraction. Guys who did not get a lot of experience in their formative years get the shaft when it comes to dating later on. The ever present Catch-22 of women demanding guys have dating experience while they collectively would not want to give specific guys dating experience means that guys like these feel doomed. The only real remedy is self improvement to the point where a lack of experience is not an excuse you will be given. If Brad Pitt somehow had a lack of dating experience, do you think women would not want to date him? I think that would not be a hindrance.

Why can’t I just get over it? At 31, should I bother with wanting to feel the chemsitry and excitement I’ve had with past dates and partners?

Chemistry is still important, but she is going to have to de-emphasize it in her dating requirements. She has less time to waste if she wants anything lasting, and getting bogged down on inflated requirements is the last thing she should be doing. Not that she should keep dating this guy, but she should not expect to have as great of pickings.

On one note, is "chemistry" really as much of a thing as it is made out to be? Often, it appears to be a smokescreen for describing someone as attractive in order to hide being shallow. I would hazard to guess she would have had more "chemistry" with a guy with identical qualities but was more attractive.

[deleted] · 2019-03-12T16:55:54+00:00

He’s a software engineer and homeowner so he’s not hurting for money, he just doesn’t like buying clothes and wears the same variation of clothing every day. I feel like it indicates a lack of self esteem which is unattractive.

Funny you say that. They guy actually has so much self esteem that he doesn't give a shit about how other people see him, so he just wears his comfortable clothes all the time.

Also:

He’s aware that the fact he didn’t date at all in his 20s and lacks much relationship or even sexual experience makes him seem weird and awkward, which unfortunately for me is part of why I’m not feeling it.

Too bad for him. He's probably very thirsty and would settle for this stained cum rag just to get a shot at some pussy. He's the perfect guy for this sub.

03slampig · 2019-03-12T00:14:50+00:00

Hard to pair bond when your vagina is bleeding from being fingered.

notyourdude201 · 2019-03-12T00:48:36+00:00

It cracks me up that a woman fails to lock in a relationship with a sexually desirable man...then tries to switch over to settling with an undesirable man and still fails either.

Though maybe it's Western culture, where women are expected to settle down with an undesirable and hook up with desirable ones.

Older_Miggy · 2019-03-12T02:33:49+00:00

I’ve gone on a 4 dates with a guy in the span of barely a week; he’s already told me he wants a shot at an exclusive relationship with me, meanwhile I have not felt the excitement or “butterflies.” The closest I’ve felt to that was the first date, but I’ve since had sex with him and gotten to know him more and realized I’m just not into him for anything romantic.

Jesus, this is pathetic. He thinks he's got a winner on his hands, and she banged him already and STILL feels nothing for him.

For the cost of four dates he coulda bought a decent gun.

[deleted] · 2019-03-12T19:41:04+00:00

This post isn't the best example of what you are trying to illustrate. I know what you're trying to show us and there are tons of examples of it. This really isn't one of them.

This is a typical carousel rider who's either left or gotten kicked off the carousel, and now is looking to "settle down". She's found a guy who she thought was ok, but has found out he's really pretty weird and has a lot of red flags. He's not a funny guy. He's got a sometimes cringey sense of humor. He dresses for shit.

His sexual experience is damn near nonexistent: he has no idea what to do with a pussy. Protip 1: The clit's at the top. Focus on that. That's why they call it flicking the bean, dude. Pro tip 2: if you're making her bleed while fingering her, you're doing it wrong. Or you need to trim your nails.

The guy's a typical omega, weird dude. STEM guy who's fallen in love with the first piece of ass that's ever even talked to him.

Those aren't the guys who typically find themselves in the beta bux situation. Nor are those the guys who get things going but can't seem to keep them going.

The guys who are failing now are the guys who, 50 years ago, would have married these women by age 25, and stayed married to them. They were just regular guys - not Hank HighSchool Quarterback, not Alpha McGorgeous. Just guys who grew up to work in the factory, the foundry, the mine, or on the family farm; or graduated college and worked in some office job. Just regular guys who had some dating experience in high school and probably fucked a few girls before picking one or being picked, and settling down by age 25. Guys who hang out with friends and go drinking on the weekends.

Those are the guys who need The Red Pill. Those are the guys who benefit from the red pill

Not weirdos who are 35 and have never seen a pussy. Not freaks who lost 200 pounds and didn't fix the excess skin and still dress like middle schoolers. Not Aspies with totally inappropriate senses of humor. Guys like these can't benefit from Red Pill because they don't have even the basics. There's nothing there to work with. So of course she's not going to be attracted to him.

So i know what point you were trying to make. I just didn't think this was the best example.

Not_My_Real_Acct_ · 2019-03-12T08:25:49+00:00

On Reddit I see a lot of guys who are focused on lifting weights and eating right, in order to get women. And I'm over here saying "that's terrible advice, go buy yourself a big ass house."

This post is basically "Exhibit A" of what I am talking about. The dude in the story is a fat disaster, has no game whatsoever, and she fucked him the very first week she met him.

I'm not saying that you have to marry these girls, but if you like fucking girls, stop spending so much time in the gym and start spending more time on www.nasdaq.com

anyoneinamerica · 2019-03-12T12:55:35+00:00

She has very little value as a female. Probably fat, ugly, bitchy, etc etc etc. She knows that she cannot attract a high value male and this fat inexperienced geek that she tried to fuck is the best that she can do. However, this epiphany is not good. She won't accept it. She can't accept it. Her delicate sensibilities and warped sense of self worth just won't allow it. So she is reaching out to the hive for confirmation and support in dumping this fat guy. That way she can blame her being alone with 18 cats on some random redittor and not herself.

That hamster has to exercise daily or it will become as fat as she is.

CanaryCherryJewel · 2019-03-18T00:19:46+00:00

Jesus this shit isn’t supposed to be looked at like such an equation LMFAO yall are some FR losers

Title	Dual-Mating Strategy. Approaching the wall & Alpha widowed: Damaged by the CC, one woman's failed attempt to switch strategies.
Author	AWorseManThanYou
Upvotes	91
Comments	70
Date	March 11, 2019 7:01 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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