How do I get back the decent guy I'd previously taken a dump on?

Rabano11 · 2020-04-26T23:28:40+00:00

LMAO she’s too dumb to realize that the only reason she’s in to him is because he’s emotionally unavailable to her! Talking bout I did some introspection. The fuck you did.

He came off as needy: meh, not into that.

He respected her rejection and went cold: hmm, did I make the right choice...?

He’s still distant after she came back: oh my god, I’ve always had a crush on him I was just to blabla hamster rationalization. God forbid she could see how degenerate her mind is. That would crush her.

This will always be the difference between men and women: we have the ability to self reflect and come to terms with pathetic, weak parts of ourselves and improve. Women would break.

Never forget: women are women, men are made.

RealMcGonzo · 2020-04-26T22:39:59+00:00

the thought of a caring relationship was a bit scary for me in the past.

Heh. That was just as "scary" in the past as it is today, which is to say not at all. It's just not as fun as fucking lots of hyt guys is. This chick would still rather be fucking lots of hyt guys, but the ones she gets now aren't as hyt so it's no longer fun. So it's time to settle. Heaven help this poor guy if she gets her way. The whole time they are together, she'll be comparing him to all the hyt guys she liked fucking more. Guys - you don't want to be leftovers. Not just because it's pretty disrespectful of her. Not just because you'll think poorly of yourself. But also because she's never as happy with leftovers as somebody who thinks of you as prime.

If they do get together, she'll know for a stone cold fact that she can walk all over him. She can dump him for a weekend of trains with Chad, Chet, Tyrone and Pookie, then he'll take her back on Monday.

HornsOfApathy · 2020-04-26T22:52:24+00:00

I wasn't in the right head space a few years ago

Translation: I thought I had a few years left back then, but wow, the wall sure has hit me hard and I finally want to settle down with a beta-bucks and pop a few kids out that I'm mildly attracted to because the men I was chasing before don't want me now. He's a good enough man. I will stick around for a few years until the pussy tingles overwhelm me for the hot guy in the other office - then I will take half of this guy's shit because we just didn't work out.

Just further proof that if you want an LTR - you shouldn't fear Chad. Become a better version of Chad.

ransay3277 · 2020-04-26T23:21:11+00:00

Sounds to me like he is smart enough to not fish off the company pier.

EvilKlownz2 · 2020-04-26T23:22:25+00:00

This covid shit is brings out a lot of these types of posts. He moved on, you failed. Deal with it and fuck off.

dwc151 · 2020-04-27T00:34:01+00:00

That wall is pretty fucking hard isn't it?

H-4350 · 2020-04-26T22:47:54+00:00

I have no doubt she’s put in the hard yards over the last few years.

Jake4523 · 2020-04-26T23:02:31+00:00

He has already moved on, she lost this 3 years ago when she shat all over him. Good luck to her, she is gonna need it

Top_Poppy · 2020-04-26T23:32:30+00:00

Zero fucks given about the the feelings of her "puppy" at the time, but fear not - she has been

I have definitely put the hard yards in with developing boundaries and sticking to my values

Bless

I was thinking about messaging him and telling him that while I wasn't in the right head space a few years ago, I'd love a second chance. I'm just not sure based on our current interactions. Pls halp.

Leave the guy alone. You missed your shot.

Also, note the little girl "Pls halp" there.

DeakinFrost · 2020-04-27T01:42:32+00:00

Translation:

I view him as beta and he wasn't quite Chad enough for me, needed to be taller, more shredded, and respect me way less and make me work for the attention I so desperately need. Plus I was in my prime as young fertile woman and thus didn't want to give up riding the carousel like a Comanche on a Warpath but wanted to use him for validation that if I wanted to be taken out and respected in a traditional dating environment I could at any moment when I choose regardless of the embarrassing rejection I would subject him to that I was completely aware of because I knew if I'd fuck him in the first 30 seconds of interacting with him.

Now that I'm getting older and can't just keep moving cities and jobs and manipulating my boss' due to competition with much younger women in the office I've decided that this beta is ideal because I know I can fuck with his head because its clear that he avoids me because I rejected him because again in my head it's because he can't get over me and wants me so bad, so he has to avoid me, nothing to do with embarrassment or the reality that you can't be friends with the opposite sex or even the fact that I described the date in pane staking detail to everyone we work with for attention.

So how can I trick him into giving me resources and showering me in validation while I scan all around me for a Chad to monkey branch to whilst simultaneously coming up with mediocre made up reasons why I'm "abused" and "deserve more"?

chalulin · 2020-04-26T23:16:48+00:00

1) she rejected him and he was smart e Pugh to get out of her life. If he repricocates she might accuse him of MeTooing her. Don't take that chance.

2) I still had a lot of rides on the carrousel so took that until I ran out of tockens. Now that I'm done with fun things I'm going to let him win the jackpot by telling him that he's the big winner who I choose at the end.

VigilantRedRooster · 2020-04-27T00:52:19+00:00

That's the ultimate SIMP test: reject them, wait, then give them a breadcrumb to see how hungry they are. If you succeed you've got yourself a great SIMP ready to be plugged into the plantation!

CSM_Pepper · 2020-04-27T01:03:19+00:00

"hard yards", "developing boundaries", and "sticking to my values". What TED talk or daytime TV sewer did she copypasta this "speaking muh troof" dreck from?

Honest_Solution · 2020-04-27T01:54:39+00:00

Now wait just a min. I thought guys friend zoned themselves? Isn’t that what we were told? So why did she friendzone him and then try to keep talking to him? I’ve always been told women don’t try to force it on you and yet here she is admitting she tried to force a friendship on him.

MundaneGrab8 · 2020-04-27T02:50:20+00:00

Translation-“I know he really liked me before but that made him less attractive, now I’m getting older and my age is starting to show and I’m scared I’m gonna end up alone. Now the same guy is ignoring me and that makes him attractive! Teehee So how do I weasel back in to his life?”

anon_likes_tendies · 2020-04-27T01:39:31+00:00

“WhY dIDn’T hE aSk TeN tIMeS?!?!?!?”

theDukesofSwagger · 2020-04-27T03:56:21+00:00

You don’t deserve a second chance

Overkillengine · 2020-04-27T08:56:00+00:00

Thot missed her shot. Dude was smart enough to move onto other targets or at least not waste any more effort on her. Hopefully he stays that smart instead of putting the pussy blinders back on, because her interest only appears to be contingent on the following:

He's not following her around and sniffing her ass like a dog.
She has not been able to find/lock down any better men.

The moment any of those change, so will her interest.

downwardlyspiraling · 2020-04-27T00:26:25+00:00

“Hard yards.” Yeah.

TheSecondComing97 · 2020-04-27T08:08:04+00:00

Reading all this BS has made me realize that all fucking women these days seem to have some fucking problem they gotta “work through” before they’ll date a genuine person.

I’m not saying I’m perfect, but fuck me man. Women on another level of issues.

2020-04-27T02:43:10+00:00

He's distant because it's been 3 years and there would have been multiple diks in her already in that time. Such is modern women.

4Sammich · 2020-04-27T06:52:23+00:00

I love how they try to pretty up their love of the bad boys as being “emotionally unavailable”. The guys used them like human flesh lights and the hamster Change’s it into emotionally unavailable because if Chad ever came back into the picture, emotionally available, she’d be on that cock faster than Rosie O’donnel On a ham sammich.

Typo-MAGAshiv · 2020-04-27T09:03:08+00:00

"While I had a lowkey crush on him, I wasn't super into it..." - which one is it? I've been out of the dating world for quite some time now, so maybe the meaning of "crush" has changed.

*googles*

a brief but intense infatuation for someone, especially someone unattainable or inappropriate.

That's the meaning I've always known. It seems she's lying to herself, that she liked him all along rather than settling after failing to lock down someone better.

DevilComeKnockin · 2020-04-27T12:04:42+00:00

Guarantee she's put on 30lbs since then as well. The hamster is powerful, but they sure gotta feed it...

2020-04-27T12:47:16+00:00

"really worker on my tendency to like guys who are emotionally available"

"I was getting pumped and dumped by assholes for years and now I want a REAL man."

God, they're all the same, aren't they?!

MC_Batsy · 2020-04-27T13:56:36+00:00

This is the kind of asinine BS (almost exclusively) guys deal with when it comes to dating. 1. You like him, but no! She tried to friendzone him. 2. You rejected him, but you complain he's emotionally distant?! You're the one who pushed him away. It's your fault he's emotionally distant from you.

Here's the thing: She could easily fix this by being up front with him, and take responsibility for being a wishy-washy flake, and then deal with the consequences. However, like most women, she's not willing to take any tangible risk.

What's the worst that could happen? You get rejected? You know... like when you rejected him.

I think the dude is better off. He dodged a bullet. She made her bed. She should just lie in it.

evergreen35 · 2020-04-27T10:00:25+00:00

Sigh... More proof that the Female brain is Trash. No matter how hot she is on the outside, her hard drive is just corrupted beyond repair.

Aldabruzzo · 2020-04-27T15:40:28+00:00

These are fun to translate.

About 3 years ago, when I was 30, I started talking to a guy i work with. He was in his late 30s. He asked me out, he tried to get in my pants, I wasn't feeling it. I mean, I liked him OK and he just wasn't all that hot, to be honest. I didn't really want to fuck him. I hadn't yet hit the wall and had a couple of other guys in the rotation, so I friendzoned him. He respected that, and basically told me he wasn't interested in my fake friendship offer.

So, now I'm 33, the wall is fast approaching or I've hit it already, and I can feel my reproductive tract drying up and my eggs desiccating in there. I really need to get this baby thing going like pronto. I need a ~~sucker~~ ~~dumbass beta bitchboi~~ guy with a good job to marry me, support me, and pay for the shit I need when I get pregnant. I've also learned to avoid players and guys who will just pump and dump me.

Well, now that I need a guy, Mr. Late30sM is back around. I think I like him even more now that I need those sweet beta bux. Oh ye$, he'$ $o nice! $ometime$ we girl$ can be $o $tupid. I need thi$ guy.

Please tell me how I can get him to like me again so i can use him, exploit him, marry him, strip mine him for resources, and then leave his dried out husk for dead once I decide I'm done with him?

CuriousIncel2 · 2020-04-27T05:02:52+00:00

Can someone translate "low key crush"? It's the first time I've heard that.

jannieseatmyass · 2020-04-27T11:56:25+00:00

Absolute king by not crawling back.

Ithomasfreedom · 2020-04-27T14:13:21+00:00

Ever notice how these women do things backwards. They develop morals and values after being totally immoral and wishy-washy.

licknsuckus · 2020-04-27T12:39:47+00:00

There are no survivors from the wall! She hit it hard and now men look right past her like she is not there anymore.

bchoco · 2020-04-27T07:26:05+00:00

Took fucking 3 years of cock carousel to put in her femoid brain that she should've had the fairytale ending if she only stick with his personality and capacity of the man to provide/simp for her.

jihocech · 2020-04-27T15:12:47+00:00

Alpha bux did not happen? What a surprise.

TheApricotCavalier · 2020-04-27T05:03:14+00:00

The more I read, the less I knew. It just drones on & on

houseoftolstoy · 2020-04-28T03:19:00+00:00

Fast forward 3 years and I feel like I have grown a lot and worked on my tendency to like guys who are emotionally unavailable.

Translation: My biological clock is ticking very loudly and I am hoping to make it seem like I have changed so that the guy I rejected will be a fallback option. I am hoping that I can rope this guy in and get the marriage and children (that I want someday) that all women claim to want but act as if that is the lowest priority even if I insist it is what I want the most. I am trying to convince myself I have truly changed to liking the kind of men I rejected before, because that will totally make it so I don't get bored a guy like this if I do end up getting married.

MuscleT · 2020-04-27T19:07:59+00:00

"I remembered what a great guy he was."

Thetrvler · 2020-04-28T13:26:42+00:00

In other words she thinks she can play the same idiotic games as she did her entire life until 30 and thought the guy would stay around.

snginc · 2020-04-28T18:15:56+00:00

You only get 1 chance to make a first impression and you have fucked that up!

She needs to move on and don't contact him anymore. You wasn't ready when he was, he hasn't been waiting for you!

MosleyCirca36 · 2020-04-29T08:23:31+00:00

"OMG I'm just not feeling it. Like I'm not in the right headspace. I'm low key crushing. I'm not super into it."

This sounds like something written by a teenage girl. Kudos to this guy for dodging the bullet of a 33 year old woman who still acts and thinks like a child.

2020-04-28T01:33:13+00:00

Trying to keep up with the broad's mind games must be exhausting. Hell! Just to read about it is enough for me to want to lay down and take a nap. They just crave dramas and shenanigans, do they? They're just relentless.

2020-04-28T07:08:06+00:00

so retarded, i can't even handle reading this shit anymore, they are so fucking stupid its incredible

Title	How do I get back the decent guy I'd previously taken a dump on?
Author	Top_Poppy
Upvotes	394
Comments	74
Date	April 26, 2020 10:20 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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