From a thread about isolation making people realize they want to get married. Memes are realer than life

houseoftolstoy · 2020-05-07T21:42:26+00:00

There is an underlying theme that all men here should recognize with her complaints. Any time spent not on her or for her benefit is looked down on as unimpressive. Never mind the fact that he is taking care of food costs and bills, that does not count since providing is only a "Normal responsibility." Since he does not do enough around the house according to her terms, she is not impressed.

This begs the question, how much needs to be done around the house? Prior to this couple living together, he presumably had the place to himself, meaning he would be solely responsible for upkeep for the house. She had to have seen the place before she would have ever moved in and if it was in poor state of order, wouldn't this issue of him not doing enough around the house have been discovered before they were largely confined to their home, and even more so before she moved in with him? Based on the observation of him supposedly not doing enough around the house only taking place when they were staying at home, it does not appear that he was letting the place become disorderly or unclean, but rather that she believes he should contribute more. His contributions paying for everything? They do not count in her eyes, those are just "normal," and therefore not enough.

I cannot say for sure whose idea it was to get a dog, but if she was the primary advocate for getting a dog, it would be unfair to complain that he was not doing enough for "our" dog. I generally do not like making guesses on information that is incomplete, but I will guess that if he was not taking care of things with the dog, he was not ever that keen of having a dog in the first place. We do know for sure that she brought in a child from a different father, since she did not say "our child." If the child is not his by birth or by legal guardianship, where is his obligation to "do more" with her son? He had no part in the existence of her son, but he still provides groceries and bills that directly benefit her son. Given that she had her son prior to the 3 years of their relationship, I would also guess that he is old enough to be able to occupy his time without constant adult supervision. We also do not know the standard for what is "enough" for her. Considering that paying the bills is simply "normal," this would imply she must be expecting that he treat the child like his own son, which is an unfair standard when he is not the father nor legal guardian.

A lesson that we should all understand is that if you are not appreciated for your contributions in a relationship, then it is not a relationship worth having. It was fortunate for this guy that she decided to break up with him, since the lack of appreciation for providing for the household will only get worse over time. Marriage does not change this either, and in fact would more likely make this lack of appreciation worse, as she would expect him to do more while appreciating the increasing burden he takes on less. A never ending battle where you are never good enough is not a battle worth fighting.

dante-_vic · 2020-05-07T15:34:52+00:00

These women are never happy happy.

JustInconsistent · 2020-05-07T16:03:37+00:00

Lol she fucked up. He didn't actually do anything she just felt like she wanted more.... Well, she isn't going to find more in a pandemic, if at all.

It shocks me how many women are suddenly trying to settle during this pandemic, especially nurses. I've been getting hit up four times as much to "hang out", and even the nurses persist when I tell them that nobody but family is allowed in my house.

They get all worked up when you tell them a little pussy isn't worth succumbing to a pandemic.

VetteVet83 · 2020-05-07T15:37:09+00:00

Lol happy hunting for the new Beta Bux honey. I’ll pass. You might get a pump and dump though…

meerita · 2020-05-07T15:56:38+00:00

Lol fucking low value trash women get pissed when their beta male cuckboi grows even a semblance of balls and decides not to waste time with HER child. Fucking worthless whores who think they can just hop off the cock carousel and expect to find a man to take care of her, AND raise her child. Fucking pathetic, I promise you that stupid bitch will come running back to him when she realizes that she's too lazy to work and raise her own kid.

MC_Batsy · 2020-05-07T16:57:21+00:00

It's a happy ending. She did him a big favor.

SuperGoxxer · 2020-05-07T16:36:07+00:00

Goddamn. Dude does everything to provide and its all "FEELZ over REALZ" from her.

Shit, the virus could not even be in the picture and this broad would have a foot out the door.

"I don't feel alive" -- hard to reanimate that bonding instinct once you've fucked it all away, you whore.

where_muh_good_mens · 2020-05-07T16:22:30+00:00

I don't feel alive... He just never raised my son for me.

Words...I am lost for them.

thefilthyhermit · 2020-05-07T16:35:38+00:00

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shrinkshooter · 2020-05-07T17:07:12+00:00

What the fuck even is this. It's so weak you can tell not even she believes it.

Nothing bad

Great so you admit you're the problem. Well that was easy, case closed everyone, see you tomorrow.

broke up 2-3 times before moving in together, broke up 2 times in the year living together

Yeah no this was never gonna work. I'm sure those were "nothing bad" times too, but if I were her bf I'd have noticed the pattern a lot earlier and noped my way out of it. On an somewhat related note, moving in together, in this day and age, seems pretty much just a net negative bad idea all around. She has to be really something to go that far, because whatever your relationship currently is, it's going to take some hits after trying to live together. If it's already rocky, it's going to be a clusterfuck of problems. Don't live together with your girlfriend unless your relationship is fucking amazing.

just roommate vibes

Oh yeah, it's his fault for not being some super handyman performer. Yeah I bet you're some incredibly ambitious chick who's climbing up in the world, has a massive circle of friends you maintain, and keeps five or six side projects going on at once. I bet your life is just super busy. I bet you absolutely don't lay there like a ragdoll in bed.

Fuck this shit man. It's like listening to a morbidly obese hamplanet complain about how the people they see at the beach aren't fit enough.

edit: now that I think about it, I wonder if the dude just doesn't care because he's expecting the next breakup. I mean, was expecting this breakup. If they've broke up that many times in the past, he was probably just "whatever" about the relationship. I'm wondering if the guy had some side chick, that would be amusing. He acted like "just a roommate" because he had no metaphorical fucks left to give, only physical ones.

Cristoff13 · 2020-05-07T20:00:07+00:00

Once a woman domesticates a man, she loses sexual attraction to him, starts viewing him as a scapegoat for all her problems, starts seeing that nothing he ever does for her is good enough, and just resents him in general.

Honest_Solution · 2020-05-07T15:57:20+00:00

I bet he’s glad you finally are getting your narcissistic ass out of his life......FINALLY! You did him a favor.

death_ray_mx · 2020-05-07T17:58:34+00:00

so she expects everything from men, including interacting with her fuck trophy… no wonder men ar going their way

redditthrow32 · 2020-05-07T18:13:15+00:00

Why do we have to impress these losers? They dont impress us

IcariusFallen · 2020-05-07T20:01:03+00:00

"Which is the normal responsibility anyway". I had a girlfriend tell me this when she was refusing to do chores around the house I was letting her stay in for free, refusing to get a job, and I refused to buy her any mcdonalds or extras (weed, alcohol etc).

I told her "I pay all the bills so you have a place to live, if you're not contributing anything and I'm having to come home to take care of the house too, then I'm not going to do any more than provide the basic essentials... and even that you should be grateful for, because I don't have to do even that."

Her response was "No, you're my boyfriend it's YOUR JOB to take care of me!". "No, you're adult. It's YOUR job to take care of you. I HELP you take care of you because I care about you, but I don't have to, especially if you're not going to appreciate it."

Cue her saying "Well I do contribute, I have sex with you!" and my response? "Yeah, you enjoy that more than I do. Add that to the other favors I do for you."

She was out to the curb about two months later for consistently fucking up. I hate the mentality that women have, in which they think it's "The boyfriend's JOB" to maintain their financial debts. No, you're an adult, you deal with your own shit. You should be ENHANCING my life, not draining it, otherwise you're not worth my time.

DarthRevanAF · 2020-05-07T20:32:02+00:00

Lmfao, wow. Disney princess syndrome is real. Welcome to the time of women who grew up watching the Bachelor then developing unrealistic expectations.

Older_Miggy · 2020-05-07T20:49:41+00:00

Bitch wasted three years of his life. Hope he's a young'un and finally learned.

askmrcia · 2020-05-07T18:43:20+00:00

They come up with any reason to make themselves look like the victim. So I'm wondering if he's bringing in the resources (groceries and cash) what is she doing?

If its such a normal responsibility then why doesn't she do it? Oh well she did the guy a favor and he can move on. Wasted enough time on this single thot mom

SylvestorTalone · 2020-05-07T19:27:41+00:00

A single mother has a man to pay all her bills and she gets rid of him because she wants more. We really do live in strange times.

prestidigibator · 2020-05-07T21:22:28+00:00

I keep getting irked about how it seems to have become common place that paying for everything is just baseline, like if you don’t do that you are worthless and should do that because that’s what men are for. Read any AITA post about a dude that works for a living and you will see a slew of comments chiding and always assuming he doesn’t do anything else and that makes him a horrible “partner”. You see, he has a job that pays the bills but she cleans, takes care of the kids, goes grocery shopping, you know the stuff that matters and deserves a damn medal.

All this seems to be pretty simple manipulation to shift value to raising oneself by bring the other down. Nothing to do with making men better.

thefilthyhermit · 2020-05-07T19:54:28+00:00

Wow. Homeboy dodged a bullet.

MattyK414 · 2020-05-07T20:29:25+00:00

Yes. It sure is sexy that he has to look at another man's BALLS all day (her kid).

FreedomFromIgnorance · 2020-05-07T21:06:41+00:00

Providing groceries and paying bills is “the normal responsibility”? For myself, sure, but for you and your kids? No thanks.

tommygavin265 · 2020-05-07T21:17:19+00:00

Normal responsibilities of paying the bills and interaction with HER kid.... That dude dodged a bullet

2020-05-07T21:43:11+00:00

So, what did SHE do?

plainnsimpleforever · 2020-05-07T23:07:47+00:00

"I just don't feel alive in the relationship"

It's the tingles. They want the infatuation phase of a relationship to last forever. Look, I understand that men have to keep our game up in the sex department since we are (usually) the dominant ones in bed, but nothing can be done if the woman feels entitled to a lifetime of tingles.

hittincervix · 2020-05-08T02:16:05+00:00

Interaction with her bastard? These women are insane and entitled. I refuse to date single moms for that exact reason. I didn't help make that kid I'm not going to help raise his Dino nugget eating ass.

Editors note: I will smash single moms from time to time cuz they keep cold capri suns and Welch's fruit snacks!

NinjaDingo · 2020-05-07T20:53:59+00:00

I legit thought this was a meme. Holy shit, her thought process is legitimately crazy.

tosernameschescksout · 2020-05-08T07:28:24+00:00

She: *crossing her arms* I just want ... MORE!

I wonder how close we are to the tipping point where single men live longer than married men. It's stressful dealing with high expectations that aren't even logical, and knowing that any of your relationships can end at any time over some very arbitrary shit. Women are always holding the relationship hostage. I don't like hostage situations, I want something real.

Women don't know it, but when they always act like that, they devalue relationships significantly. When guys are treated unfairly enough times, it conditions them to just stay out, avoid emotional investment or time investment. We become a little bit passive because we know that our best will never be good enough anyway, so why bother giving it when women are going to dump your ass anyway? Why bother forming a bond and making commitments for trash behavior like that?

will85319 · 2020-05-08T10:10:44+00:00

Its hilarious, women act like i did when i was a drug addict teenager, but instead of ending up in prison like me they just poison society for 7 decades and die.

Charmingaxelotl · 2020-05-08T07:02:58+00:00

I bet the dog was her idea.

2020-05-08T08:34:34+00:00

I would like to know what she did exactly to IMPRESS HIM. And to merely exist does not count as an achievement. Same for bringing a child from another man. So....What else?

BurdenedChad · 2020-05-09T05:40:08+00:00

Most women don't have the same ability to entertain themselves that a guy does. While he was practicing Spanish on duolingo or reading a book he's wanted to for years, she was stewing in her own juices and going insane.

I think we're only beginning to see how many relationships are wrecked by the quarantine. Especially the gold-diggers who married men they don't really respect. There's no more shopping trips or brunches to take the edge off.

ClapsD · 2020-05-08T00:39:38+00:00

Who's to blame when a person knowingly dives into a pile of shit?

Can't feel sorry for the dude...

She did him a favor, though.

mediocre000 · 2020-05-08T09:57:59+00:00

Oh no, that guy didn’t interact enough with her bastard while still providing for both of them. She is such a waste of space.

chalulin · 2020-05-08T06:11:30+00:00

So he was expected, nay, required to pay all of the bills, take care of the dog, and raise her child. All while not complaining at the privilege of doing all those things.

What is she doing in this relationship? Aside from assigning him more things to do?

grrrtrude · 2020-05-08T14:19:11+00:00

I should have to do nothing and he should cater to my every desire. 🤮

NeverNeverLandIsNow · 2020-05-08T15:00:12+00:00

Hopefully once she leaves he wises up , changes the locks and blocks her.

KingPiperine · 2020-05-08T01:18:10+00:00

Fucking femoid cunt

fuddubandha · 2020-05-08T00:24:08+00:00

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Title	From a thread about isolation making people realize they want to get married. Memes are realer than life
Author	noobie107
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Comments	107
Date	May 7, 2020 3:11 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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